10 WAYS YOU CAN MEND YOUR HEART WHEN YOU’VE BEEN CHEATED ON
Relationships are like roses. They can be nurtured to become beautiful, or they can wither into nothingness. While the longevity of relationships can withstand much more than a rose, one partner cheating on another is practically sabotaging everything they have together.
For me it was all about realizing that it wasn’t my fault. It wasn’t because I didn’t love her enough, or that I didn’t give her enough space or whatever the slews of excuses were. It was because she was a shitty person.
That for me was the hardest part to swallow because after so many years you think you know a person. Then all of a sudden that shatters around you and you can’t come to grips with the fact that it was a lie.
Time heals everything, for now you will feel down, depressed, angry, irritated. It’s OK, but everyday it keeps changing. Don’t push yourself to forget, because you will never. Let it be, let it go naturally, just do what you need to.
My girlfriend at the time would never admit to the cheating, even though I knew it was true. The best way to get over it is to see as many other people as possible in a short amount of time. It doesn’t even have to lead to as much as a kiss. But meeting new people and talking to them will help you get over them quickly.
I am someone who stayed in the relationship after their partner cheated. Yes, I heard a lot of people tell me I am dumb, and what not. But, I started dating my significant other when we were 16 or 17 years old. So after a while, we went through a stage of “what if”, and he did some things with another girl.
I checked myself into a 10-day silent meditation and made a pact that I’d use the time to forgive. That’s the key. The faster you can forgive them, the faster you move on. Oh, and make a list of the awesome things you can do now that you couldn’t do with them.
I burned all of the presents he bought me and pretend I don’t know who he is. Some friends like to give me updates on his life “He’s dating an ugly chick.” “He’s gotten so fat.” “I heard he’s something something random shit” and I go blank eyes and go “Who? Do I know him?”
We weren’t really dating, but when I found out, I decided to withdraw, only to fall into his arms again. It was an on-and-off affair that practically ruined me. It was only until I opened up about it to my friends who made me realize he wasn’t worth my time. As of now, I’ve stopped trying because I’ve learnt from my mistakes.