STOP TRYING TO FIX YOUR PARTNER’S FEELINGS
One of our deepest needs as humans is to feel understood, and true understanding is not possible without empathy. As psychologist Carl Rogers put it, “When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good!”
Think back to a time when you were listened to and really felt heard. How did it feel to be seen as you were?
The last letter in Dr. Gottman’s ATTUNE model is E and it stands for Empathy. Brené Brown describes empathy beautifully in this brief animated video.
THIS ONE THING YOU DO EVERY DAY IS PROBABLY HURTING YOUR SEX LIFE
What you thought was a harmless habit could actually be quite detrimental to your relationship.
Is your sex life non-existent?
Truth be told, it probably is. In 2008, CNN reported that, “40 million Americans have what experts call a sexless marriage.”
Why? Experts are saying technology could be the source of the problem.
7 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL BEAUTIFUL
Sometimes you just feel ugly. Here’s how to fix that.
Let’s face it, we all have those days. Whether it’s that our hair looks like a mess or we’re frustrated with a zit that just appeared out of nowhere, it’s easy to get down on ourselves – especially with magazines everywhere trying to tell us what beauty is. Sometimes all you need is a little reminder of how truly gorgeous you are.
Here are seven things to do when you don’t feel beautiful:
- Let yourself sleep in
If you can afford it, give yourself the chance to sleep in or catch a short nap during the day. Sleeping in will not only make you looked refreshed, but it helps banish any bad mood. That’s a double win.
UNNECESSARY SPOUSAL AGITATION
It’s bedtime and a man and his pretty wife are in bed. The man is pensive, and has not talked to his wife since after watching his favorite football club play that night.
“Why is he not talking to me?”
“Is he thinking of another woman?”
“Is he seeing someone else?”
3 IMPORTANT THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN REJECTION HURTS
As you look back on your life, you will realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from someone or something you wanted, you were in fact being redirected to someone or something you needed.
Seeing this when you’re in the midst of feeling rejected, however, is quite tough. I know because I’ve been there.
As soon as someone critiques, criticizes, and pushes you away – as soon as you are rejected – you find yourself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I’m not worthy.” What you need to realize is, the other person or situation is NOT worthy of YOU and your particular journey.
LOVE TEST GONE AWRY
One day a lady wanted to know how her husband would react if she left without telling him where she had gone. So she decided to write him a letter saying she was tired of him and didn’t want to live with him anymore. After writing she put the letter on the table in their bedroom and then hid under the bed.
“I [the Apostle Paul] have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.”
(Philippians 4:11-12, NIV)
In a Peanuts cartoon Lucy asks Charlie Brown, “Why do you think we were put on earth?”
Charlie answers, “To make others happy.”
Lucy replies: “I don’t think I’m making anyone happy,” and then adds, “But, nobody’s making me very happy either. Somebody’s not doing his job!”
7 QUOTES TO STOP YOU FROM WORRYING ABOUT THINGS YOU CAN’T CONTROL
Letting go of control… and being OK with it.
That is one of the greatest struggles many of us deal with on a daily basis, myself included.
Because letting go of control goes directly against our modernized, industrialized way of living – we are go-getters, doers, architects of our destiny. We build things and make things happen on our own terms; we don’t wait for anything to happen on someone else’s terms! At least that’s what I learned growing up from teachers, sports coaches, movies, songs, magazine articles, and so forth. So allowing things to happen was not in my DNA. I had never been one to sit back and passively let go of control.
Over the years, however, my perspective has shifted. I’ve learned the hard way that a great deal of the control we believe we have over our lives is an illusion. For example, I’ve since met…