Couples who laugh together last together.
Humor is a powerful repair technique. It can lower the tension of an argument, reduce the division between you and your partner, and remind you that you’re human.
A well-timed inside joke can shift the focus away from your fixed position and toward your shared we-ness.
Remember that repair attempts are the secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples. Inside jokes are the most secret because they’re your secret.
Watch this clip of Dr. Gottman explaining how to create more shared humor in your marriage.