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OUR SEX LIFE IS AMAZING BUT OUR MARRIAGE SUCKS
He woke up horny. He started touching his wife on her breasts.
He flipped her over. Got on top of her. He started kissing her, but she seemed not interested. He turned his game up, kissed her on her neck as he spread her legs. She looked away.
“What’s wrong?” he asked.
“Us,” she said.
“What do you mean?” he asked.
“The only thing we do great together is having sex,” she replied.
“I thought you loved our sex. I am faithful to you, I don’t cheat,” he told her.
“I do. You sex me good, but marriage is more than sex. It is not enough to be faithful. Marriage needs to have depth and substance, not centered around sex. I don’t want us to be two empty souls that are faithful to each other. We had it, we used to have depth.
“I want us to talk, to laugh, to pray, to date again even in our marriage, to cuddle, to make memories, to play with our children, to travel and see the world, to debate on topics like we used to, to play a sport, to go for concerts, to have intimacy in our marriage. What we currently have is not marriage but a sexual arrangement. Sex is just not enough!” she lamented.
“Ouch! That’s painful,” he retorted.
“The painful truth,” she corrected him.
He started stroking her hair gently and said, “You are right. Things changed when we got kids; life got busy I guess.”
She looked at him and said, “Darling, people make time for what is important. I want to be more than the mother of your children. I am your wife, I want to feel like a wife. I want quality time with you just as we used to have – not a lot, just enough. I want to be loved and talked to. I want our time. When was the last time you stroked my hair as you are doing right now?”
“A long time ago,” he confessed.
She placed her finger on his lips and said, “Exactly, you haven’t taken time to look at me because we both are always in a hurry. You know a woman doesn’t ask for much. Even something as little as you stroking my hair touches my heart. So many wives are tired of sex in their marriage. They fake orgasms, fake headaches or exhaustion and some pretend they are on their periods just to escape having sex with their husbands because they don’t feel married. I want to feel married, my love. I don’t want to become like those women.
“This home is not a lodge for you to come to, sleep, get sex, then leave day in, day out. This is our home, our bed, our marriage. I need you, my husband!”
“I need you too,” he assured her as he kissed her. The kiss was sweet, intense, not rushed and not sexual. It was intimate.
He reclined back to the bed. He placed her head on his chest and for a while they talked as he played with her fingers.
They laughed, randomly prayed, opened up and emotionally connected.
Since then their marriage is no longer centered around sex; and when they do have sex, it’s not sex but lovemaking.
Have you made your marriage empty as you hide behind sex? There is more to marriage than sex.
