1 THING UNHAPPY PEOPLE REFUSE TO DO FOR THEMSELVES
Life is really hard sometimes. There’s no escaping that reality. It’s impossible to live well without encountering a certain level of struggle, and there are some seasons in our lives that are especially heartbreaking.
For Marc and me, one such season occurred over the course of 15 months when we were in our late-20’s. It was a period of profound loss, beginning when we lost our jobs and our house in the downturn of the economy. It started out as a financially scary and uncertain time for our family. Worry seeped into everyday life. “Unhappiness” is the simplest word to describe it.
Then, as we were learning to navigate our new reality, we were hit with a devastating loss: the death of a mutual best friend from sudden cardiac arrest. The loss of such a key figure in our lives was intense! We were absolutely devastated and knocked down to what seemed like the lowest of lows for weeks on end. And just as we were beginning to get back on our feet, my older brother died by suicide.
12 “NOTES TO SELF” YOU SHOULD MEMORIZE BEFORE THE NEW YEAR
As the year winds down, we tend to yearn for a very small and selective range of life experiences—the happy holidays, the relaxing times, the settings and experiences that make us feel comfortable. And yet, the full range of our reality at this time of year is often quite different. Life gives us an extensive array of experiences that evoke feelings ranging from sadness to struggle to pride to anger to love to loneliness… to happiness to excitement and more. These feelings are all part of being a living, breathing human being, regardless of the season.
So, we can revolt against the unfairness of life—the unfairness of having to deal with pain, having to cope with uncertainty, having to feel lonely and uneasy and upset. Or we can embrace every experience life gives us, including all our highs and lows—all the blissful moments and painful ones and everything in between. Life is not just happy and comfortable 24/7. It’s well-rounded, it’s full-featured, and it’s real.
Embracing the full range of life’s experiences this holiday season means embracing every moment with our full presence, being open and vulnerable to reality, being gentle with ourselves when moments are tougher than we expected, and practicing sincere gratitude no matter what happens.
13 SIGNS YOUR FRIENDS ARE RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Your friends may seem nice and trustworthy, but are your friends ruining your relationship? Use these traits to find out if they’re bad for your love.
Friends can be the best thing in the world.
But at times, they can be the worst too.
Do you find yourself jumping from one relationship to another all the time?
Do you think there’s something wrong with you?
HOW TO BE MINDFUL ABOUT MONEY
If you’ve read Zach Brittle’s Blog Series, you know that M is for Money. M is also for marriage, misunderstanding, multidimensional and maybe, as in maybe a good thing and maybe not. We are conditioned to think of money as an ultimate goal, a passport to the land of eternal peace of mind, but in the long run we know this isn’t quite true. Most of us have figured out by now that money is not the ultimate answer. It can’t really make us happy and isn’t very good at solving our relationship problems.
It’s tempting and convenient to think otherwise, though. Think of the hassled husband (or wife!) on all those TV shows, eternally retreating into their office to escape the myriad challenges of daily life (most commonly, to avoid facing marital conflict). The pursuit of financial security as strategy for avoiding the complexities of human relationships is a common theme. It doesn’t even have to be a conscious decision at first, but it is a slippery slope! After all, we’re only human, and when faced with a choice between an intractable problem and a lovely distraction… well, we often can’t help ourselves.
Unfortunately, workplace escapism often makes things worse. Even solvable problems can become gridlocked issues when avoided long enough. Falling into these habits only increases the distance between us and loved ones, putting stress on relationships and limiting families’ ability to face challenges together. It takes a conscious effort to change our ways, and we may be helped by a change in perspective.
TOXIC FRIENDS – 10 TYPES OF FRIENDS TO AVOID
The company we keep can make or break us. Be aware of toxic friends and avoid these 10 types of friends who can do more bad than good in your life.
A good lover can complete you and make you feel alive.
And just like that, a good group of friends too, can motivate you and cheer you up.
But on the other hand, a few bad friends can drag you into the pits or ruin your life too.
Choose your friends carefully, and always make sure that the friends closest to you are the ones that can make life better for you, and not worse.
13 HAPPY THINGS YOU NEED FOR A PERFECTLY HAPPY LIFE!
Wondering how to have a happy life? You don’t need too much to get that perfect life. All you need are just these 13 happy things, and nothing more!
A happy life is the dream, isn’t it?
That’s what all of us want.
We struggle and toil day in and day out, with the hope of abundant happiness in the future.
But what if I told you that a happy life is just right around the corner?
What if you could attain it as soon as you read this feature or within a few weeks?
It’s true, really.
HOW SELF RESPECT AFFECTS YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Self respect plays a very important part in relationships and happiness. But can you differentiate the line between giving in and losing your own respect?
We’ve all heard this line before, that love needs understanding and compromise to be successful.
And it’s definitely true.
But love works best only when both partners understand each other and compromise for each other.
If you give while your partner only takes, no matter how compromising or caring you are, you can’t hold on to happiness forever.
And that’s where self respect comes into the picture.
SHOULD YOU NEVER MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY?
Ever heard that line, you should never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option? Well, here’s what you need to know about it.
When you love someone dearly, it’s obvious that you’ll make them a priority in your life.
But what do you do when the feeling isn’t mutual?
Well, that’s where everything starts to go wrong in a relationship.
Misunderstandings in expectations from each other are almost always the biggest reason for bad relationships and friendships.
20 THINGS HAPPY COUPLES DON’T DO IN A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP
There are many things you can do to build a perfect relationship. However, sometimes it’s the things you don’t do that make all the difference.
Achieving a happy relationship with someone takes more than just a bit of good luck. It requires daily exercise in healthy relationship practices that help build a strong bond between two people. While couples do many things to keep their relationships happy—communicating, for example—the things they don’t do might lend more to their happiness as a couple than you may think.
Things you shouldn’t do if you want a happy relationship
If you’re looking for ways to build a happy relationship with someone special, consider the following “don’t do” tips that other happy couples swear by.