AM I IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP? 17 SURE SIGNS!
Are you being abused without even realizing it? Use these self-reflecting signs to find the answer to your question, ‘Am I in an abusive relationship?’
You love your partner.
And your partner loves you.
And the world’s a beautiful place.
But what do you do when abuse finds a way to seep into your romance?
Of course, as humans, we won’t be sitting ducks just waiting to be abused by someone else.
The fifth level of the Sound Relationship Workplace is Manage Conflict. There is so much to be said about the process of conflict management amongst colleagues. In this article, I would like to focus on the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Identified by Dr. Gottman in his research with couples to predict divorce with over 90% accuracy, the Four Horsemen can be present in workplace relationships as well — very much undermining productivity if not actively managed. In essence, the Four Horsemen are detrimental to an office environment and work culture.
Think about a recent conflict that you had with a colleague. Did you address it directly? If so, what was the process by which it was discussed? Did you both feel heard and understood by the other? If not, did the conflict get ignored? Did it fester? How did you speak about your differences? Was there any criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or stonewalling involved?
Dr. Gottman has utilized his research findings to differentiate the Masters of relationships from the Disasters. In particular, he found that the Disasters were different from the Masters in how they talked to one another during conflict. During a conflict discussion, the Masters had a ratio of 5:1 positive interactions to negative interactions, while the Disasters had a ratio of 0.8:1.
HOW TO BE A PARENT YOUR CHILD WANTS TO TALK TO
As a child therapist, the most common complaint I hear from parents is, “He just won’t talk to me.” Feeling estranged from your own child is painful, and it has implications for the child. Research indicates the most important predictor of a child’s emotional and psychological stability is the closeness of the parent/child relationship. Obviously, if the child is not opening up when they are upset, the relationship is not as close as it needs to be.
There are two habits that parents routinely engage in that shut down communication and drive a child away: negating feelings and mistaking sympathy for empathy.
Sympathy vs. empathy
HOW TO STOP LYING TO YOURSELF AND TO YOUR PARTNER
Ever feel like you lie a lot for no apparent reason? If you’re a serial liar, learn how to stop lying to the people that matter by using these tips. By Bella Rayne
It’s alright to lie.
Sometimes, a white lie can be better than the harsh truth.
Almost all the time, lying is an easier and safer alternative.
As long as you know how to manipulate the truth, lying can feel so good. And easy!
WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?
Many young men and women wonder about what the average age of marriage is, and what is the right age to get married. But instead of asking yourself what the best age to get married is, ask yourself these questions.
The average age to marry is unique and different across the world.
But what is the right age to get married? And how can you ever tell if you’re too young to marry?
The questions are many, but you know the truth, right? You can marry at any age, as long as both of you are in love.
DISTRACTED WHILE PARENTING? HERE’S HOW TO BE MORE ATTENTIVE
Parenting is often described as one of the best and most stressful jobs that a person can take on. Becoming a parent is an incredible responsibility that comes with a new set of rules, and the need to constantly be “on.” So what happens when parents go from being “on” top of things to being distracted and “on” their phone maybe a little too often?
The term for this phenomenon is distracted parenting. You may not have heard this term before, but you’ve likely seen it in action. Here are some examples of distracted parenting:
- An entire family on their phones at a restaurant, not even making eye contact.
- At a playground, a child is misbehaving and would likely be corrected if their parent was not texting.
- At an event and one kid is running out of the door with no adult present and you think, “Where is the adult?”
MIDLIFE CRISIS FOR WOMEN: 13 WAYS THAT SET THEM APART FROM A MAN
No one said life was easy. Sometimes, as women, there are moments where we think, “Is this really my life?” But maybe you’re just in a midlife crisis for women.
If you think you’re experiencing a midlife crisis for women, don’t worry. In fact, if you use this crisis to your advantage, you can motivate yourself to accomplish the things that you wanted to but didn’t have the chance to or were too scared to.
Maybe you wanted to become an actress but were scared to audition or you didn’t get into a program that you wanted. And now, you feel incomplete, which is completely normal. Sure, you may be a bit older and think that it’s too late, that your life is over. Well, first of all, it’s never too late, and your life doesn’t end until you allow it to.
25 REVEALING QUESTIONS TO GET TO KNOW A GUY YOU ARE INTERESTED IN
Asking specific questions to get to know a guy is a great way of determining whether or not they are relationship material. It’s my secret weapon.
The best way to learn more about a guy? Asking the right questions to get to know a guy is the most straightforward way to get there. And I have just the way to do it.
Okay, so admittedly this is something I did when I was 16, and I still do it because I think it is fantastic. We played “21 Questions” which ended up being anywhere from 10-60 questions. Basically, you just ask each other questions until one of you tire of it, or you fall asleep.
HOW TO KEEP YOUR ATTITUDE UP WHEN LIFE BRINGS YOU DOWN
“I’m exhausted and so very tired of all the anxiety, negativity and stress. Too often my mind is consumed with draining thoughts, and every muscle in my body seems tense. It hurts. I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I don’t want to feel like I live in a whirlwind of constant pressure and exhaustion. I don’t want to just ‘get by’ day to day…”
Those are the opening lines of a story an attendee at our “Think Better, Live Better 2018” seminar shared with me (her commentary was recorded live and I’m sharing this with her full permission). She went on to tell me that expecting negative things to happen has been her way of approaching life. If you can relate in any way at all, it’s time to revamp your mindset.
Our minds are incredibly powerful. They can bring us down or lift us up at a moment’s notice. How we think about things literally changes everything!