A Message From a Woman to All Men
WHEN MEN STEP IN…
My husband has a way of settling issues or quarrels among our children which works perfectly and amazes me. Well, I’m blessed to be married to a very wise man. Let me share some of his tips and hope that they will help you.
My children, especially the youngest two, always fight over things like pencils, crayons, cups, plates, teddy bears, etc. I thought the solution was to buy for everyone – and that was what I did. I felt that if everyone had their own fighting would cease, as well as that disturbing cry of children when they are fighting for something. To my amazement and bewilderment, however, the fights continued and, in fact, escalated as one child would misplace his red pencil and would cry for the other person’s yellow pencil. I was practising law in the house, playing solicitor and judge at the same time. Sometimes it can be so depressing.
One day my husband just got up and announced, “From now going forward, all the pencils, erasers, crayons, teddy bears, cups, plates and toys in this house belong to me, and whoever wants to use any should take permission from me, period!”
He collected all the pencils and other stuff and kept in one drawer. My dear friends, now there is great peace in my house, no more shouting, no more struggles. What I hear often is “Oh, please Daddy, may I borrow your pencil,” or “May I borrow your cup,” etc.
Now that they have all surrendered the whole stuff to Daddy, they are learning how to co-operate better since no one owns the stuff personally. They no longer quarrel over anything!
When men step in, I tell you, there is always a big difference, especially men who are godly.
Men are endowed with the power and authority to rule in their homes. Unfortunately, these days you see them trying to rule the states and nations without being able to rule over their homes. It is said that charity begins at home, and again one of the criteria for becoming a church leader is having a good authority over one’s family first before trying to rule over other people.
I do not think any time a man spends with his children is ever in vain. I know a man who spends two hours with his children every day, looking into their school work and stuff. Even if his state governor sends for him, he will always say, “I will be there when I’m done with my children.” His children take all the academic awards in their school till date. It’s not all about chasing money, sending them to the best schools possible; it’s about passing on priceless values to the children.
The family is one of the most important gifts God gave to humanity and great families are like refreshing cold water on a thirsty soul.
I call on our men to stand up and step in. The women are tired of handling the children alone, settling quarrels, doing homework, cooking, doing the dishes and laundry, leading devotions, etc. We want our men to come back home and lead for we do not know the way as our husbands do.
Men, remember that the instruction on how to run the home successfully was handed over to you directly from the Almighty. We, the women, are on our knees in complete surrender and total submission. Please leave late night meetings, long office hours, overstretched church programs and attend to the church in your home. Without you, Sirs, we are incomplete. STEP IN PLEASE.