ENRICH YOUR FAMILY LIFE, PART I
“Love one another.”
A small-town newspaper included the following classified ad in its Monday edition:
“FOR SALE: R. D. Jones has one sewing machine for sale. Phone 958 after 7 p.m. and ask for Mrs. Kelly who lives with him cheap.”
On Tuesday: “NOTICE: We regret having erred in R.D. Jones’ ad yesterday. It should have read: One sewing machine for sale. Cheap. Phone 958 and ask for Mrs. Kelly who lives with him after 7 p.m.”
On Wednesday the ad was confused again. Finally, on Thursday the ad read: NOTICE: I, R.D. Jones, have no sewing machine for sale. I smashed it. Don’t call 958 as the telephone has been taken out. I have not been carrying on with Mrs. Kelly. Until yesterday she was my housekeeper, but she quit.”
Following are several helpful suggestions for enriching your family life and greatly improving interpersonal relationships:
Improve family communications
Faulty communications cause innumerable problems. This is especially true in the home. In fact, one of the first steps to improve family relationships is to improve family communications.
Family members need to talk meaningfully to each other every day, to show an interest in each other, to give constant understanding and approval, and to share and accept one another’s feelings.
Each member also needs to be given a say in family matters. When this is done, practical compromises—the oil for smooth family living—can be worked out.
Communication, of course, goes two ways. It involves not only talking but listening creatively; that is, listening to the real message behind the words.
Sometimes family members will say one thing when they mean another. For example, Dave asks June, his wife, if she’d like to go out for dinner. June is tired and doesn’t want to go, but feels Dave might be hurt if she says no. So she agrees. Then she feels resentful because Dave didn’t know how she was feeling. As a result, the dinner date was a flop.
If Dave is listening creatively, he may detect when June is saying “yes” but means “no.” However, it is important for all family members to say what they want and not leave others guessing.
“Dear God, help me to learn how to communicate effectively so that I can be a better friend, companion, and family member. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”