One little thing your relationship could use more of

The one thing your relationship could use more of is affection.

Yes, affection.

Affection is a good thing for your relationship.

A very good thing.

Hand holding, over the shoulder kisses on the cheek, long hugs, and cuddling are key for connection, love, and attachment to develop in your relationship.

So instead of possibly being impatient, stressed, and grouchy with each other, just hold each other a little tighter, and try this advice from Lori Lowe,

“Research consistently shows that touching more creates a stronger bond by releasing oxytocin. Hold hands, rub shoulders, hug, kiss, give high-fives or even fist-bumps or bottom pats. When you give a quick hug or kiss, try to lengthen it to at least 5 or 10 seconds for more effective results!” – Lori Lowe, MA (here)

Or, instead of just 5 or 10 seconds, why not try 60? That is what Laura Marshall suggests.

“When you first see each other at the end of your respective days, before you do anything else, hold each other without speaking for at least 60 seconds.

By doing so you remind each other’s old/reptilian brains that you are a source of pleasure and comfort. It’s simple, it’s easy to do, and it will make a world of difference.” – Laura Marshall, LCSW (here)

More hugs. More kisses. More hand holding. More shoulder squeezes. More connection.

Less stress. Less chaos. Less impatience. Less distance.

Make affection a priority today, friends, and the rewards will be worth it. Do it.