5 Things You Gradually Learn as You Let Go of the Uncontrollable

5 Things You Gradually Learn as You Let Go of the Uncontrollable


Angel Chernoff

It can be difficult to embrace change or leave an old way of life behind, even when your inner wisdom tells you that it’s time to let go and move forward. At this point, you can choose to rise up and endure the pain of leaving behind the familiar to make way for a new chapter in your life, or you can stay stuck in the past and suffer a constant, aching pain that gradually eats away at your heart and mind, like cancer… until you wake up one day and find yourself buried so deep in the dysfunction of the situation that you barely remember who you are and what you desire.

Don’t do the latter to yourself!

Things will continue to happen that are unexpected, undesirable, and uncontrollable. But you can always choose to take the next tiniest step. Be brave and take it…

Be willing to be open to new realities, learn from them, grow, and move along.

Truth be told, it’s always necessary to accept when some part of your life has reached its inevitable end. Closing the door, completing the chapter, turning the page, etc.—it doesn’t matter what you title it; what matters is that you find the strength to leave in the past those parts of your life that are over and changed.

It’s all about embracing the truth: What has happened is uncontrollable; what you do now changes everything!

Of course, knowing this and actually living a lifestyle right now that reinforces this truth are two very different things. Letting go of the old way is NOT easy—it’s a journey that’s traveled one day at a time. But if you start today and stick with it, here’s what your journey will ultimately teach you in the weeks ahead:

1. The most powerful changes happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over everything you don’t.

2. Most people make themselves unhappy simply by finding it impossible to accept life just as it is presenting itself right now.

3. The secret to getting ahead today is to focus all of your energy not on fixing and fighting the old and unchangeable, but on building and growing something new and different.

4. Stepping onto a brand new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation that no longer fits, or no longer exists.

5. Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care about something or someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only thing you really have control over is yourself in this moment.

Think about how these points relate to your present life…

Your present response is always more powerful than your present circumstance. A part of your life is unquestionably decided by completely uncontrollable circumstances right now, yet the vast majority of your life is decided by your responses to these kinds of circumstances. Thus, the goal isn’t to get rid of all your painful thoughts, feelings, or life circumstances. Because you know that’s impossible. The goal is to change your response to them today…

The goal is to find the motivation you need to take a step forward, despite the circumstances!


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