How to win your husband back when you don’t feel like you’re his priority


Emily Brady
How do you keep the relationship alive and well once the honeymoon phase starts to fade?

  • The first year of marriage definitely has its difficulties, but there’s a reason it’s referred to as the “honeymoon phase.” Your relationship is still fairly new, and you’re still figuring out how to be a husband and wife.But as that starts to die down, it’s normal to feel like your husband doesn’t prioritize your relationship. Maybe he’s more focused on his job, saving money or focusing on his hobbies.It’s not that he doesn’t love you, but maybe you just feel less special as he made you feel during your honeymoon phase.



    Here are 6 ways you can win your husband back when he chooses other things over you:

  • 1. Make plans with him

    Once the excitement of a new marriage wears off, life can sometimes feel mundane. You two go to work, come home in the evening, eat dinner, watch a little Netflix, you go to bed and do it all over again the next day.

    Making plans together can help keep that spark alive and keep you two getting to know each other as you adjust to this new chapter in your relationship.

  • 2. Ask him about the specifics of his day

    When you understand what goes on throughout his day, he’s more likely to talk to you about it. Ask him about that meeting, that difficult coworker or that presentation he’s been preparing. He’ll appreciate your concern, and he’ll more likely involve you when you want to be a part of those dull parts of his life.

  • 3. Talk with him about splitting responsibilities in the home

    Maintaining a home shouldn’t just be the woman’s job. Marriage is a partnership, and a man should have responsibilities in the home, just like his wife. If he doesn’t feel like his work matters in the home, he’ll likely put his energy toward something else – somewhere he feels more appreciated.

    This is also a great opportunity for a husband and wife to work together. Do chores together, cook together and go grocery shopping together. It makes daily responsibilities more fun anyway!

  • 4. Thank him for all that he does

    Going along with sharing responsibilities in the home, it’s important to acknowledge him for all that he does and thank him for it. Men don’t like feeling like they’re unappreciated, so if he’s avoiding the home and not making you a priority, it might be because he doesn’t feel like you appreciate what he does. When you acknowledge all the hard work he does inside and outside the home, he’s more likely to want to be around you.

  • 5. Write him love notes

    On my desk this morning #iloveyouforeverandalways #iloveyou #lovenotes #cheeseball #imaluckylady

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    Leave him notes in his coat pocket to find while he’s at work, or hide them in other fun places for him to find throughout the day. It’ll have him thinking about you while he’s busy with other things, and he’ll be excited to come back home to you at the end of the day.

  • 6. Talk to him

    A relationship can’t flourish if there isn’t healthy communication. If you feel like your husband is putting other things before you, talk to him about it. Be patient and loving so it doesn’t sound like you’re attacking him. Be honest about how you’ve been feeling recently. Chances are, he isn’t aware of how he’s been making you feel. You two can talk it through and make a plan on how to improve things to focus on your relationship. If your relationship still isn’t going smoothly, marriage counseling might not be a bad option.

    Every relationship has its ups and downs, and just because you might feel like the spark is dying doesn’t mean your husband doesn’t love you anymore – it just means this is a new chapter of your love, and you two need to talk about how to face these new, unfamiliar hurdles. As long as you know how to talk to each other with complete honesty, you’ll get through your challenges to become even stronger than before.


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