YOUR MARRIAGE IS IN DANGER IF YOUR HUSBAND FREQUENTLY SAYS THESE 6 PHRASES
Adriana Acosta Bujan
Spiteful phrases can easily destroy marriages that have lasted for years.
If communication and respect between you and your spouse is running thin, you may be worried about your marriage.
To have a long-lasting, solid and happy marriage, you must sustain communication, mutual respect and commitment.
If your husband often says these phrases, talk openly with him about how they make you feel. He should be understanding and respectful of your feelings and opinions.
- “I’m bored”
Sometimes a break in your normal routine is refreshing. Ask yourself if you are happy with your relationship routine. Do you think he is? It is essential that you take some time occasionally to do different things to strengthen your love and deepen the emotional connection in your relationship.
- “You never understand what I’m saying,” or “You don’t understand me”
Men and women think differently. So sometimes, communication between a couple can be complicated.
If he is voicing that he often feels misunderstood, take the time to really listen to each other and understand where the other is coming from. Doing so is essential to a strong marriage.
- “You will never change”
Change is difficult. But if your husband constantly claims you are not capable of change, talk with him about why you do certain things he disagrees with. Discussing your reasoning will allow him to understand more fully where you are coming from. Take turns discussing things you won’t change, and compromising the things both of you can change.
- “Why are you not like … ?”
Comparisons destroy relationships. If your husband constantly compares you to his mother, friends, sisters or other women, he is not properly valuing who you are. Think about the situation and make a decision that is best for your well-being.
- “You’re not the person I fell in love with anymore”
Physical, emotional and intellectual changes occur over the years in a relationship.
If your husband complains using this phrase, he doesn’t understand that he is not the same person you fell in love with anymore either. It is impossible for anyone to stay exactly the same.
In order to have a successful marriage, you must both grow and change together, and work through changes respectfully as a couple.
Learning to grow and change together in love is necessary for a successful marriage.
- “Whatever you say is fine,” or “Whatever you want”
These phrases show a lack of interest in what you do, in fact, want. It is not because you dominate the relationship and he submits to your every whim; on the contrary! This constant attitude shows a lack of passion and intrigue in your marriage.
The key to a successful marriage is not dwelling on the petty things, but trusting and communicating with each other. Take time to solve problems and behaviors together in order to find happiness.