Does your spouse make you unhappy?

Does your spouse make you unhappy?

DOES YOUR SPOUSE MAKE YOU UNHAPPY?

By The Marriage & Family Clinic

Have you wondered why you even put up with your partner’s crap
because they’re always saying and doing stuff that makes you mad?

Now, you find yourself resenting the times that you’re together because you feel like you’re always fighting.
You don’t look forward to them coming home and you’re starting to see that you never really spend any quality time with each other, either.

Whenever you’re around your spouse you find yourself being in a bad mood. You’re even in a bad mood when they’re not around because of something they said or did to piss you off.

No wonder you’re so unhappy! If anyone else got saddled with a spouse like yours, they’d be unhappy too!

But guess what?

It’s not your spouse that’s making you unhappy. It’s you.

And if your life satisfaction pivots around your spouse doing or saying certain things to make you happy, then that’s called co-dependent.

So if your spouse isn’t the one responsible to make you happy, that means that you are. That means you have to take the initiative to do things you’ve stopped doing to get yourself into a better place. Things like exercising again, joining meetups that you like, going to church, reading new books, finally trying that marathon you’ve been putting off. You have a lot more control over your happiness than you’re giving yourself credit for.

Once you start taking ownership for your happiness you’ll find that your relationship will naturally start to improve. Those little things that were so annoying will be just that: little. You’ll find a new vivacity for life. You’ll be so interesting and exciting that respect from your partner will ooze out of their ears. And the best part is, you didn’t have to wait for them to do anything. You did it.
And you didn’t have to be co-dependent or controlling to get it.

REMINISCE ABOUT THE GOOD TIMES

Indulge yourselves for a moment (or longer 😍) remembering the good times you have had together! Happy love birds or struggling to like each other, this is a marriage tip everyone can benefit from!

This week: Each of you should make a list of three memories that have been your favorite and why.

**Having some extra time to do this will allow you to think over your entire relationship and not put either one of you on the spot.**

Then plan a date that you each share your list. Reminiscing about the good times brings back all those feel-good vibes and lets you see how far you’ve come or maybe what you need to add back into your relationship. The best is when a memory is on both of your lists! 

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