I needed to use the scissors this morning. As I finished with it, I looked at it carefully and it struck me that the scissors models an ideal couple.
Let’s see some lessons every couple should learn from the scissors so that we can become better couples and build enviable homes.
The scissors is always in pairs and that’s where its usefulness is. Once you see one part and the other part is not there, it is useless no matter how beautiful it is. The effectiveness of every marriage is lost when couples are not together. Separation and divorce destroy the effectiveness and usefulness of every marriage.
Remember, ‘united we stand, divided we fall.’ Separation is not only when you separate physically and are no longer living together. There are many couples who are together under the same roof but are spiritually, emotionally, sexually, financially, socially, etc., separated. Are you sure you and your spouse are not separated in one of these ways?
The togetherness of the scissors is not automatic. There is a small bolt or screw which fixes the scissors together in the middle. In the same vein, if couples must be bound together like scissors, there must be ‘bolts’ that must fix or weld them together and make them inseparable. Some of the ‘bolts’ are:
- The presence of God
- Openness and trust
- Healthy and joyful sex life
- Family vision
- Good family finance
- Holy Family altar, etc.
I tried separating a pair of scissors this morning. The uniting bolt or screw was so deep and tight that it was not easy for me to separate them.
Scissors is useless except someone holds them. Couples cannot be effective except they allow God to hold them and guide them to achieve their marital destiny.
No family is really useless. It is either you are positively useful, and that happens when it is God holding the two of you, or you are negatively useful when it is the devil holding the two of you. The devil can hold the two of you and use you to destroy each other, and destroy the future of your children and even destroy your eternity. Ask yourselves as the couple: “Who is holding us and our family?”
Each pair of the scissors has a sharp part and a dull part. The face is sharp while the back is dull. In the same vein, each couple has their strengths and weaknesses. Your spouse is not empty. Though you might see the ‘dull part’ of your spouse, if you want your marriage to accomplish its purpose, you must also recognize the ‘sharp part’ of your spouse. You must also display your ‘sharp part’ (strengths), not just your ‘dull part’. Displaying the dull part alone destroys marriage very fast!
Synergy in working: The pair must come together before they can cut whatever you want to use it to cut. Each unit will bring its sharpness and join it with the sharpness of the other unit and cutting will be done easily and smoothly.
In like manner, synergy is the energy of every family. All the unwholesome references to my money, my car, my own, my house, me, mine, myself, etc. will only sap the energy of your marriage. Coalesce or pull together your resources, money, connections and visions as a couple to give energy to your marriage in order to advance it to the next level.
The common unhealthy and utterly destructive emphasis on self – I call it I-ness – is the mother of anemia in marriage while We-ness is the mother of the wellness of every marriage.
Do you want energy for your marriage? Go for synergy. Only ‘SCISSORS COUPLES’ are SERIOUS COUPLES.
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