18 Relationship Turn Offs That Can Ruin Your Romance

You may think you’re in a truly happy relationship, but do you ever get disappointed by your partner’s behavior now and then?

Sometimes, even the most loving partner may subconsciously behave in a certain way or say a few things that can hurt their lover.

If it’s just a rare occurrence, you could overlook it.

But what if it’s something you notice all the time?

Relationship don’t always fall apart because lovers cheat on each other or argue until one of them packs their bags and leaves.

The truth is, couples almost always fall apart because of disappointments and resentments.

Relationship turn-offs that can hurt romance

Every time you put up with something that hurts you, you’re only digging a hole in your relationship.

Remember, if your partner truly loves you, they may not want to hurt you intentionally.

Sometimes, a few of the hurtful things they do may be subconscious and something they don’t realize themselves.

You don’t need to always confront your partner about it, or sulk and yell at them. At times, all they need is a little nudge to realize their mistakes, so they can correct it themselves.

18 relationship turn-offs that can ruin your romance

Here are 18 relationship turn-offs that you need to keep an eye on. If you’re indulging in any of these turn offs *even if it’s only subconsciously*, it probably means you need to do some soul searching and ask yourself if you truly respect and love your partner.

And on the other hand, if you see these signs in your partner, rather than just put up with it, talk to them about it and tell them how you feel about this kind of behavior.

After all, your silence won’t help your partner realize that their subtle behavior is pushing both of you apart, just a little with each passing day.

#1 Insecurity and jealousy. Does your partner make you feel insecure by giving someone else more attention or by flirting with them outrageously while you stand next to them shuffling your foot in painful embarrassment? Insecurity and jealousy is one of the biggest reasons for egos and anger to creep into the relationship.

#2 Bad mouthing. Insulting a partner’s parents or their family is so common that almost all couples indulge in a bit of accusation and bad mouthing now and then. But there’s a difference between pointing out a person’s flaw and blatantly insulting them for it, don’t you think?

#3 Boundary issues. Do you give your partner the space they want, whether they ask for it or not? Not understanding where to give space in a relationship is a big relationship turn off. Don’t constantly try to make yourself feel involved in your partner’s life even when they want to do something by themselves.

#4 Withholding sex. This is something partners use when they’re angry or upset. They pretend like everything’s okay, and yet, they push their partner away or avoid having sex. If you’re indulging in something like this, you may believe you have a right to avoid sex if you don’t feel like having it.

But really, are you avoiding sex because you don’t feel like having sex or is it because you’re upset? And if you’re upset, isn’t it so much better to just tell your partner what’s on your mind instead of using sex as a tool to hurt them?

#5 Compromises. You don’t like compromising for your partner, or even if you do compromise for them, you do so with a disgruntled expression stuck on your face. And yet, you expect your partner to always compromise for your sake no matter what you ask of them.

#6 The third opinion. Do you really take your partner’s advice, or do you just ignore it and place more value on a third person’s opinions? If you give more importance to someone else’s opinion and care less about your own lover’s opinions, even if it’s a decision that directly impacts your relationship, it only shows that you don’t respect your partner and think less of them.

#7 Bad listeners. Do you listen to your partner while talking to them, or are you only focused on getting your point across? Do you constantly say “what did you say?” to your partner each time they’re trying to say something to you? Bad listening habits in a relationship will definitely infuriate your partner or make them feel neglected. And some day, this turn off will push both of you away from each other.

#8 Cruel ego boosts. Have you ever complimented someone else in public in front of your partner, while completely ignoring to compliment your own partner for doing the same thing? Putting your partner down and hurting them subtly in public can give you an ego boost, but it’ll also cost you your relationship over time.

#9 Silent treatment. Don’t ignore your partner or give them the silent treatment by not talking to them just because they say something hurtful in a conversation. It’ll make your partner hate you for walking away from the conversation, and they’ll stop being truthful to you or trying to communicate with you because they know you don’t like hearing the truth.

#10 Pushy behavior. Don’t constantly force your partner to do things your way because you think your way is the only way to do something. It may seem like a petty issue, but your constant pushiness may force your partner to turn rebellious and do things just to oppose you and hurt you, so they can get their independence back from you.

#11 You think you’re too good. This is something you need to ask yourself, because no one else can answer this for you. Do you always take your partner’s opinions into consideration each time you need to take decisions? Or do you secretly believe *somewhere in the back of your mind* that you’re awesome and your partner is just too dumb to offer any insightful advice to you?

No one but you may know this answer, but if you think your partner isn’t smart, your condescending behavior towards them may give away the disdain you have for them.

#12 Cutting conversations. Do you ever cut your partner across when they’re trying to make a point? Or if your partner is trying to explain something to you at a store, and someone else *like a pushy store salesman* interferes to explain the same thing to you, do you look away from your partner and continue the conversation with this new person who interrupted the both of you? It’s a clear sign that you subconsciously don’t value your partner or think they have anything important to say.

#13 Anger issues. One of the biggest relationship turn offs is when you direct all your rage and anger at your partner, even when they do nothing wrong. You may be pissed off with the world, but you still direct all that anger towards your partner and treat them like a punching bag because you don’t have the nerve to confront the world or direct the anger at the people who actually hurt you.

#14 Big sacrifices. Do you behave like making time for your partner is such a big sacrifice? When your partner asks you to spend some time with them, do you get annoyed or behave like sparing time for your loved ones is a luxury you can’t afford? Careful here, because your partner may not be around for too long if you treat them so disrespectfully!

#15 Letting yourself go. So you’ve hooked yourself a sexy fish and you have that ring on your finger. You’re all happy and life is bliss. But now that you’re in a stable relationship, have you let yourself go and piled on several pounds, or have you started dressing down and leaving it all unshaved and unkempt?

Don’t take your partner for granted and expect them to always stay crazily in love with you and lust for you when you don’t make the effort to look and feel your best for them.

#16 Selfishness. Selfishness is a relationship turn off that’s one of the worst traits in a partner. Do you always look for the better deal or an advantage in your relationship? It could be as small at eyeing the larger slice of pizza, or as big as hoarding all the money in your own bank account while emptying your partner’s account dry. But this behavior of yours would definitely make your partner see through your intentions and distrust you very soon.

#17 Manipulative and controlling behavior. For a person who is unable to directly confront their partner over an issue, it’s always easier to resort to emotional manipulation and subtle controlling behavior. You may think it’s the easiest way to control your partner, but once they realize just how deviously you’ve manipulated them to lose their own self, they’ll leave you and never look back even if you beg them to take you back.

#18 Taking kindness for granted. In love, both partners are expected to love each other unconditionally and be completely giving towards each other. But if you hold yourself back and take your partner’s kindness and love for granted, you’d be hurting them each time you use them to get what you want.

And soon, you partner may start getting wary and they too may stop loving you unconditionally. And eventually, all there would be in the relationship are two people who don’t trust each other, and are constantly competing to get the better deal. Is that even love anymore?

These 18 relationship turn offs could seem trivial now, but if you’re indulging in any of these turn offs, you may find yourself a perfect partner, but you’ll always find yourself in unhappy relationships, until you truly decide to change yourself for the better.