Understanding the source of anger

UNDERSTANDING THE SOURCE OF ANGER

Os Hillman

“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”
(Proverbs 29:11)

The workplace can be a pressure-packed world. The demands that are often put on us can bring out things that we never knew were there. Sometimes we begin to think that the source of that pressure is to blame for our response to the pressure. It could be an event, a spouse, a boss, a client, a child, or even a driver who cuts us off in traffic.

I recall responding to a close friend one time, “If you had not done that, I would never have responded that way.” Later I learned that this response had little truth to it. We all choose to get angry. No one else is to blame for our anger.

“The circumstances of life, the events of life, and the people around me in life, do not make me the way I am, but reveal the way I am” [Dr. Sam Peeples].

This simple quote has had a profound impact on how I view my anger now. Anger only reveals what is inside of me. I can’t blame anyone but me for my response to a situation. I have learned that anger is only the symptom of something else that is going on inside of me. This quote now resides on my refrigerator door as a daily reminder of the truth about my response to life’s situations.

It has been said that anger is like the warning panel on the dash of your car. It is the light that tells us something is going on under the hood and we need to find out what is the source of the problem. I discovered that the source of anger is often unmet expectations or personal rights. We believe we are entitled to a particular outcome to a situation. When this doesn’t happen, it triggers something in us. At the core of this is fear, often a fear of failure or rejection, fear of what others think, fear of the unknown.

If you struggle with anger, ask God to reveal the source of that anger. Ask Him to heal you of any fears that may be the root of your anger. Ask God to help you take responsibility for your response to difficult situations.

Forgive Your Spouse

FORGIVE YOUR SPOUSE

You never realize the strength you receive once you forgive someone who wasn’t sorry, and accept an apology you never received. Today you must decide to forgive your spouse who hurt you intentionally. Not because they apologized, or because you enjoyed the pain that they caused you, but because your soul deserves peace.
 
Forgiveness is a choice to show mercy. It is a commitment not to hold on to count the offense against the offender.
 
Forgiveness is an expression of love. Just like God forgave you, forgive them also and pray for God’s intervention. Once your heart is sincere and pure, your prayers are heard. That’s when God starts moving into your situation and takes revenge against those who intentionally troubled and hurt you.

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5 Signs You’re Addicted and 15 Ways to Get Over Porn!

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5 SIGNS YOU’RE ADDICTED AND 15 WAYS TO GET OVER PORN!

Team LovePanky

Having trouble with your porn addiction? Use these 15 tips on how to stop watching porn and get your life back in order by dealing with the addiction.

Do you hate the amount of time you spend watching porn every day?

Watching porn isn’t wrong if you’re old enough.

And it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

But if you feel like it’s taking away a lot of your time and you’re left frustrated as soon as you finish the deed, here’s what you need to do to get your furious hands under control and wean yourself off the habit over time.

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How to End an Affair and Get Over It Completely

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HOW TO END AN AFFAIR AND GET OVER IT COMPLETELY

Team LovePanky

Even the best of us can go astray and tread into the wrong path. Are you ready to walk away from an affair? Find out how to end an affair and get over it.

Knowing how to end an affair just isn’t easy.

You may feel guilty about it, but like an addiction that’s hard to resist, an affair can control your life and eventually dominate it and tear it apart.

Wanting to end an affair is the first step, and it is the right one.

If you’re determined to end an affair, we’ll tell you how to go about it the right way.

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To Cheat or Not to Cheat? – A Guide to Make Up Your Mind

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TO CHEAT OR NOT TO CHEAT? – A GUIDE TO MAKE UP YOUR MIND

Alina Andrew

Temptations are all around us, and it’s easy to have a sneaky moment without getting caught. To cheat or not to cheat, we’ve heard that before. But what should you really do?

To cheat or not to cheat, that is a pretty big question.

But as a matter of fact, it’s not a question at all.

It’s a nagging thought that crawls into your conscience each time you’re presented with an opportunity to get into someone else’s bed.

So should you cheat?

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Are You Dating a Married Man?

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ARE YOU DATING A MARRIED MAN?

Team LovePanky

At times, without really wanting to, we may end up having a relationship with married men. So are you dating a married man? Read this experience to understand how it feels to date a married man, and how your life can change when you enter this dark world.

Of all the relationships you can get into as a girl, dating a married man is one of the worst kinds.

When you enter into a relationship with married men, inevitably you step into a world that can reveal a lot of joy, and yet, tear all the happiness away instantly.

And this cycle of happiness and pain repeats itself until you can’t take it anymore. But why do women fall into this trap in the first place?

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Falling in Love with a Married Man – Things to Know

FALLING IN LOVE WITH A MARRIED MAN – THINGS TO KNOW

Team LovePanky

Falling in love with a married man can be one of the most confusing affairs that a woman can ever have. Affairs with married men can wreck you, give you a bad name and ruin your own life. And yet, most women can’t help but fall for them. Read this experience to understand more.

Affairs with married men and happiness just don’t mix.

When you find yourself falling in love with a married man, life can seem so much simpler and easy in some ways, but there’s always a dark side to it.

And a woman will always love the attention, even if it comes from someone who’s already married or seeing someone.

Is this some evolutionary flaw in women or some mistake we end up making over and over again?

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Friends With Benefits: 6 Reasons Committed Sex is the Best

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS: 6 REASONS COMMITTED SEX IS THE BEST

Colleen Temple

Committed sex gets a bad rap. But when you think about the comfort and security of memorizing each other’s bodies, and kicking the pressure to be perfect to the curb, committed sex actually rules.

No need to date around in order to find someone who is worthy of having sex with you, and then teach them what you like. You already have that. You chose that special someone. Lucky you.

We talked with the experts to dig into the question, “Why is committed sex actually the best sex of your life?” Here’s what they had to say.

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It is not my fault!

IT IS NOT MY FAULT!

“NG, please now,” Mike whispered as he tried to pull his sister Ngozi to face him on the bed. “You know mummy went to bed early and may soon get up for her mid night prayers,” he continued.

“Michael, leave me alone,” Ngozi almost shouted. “I have told you that I am on but you don’t want to hear. If we do anything now and the bed spread gets stained, how do you explain that to mummy? Have you forgotten so soon how you almost let the cat out of the bag the other time something like that happened? I don’t know why you don’t like being reasonable at times! I have told you that we need to be cautious now that daddy is not at home because mummy leaves her bedroom door open and can come out any moment.”

But Mike would not take no for an answer and continued pleading and tugging on Ngozi’s see-through pink night wear.

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‘PANTS’ Rules

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‘PANTS’ RULES

Please every parent and guardian should teach their children and wards, especially toddlers, very early about ‘PANTS’ rules. Times have changed and the world has become a very sick and pathetic place to live. There are many paedophiles and rapists out there. Be careful, and note that everyone is a suspect here.

We must prayerfully protect our children by arming them with the right information:

PANTS

P – Private parts are private. Nobody is permitted to touch them.

A – Always remember that your body is yours and yours only.

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