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IF ONE OF THESE 16 TWEETS DESCRIBES YOUR RELATIONSHIP, GET HELP IMMEDIATELY
Amberlee Lovell
Do you feel loved? It’s normal to have disagreements with your spouse, but are those fights filled with belittling, guilt tripping and manipulating?
Does your spouse make you feel like no one else would want to be around you because you are ugly or obnoxious?
If so, there is something you need to understand immediately: you are so worth loving.
You might not feel that now, but in time, you can.
Even if he doesn’t hit you, your husband (or wife) can still be abusive.
When writer Zahira Kelly opened a conversation about how utterly destructive emotional abuse is, Twitter exploded with support and insight into the life of those who deal with emotional abuse every day.
Although abusive men in heterosexual relationships were the target of most of these tweets, abuse can happen to anyone. If any of these apply to you, get help immediately.
1. #maybehedoesnthityoubut he will find something wrong with every friend that you have so that you think he’s the only thing good for you.
2. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he threatens to kill himself every time you talk about breaking up or taking a break.
3. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he tries to justify his actions to make it seem like your feelings are invalid and uses your weaknesses against you.
4. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he uses your weakness of being able to forgive easily so he can walk all over you and he knows you’ll never get mad.
5. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he controls what u wear, who u talk to, distances u from friends, and tries to make himself the only thing u have.
6. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut you avoid saying or doing things because you don’t want to have to deal with how he might react.
7. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he stood in the doorway, taller than you, stronger than you, so you couldn’t leave until he was finished talking.
8. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he compares you to other women, criticizes your body and constantly tells you, you aren’t doing enough for him.
9. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he makes you apologize because you get upset and “acted crazy” after he did something to hurt/upset you.
10. #maybehedoesnthityoubut he says you should be grateful he doesn’t.
11. #maybehedoesnthityoubut you need his approval for everything and he treats you like property and not a person.
12. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he won’t let you go home or see your friends very often or at all.
13. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he makes you feel like all your emotions are stupid and makes you apologize for them.
14. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut his voice is always the only one to be heard and he makes the value of your opinions and feelings seem like nothing.
15. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he makes you constantly “check-in” with him,’is always calling, texting or messaging under the guise of concern.
16. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYoubut he never lets you forget that he could leave you for someone prettier, less “slutty,” less emotional, less damaged.
If you are being emotionally abused, it’s time to get help. Emotional and psychological abuse can be a precursor to physical abuse.
You are worth loving. You deserve to feel like you have value – because you do.
