SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY
When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:
1. Give your spouse a TOUCH:
One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time.
If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse!
2. Give your spouse SPACE:
As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc.
Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over-demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse the space they need when they need it.
3. Give your spouse a CALL/CHAT:
Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phone and all the people on their Facebook friends list but they will never chat with or call their spouse all tthrough the day. Chatting with or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, “Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you.”
Make sure you send a chat, or give a call, to your spouse today. Make it a habit; it is beneficial to both of you. Nobody can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.
4. Give your spouse a HUG:
Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. Research has proved that hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is the scarcity of spousal hugs that makes many men indiscriminately hug ladies who are not their wives. Many women too crave for hugs and unwittingly allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs.
Hugs can be given in the morning, or at night, but let no day pass without you hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, or an affirmative hug.
Hugging is a non-verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for a hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically.
5. Give your spouse a SMILE:
God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, “You delight me,” “Your presence amuses me,” “I am pleased with you.”
Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the ways to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day.
I love to smile a lot and I love to see my Queen smile. I don’t like people who are not generous with their smiles. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, please smile! Keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse!!!
6. Give your spouse PEACE OF MIND:
The home is the endpoint of everything we do daily. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site everyday. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the court everyday. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the church 24/7. We all must go back home.
Home is the endpoint. Therefore, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, stop fighting, Stop insulting, stop abusing, stop threatening, and stop humiliating your spouse. Give him/her rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind.
Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife to your husband, not a ‘knife’. Blessed are the couples who give each other peace of mind daily!
7. Give your spouse a PRAYER:
No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you cannot do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer for your spouse daily.
Every other thing may fail and may not work, but no force can withstand the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can’t lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her.
Pray to God. Mention the name of your husband/wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family. Lay your hands on your wife, or hold her hands and say a word of prayer into her life. It is a major gift many couples find so difficult to give each other.
Blessed is that wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily. Blessed also is that husband whose wife gives a gift of prayer daily. Pray for your spouse if you don’t want him/her to become a prey in the hands of the devil.
All these seven things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your to-do list. Don’t forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack. If you give your spouse all these, I guarantee that there is a high assurance that you will get them back.