FOR MARRIAGE, SUITORS NOW PREFER OUR MAIDS TO OUR DAUGHTERS
Yes, it happens because we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.
We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us to survive.
The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our children subject them to. All these make the maids better wives who can manage even the angriest of men.
Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools. They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slangs by heart. We beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic duties. They see kitchen duties as maids’ duties.
Our daughters move from boarding schools to the university, go through the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) and postgraduate degree programs and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen soon.
It is the same story from one relationship to another. The guys would parade and dump them. They are good for only outings and red-carpet functions.
The boys lose interest when they notice that their potential wife can neither cook nor arrange the house and is domestically very untrained. The rich guys can manage as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help. Not all guys can afford this for a start.
The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers and leaders would not manage these parent-inflicted shortcomings. They would settle for well trained ones. They know the value and the pride in hosting friends at home to delicious meals prepared by a wife.
Your maids will not remain your servants forever. Some of them will possibly do part-time studies and, like a train, get to their God-ordained destinations sooner or later.
Good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar, just like perfume, and dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long time happiness is at stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through a social medium.
Let your daughters learn what you teach your maids to make them compete for the few available good men if marriage is important to them. There are few guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.
Don’t be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes, it is. You love; you loved; and you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love. Therefore, some men are immune to premarital love blindness.
In practice, love can’t cover the stench of the bad early formation of our daughters.
Right now educated former maids are cornering better men on offer because they possess the requisites or set skills the highly perceptible and ready husband materials need.
Mothers please take note.