One Habit You Must Let Go to Be Happier

Angel Chernoff

“The trouble is if you don’t spend your life yourself, other people spend it for you.”

Think about that quote for a moment, and ask yourself: What does my happiness feel like?

There is a relationship between happiness and hardship. Hardship feels easy to define—a season of financial struggle, a time of personal loss, a period of life marked by troubles—as the source of ongoing frustration in our lives. But happiness? What exactly is the emotion we call happiness and why do we crave it so badly?

When trying to define happiness, it’s tempting to adopt the “I’ll know it when I see it” mindset. I have no doubt that you will—but dig a bit deeper. Take just a moment to write down 2–3 specific (and simple) actions you know make you feel happy.

These are the actions I have written down: For me, my happiness comes primarily from scheduled time I dedicate to self-care (journaling, meditating, exercising, etc.), time spent with my loved ones, and time spent on work I deem important. Spending quality, uninterrupted time on my own well-being, and then subsequently being present with Marc and Marc brings me great joy. I also find that I am flush with happiness after I’ve conquered a long blog post or read a heartfelt email reply from one of our “Getting Back to Happy” students.

But here’s the real secret to happiness: what makes me happy may not make you happy. Perhaps your true happiness comes from the smiles you provoke on the faces around you, or maybe you find happiness at the end of a long hike up a mountain. Where you find joy is not as important as understanding how you find it.

Once you have an idea about what generally makes you happy, challenge yourself to define the obstacles in your life—the struggles standing between you and happiness. Defining our obstacles gives them clarity, and it helps us chart the path to conquering them. And the same principle holds true for proactively creating more happiness too: in defining specific actions that drive our happiness, we learn to build those activities into our daily lives. That’s the key—determining the daily actions (rituals) that allow you to overcome the obstacles in your path.

In other words, when you know how to get to happiness one small step at a time, you can then ritualize it into your life and make it a regular part of each day.

So, if you’ve been making a daily habit of looking to others for what makes YOU happy, it’s time to give that up! Take time instead to define happiness for yourself, and figure out what’s getting in your way. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks should make you happy. I may find happiness in my writing, but that doesn’t mean that you need to be a writer to be happy. Shut out all the judgmental and well-meaning voices—and listen to yourself today. Don’t worry if your definition of happiness seems incomplete either—embracing happiness is an ongoing process.

And of course, if you’re struggling with any of this, know that you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and get our lives back on track. This is precisely why Marc and I built “Getting Back to Happy.” The course is filled with time-tested steps on how to do just that. And I’m thrilled to let you know that the full Getting Back to Happy course is now OPEN again to early access members. Sometimes we need a little nudge to invest in ourselves.

This is not some ebook that you read and forget about. It’s a revolutionary, self-paced online course and community with 60 HD video lessons, and hundreds of time-tested strategies and techniques that will teach you scientifically proven methods for Conquering Pain, Eliminating Insecurity, Beating Procrastination, Healing Toxic Relationships, Taming Life’s Complications, and Building Consistent Growth into Your Life and Career — the exact proven strategies and techniques Marc and I have used in our coaching practice to help tens of thousands of people over the past decade.

It took 17 iterations, and thousands of dollars, to get it right.

These techniques work no matter where you stand in your current situation or what you’re up against going forward. Even if you have limited experience with self-improvement and personal development tactics. And even if you don’t know what you really want for yourself…yet.

Learn How to Get Back to Happy

You don’t need to spend $15,000 on annual coaching (a realistic average) or even more on live seminars to get back to being…

Effective. Confident. Energetic. Successful. Connected. Clear-headed. Courageous. Attractive. Comfortable in your skin. Free from addictions and habits that hold you back. Free from toxic relationships. Propelled by a sense of purpose. Secure in your zone of inner, creative genius. Driven by your true potential to the point of realizing your dreams. Awakened to the positive changes you’re making in your life and the lives around you on a major scale. Slim, trim, and uninterested in french fries.

Seriously, how many times have you wished these qualities would just wash over you, and that you’d wake up one day as an unstoppable version of YOU?


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