THE HUMAN HEART WAS MADE TO BE KNOWN AND LOVED
What were you made for?
You were made for someone to study you. To read you. To reflect on you. You were made for someone to be attuned to you.
Attunement is the desire and willingness for someone to travel into your inner world to explore who you are and who you are becoming. In a securely attached relationship, this connection cultivates trust that allows your heart to rest.
To truly love another, we must read them well. I’m not talking about the kind of reading where you skim to the parts of a book you think might be interesting, but the kind of reading that engages you in such a way that you are captivated by the story.
DON’T TALK TO YOUR SONS ABOUT SEX – TALK ABOUT THIS INSTEAD
If you’re wondering about the right time to talk to your son about sex, then recent research has some recommendations for you: don’t. Don’t talk to your son about sex. Instead, talk to him about relationships. Talk to him about romance. Talk to him about those funny feelings in the pit of his stomach and how that certain person turns his brain to mush. Talk to him about what a healthy relationship looks like, talk to him about mutual respect, and, oh please, talk to him about consent. Talking to him about sex? It doesn’t appear to be working. So, y’know, don’t.
I said, “Hey, What’s going on?”
The majority of sexual education in schools is based around contraception, pregnancy, and avoiding sexually transmitted diseases. The problem is that these programs aren’t answering the kinds of questions school kids have about sex and relationships. The programs assume girls are the gatekeepers of sex and pitch lessons towards them. They underestimate the emotional capacity and interest of boys and, tellingly, these programs just aren’t working.
HOW TO RAISE A WARRIOR GIRL
I was delighted when I found out that my first baby was to be a girl. And the second. And the third. I would certainly love my son if I was blessed with one, but I knew that I’ve got what it takes to raise a girl.
I’m determined to raise my daughters to be strong, confident, and happy. I want them to grow up to be warriors. Mind you, a princess can be a warrior, too, so I don’t deny them their pretty dresses and cute hair bands, but I want them to know that they can do much more than just look pretty.
Here’s how I try to do it:
BREADWINNING MOTHERS CARRY THE MENTAL LOAD AT HOME
Angela Anagnost Repke
Mothers everywhere are increasingly the breadwinners. This title looks great on paper, but with it our “mental load” gets only heavier. When my son was first born I, too, fit that role. I would wake up, feed my baby, take him to his grandparent’s, teach all day, pick up my son, and then do all of the evening stuff at home. My weekends were filled with grading papers, cleaning, meal-prep, and one squeezed-in activity with family or friends.
Sleeping was difficult. My head would rest on the pillow, but the to-do list piled up like a stack of books, keeping my eyelids open. I never felt caught-up. After reading some recent research, turns out, I wasn’t alone in accumulating this “mental load.”
The research was conducted by Business Wire and proved that when women are the breadwinners, we take on more responsibilities outside of work compared to their husbands. Yes, on top of bringing home more money, they truly did it all: cleaning, cooking, paying bills, and the planning all of the extracurriculars. All of this is known as the “mental load.”
12 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW WHEN RAISING A DAUGHTER
Here are 12 things you should know to help raise beautiful women in this challenging world.
Raising girls is hard work, well, raising kids in general can be hard work. My daughter is eight and I have prepared for her to enter the tween and teen years. It can be frightening because as parents, we want to protect our children but the reality is, there is only so much we can do. So, I have put together the 12 things I think mothers of girls should know.
- Your makeup is now her makeup
My daughter really likes doing makeovers on herself. With time, lessons will have to be taught on applying less but for now, it’s just for fun.
POPE FRANCIS DECRIES VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN
Nigerian Catholic Reporter
Holy Father urges Peruvians to fight scourge of ‘femicide’
Praying before a beloved statue of Mary in the northern city of Trujillo, Pope Francis has acknowledged the deep faith of Peruvians but also the serious problem of violence against women.
The statue of Our Lady of the Gate, or the Virgen de la Puerta, had been taken to Trujillo from a shrine in the town of Otuzco, in the Andean foothills, accompanied by dancers and musicians who have a special devotion to her.
At the Marian celebration, the Pope said the packed main plaza of this colonial city had been “transformed into an open-air sanctuary in which we all want to let our Mother look upon us with her maternal and tender gaze.”
4 MORE EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE BEHAVIORS YOU PROBABLY THINK ARE NORMAL
You might think your relationship dynamic is ordinary, but these 4 emotionally abusive behaviors are anything but.
Emotional abuse is not illegal, but it can have severe, lasting effects on your love and life. And sometimes, the line between abuse and a bad romance can be thin, masquerading as intense lover’s quarrels, or typical trials and tribulations. But these four emotionally abusive behaviors have no place in relationships:
1. Needle point
Your beau may call himself particular, picky or observant, but beware of a partner who is constantly needling and criticizing you. He may try to defend his overly critical and hovering nature as helpful -he’s keeping you focused and steering you in a better direction, right? The problem is, he’s the only one who is bothered by just about everything you do.
HOW TO HELP WHEN YOUR WIFE HAS A MISCARRIAGE
Having a miscarriage is one of the most painful events a woman can experience. There are no words to describe the hurt, anger and disappointment. If your wife has had a miscarriage, there are several things you can do to help her.
It was a dark, cloudy morning. My father carried the little wooden box in his hands. My siblings and I followed him ominously. Once he found the perfect spot he proceeded to bury my stillborn brother.
My mom was four months pregnant when she had the miscarriage. Despite my young age, I noticed and appreciated how my dad helped her go through that painful period in her life. He was there, physically and emotionally, for her and for each of us. Who knew that years later, it would be me who would be crying over the death of my own stillborn baby.
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF A WOMAN THAT MAKE A MAN FALL IN LOVE
Stael Ferreira Pedrosa
It’s not just the beauty and sensuality of a woman that make a man fall in love. There are other attractive qualities that men notice in women, and four of them usually make a man fall in love.
A person’s appearance isn’t everything in a relationship. Having a balance between physical attributes and character is ideal. A man usually falls in love because of the characteristics of a woman.
There is no foolproof guide to make a man fall in love with you, but these four characteristics are likely to make a man fall in love: