INCREASE YOUR SEXUAL EXPERIENCE BY USING YOUR FIVE SENSES
By The Marriage and Family Clinic
We hear a lot about how a couple’s sex life can become a rut and how intimacy can seem nonexistent. Oddly enough, these ruts are normal in long-term relationships. With little to no passion maintenance, the pace and connection between you and your partner become predictable and robotic.
If you’re looking to spice it up in the bedroom and feel more connected to your partner, we have five easy ways to bring some erotic passion into your relationship using your five senses.
When connecting with your partner sexually, the five senses are a shared experience. Meaning, when you are touching your partner, you are also experiencing touch; when your partner hears you, you are also hearing your partner. During sex, using your five senses becomes a dance and is reciprocated by both people.
Touch is probably one of the most important elements of the senses during intimacy and sex. Where you touch, how you touch, the pressure used, the speed, etc. are a critical part of the sexual dance. Talk with your partner about your erotic zones, and also discuss the type of touch or pressure you don’t like.
Yes, the taste of you and the taste of your partner plays a role in the intimate connection you both experience. The unique taste of your partner can be bonding and something you might long for when thinking of your partner. Your partner’s saliva will also have its own unique taste. Understanding how you personally taste and how your partner tastes can be something you and your partner discover together. This can be a very erotic and intimate experience.
Very similar to taste is smell. You and your partner individually have a unique and natural smell not shared by anyone else. But here’s the enticing part… during intimate and sexual experiences each of your unique smells mixes together through sweat, saliva, semen, and vaginal fluids to create a bond and memory shared between you. As you’re tasting these special zones, take time to smell and appreciate the uniqueness of your partner and of yourself.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, don’t think that just because you don’t look like a supermodel or porn star you can’t have sex with the lights on, walk around naked, or be on top of the sheets or kitchen table. Tell each other what you like about each other’s body and what the sight of them means to you. There is something delightful and fun looking down at the both of your bodies entangled, watching the movement of your bodies together, and watching how you both are touching each other. Keep your eyes open, watch as your partner enjoys you, and the experience you both are sharing.
Let’s face it, quiet sex is kind of boring and only necessary when the kids or other people are around! The sound of your partner’s breath, moans and voice are part of the dance and connection you both share. The tone and noise made by both of you contribute to the direction and needs you’re meeting for each other. Similar to laughter being contagious, the moans stemming from your shared sexual experience are contagious too.
Is the Grass Greener on the Other Side?
The short answer is no. The grass is always greener where you water it. When you look around and only see thriving, loving couples, you need to remember that you are most likely comparing your weaknesses to their strengths and you don’t have the full picture.
This week: If you find yourself comparing your relationship (or even your partner) to others, STOP! Use this time to see where you lack and what you want different and start watering.
Looking at your neighbor’s grass and wanting yours to look like theirs never made anyone’s grass greener.