How Much Do You Admire and Respect Your Partner?

HOW MUCH DO YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT YOUR PARTNER?

Kyle Benson

Dr. Gottman’s research has shown that fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance. As he explains in The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, although happily married couples may feel driven to distraction at times, they still feel that the person they married is worthy of honor and respect.

The best test of a couple’s fondness and admiration system is how they view their past. 94% of the time, couples who put a positive spin on their marriage’s history and their partner’s character are likely to have a happy future as well.

The better in touch you are with your deep-seated positive feelings for each other, the less likely that you will act with contempt – the most destructive of the Four Horsemen – when you disagree.

The brief quiz below has been designed to assess the current state of fondness and admiration in your relationship.

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• I can easily list the three things I most admire about my partner.*
  • True
  • False
• When we are apart, I often think fondly of my partner.*
  • True
  • False
• My partner really respects me.*
  • True
  • False
• I feel loved and cared for in this relationship.*
  • True
  • False
• My partner finds me sexy and attractive.*
  • True
  • False
• There is fire and passion in this relationship.*
  • True
  • False
• I am really proud of my partner.*
  • True
  • False
• If I had it all to do over again, I would marry the same person.*
  • True
  • False
• When I come into a room, my partner is glad to see me.*
  • True
  • False
• My partner appreciates the things I do in this marriage.*
  • True
  • False

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Note: These questionnaires are intended to be psychoeducational.