4 MARRIAGE MYTHS THAT RUIN MARRIAGES WITHOUT PARTNERS REALIZING IT
As soon as the engagement ring is slipped on, we are inundated with messages about how our relationship should be. Our friends and family tell us what we should tolerate and what we shouldn’t. It’s “common knowledge” that marriage kills sex, right?
What you believe about your relationship determines the relationship you end up with, and some of these common beliefs can be toxic. They lead couples down the wrong path, or worse, convince them that their marriage is hopelessly going to go up in flames.
These myths ruin countless healthy relationships just because a couple believes there is something fundamentally wrong about it.
WHAT A HUSBAND NEEDS FROM A WIFE IS NEVER SEX
Catherine Ijeoma Nwike
Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage.
When you look at how agressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you – maybe let me say it better; “WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX.”
Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experienced they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their body it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.
COUPLES THAT TALK ABOUT SEX HAVE BETTER SEX
Let’s talk about sex, because it turns out the most important part of cultivating a healthy sex life is talking about a healthy sex life. Only 9% of couples who can’t comfortably talk about sex with one another say that they’re satisfied sexually.
Here is an example of a conversation that a real couple had in my office.
Ashley: We’re doing better. It’s not as much of a problem as it was a few years ago.
Ryan: I feel like we are more secure as a couple now. I’m not sure I would say the problem is solved, though.
Ashley: Do you feel like anything has changed?
Ryan: How do you feel about it?
Ashley: Well, I viewed the problem as something that would destroy our marriage and now I don’t worry about it anymore.
Ryan: I never thought it was a threat.
THE TRUTH ABOUT MEN AND SEX
Women think they know what men want — as much sex as possible. The reality of what men want in a physical relationship is much more complex.
THE BENEFITS OF EARLY-MORNING SEX
(FOR MARRIED COUPLES ONLY)
They say having sex first thing in the morning not only improves your love life, it is also beneficial to your health. Early morning sex puts a smile on your face, boosts your health, looks and relationship.
Scientists say people who start their day by having sex are all-around healthier and happier than those who don’t.
According to Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good, having sex in the morning makes you stronger and more beautiful.
She said: “Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day long and climaxing releases chemicals that boost levels of estrogen, which improves the tone and texture of your skin and hair.
Some other benefits of morning sex include:
- Apart from the fact that regular morning sex makes you feel upbeat for the rest of the day, it also helps in building a stronger immune system.
Believe it or not, it makes you less susceptible to catching a cold or flu and can also improve the quality of your hair, skin, and nails.
Having morning sex three times a week lessens the risk of a heart attack or stroke.
You aren’t bothered by the responsibilities of the day yet and your mind is clearer.
You’ve just been sleeping and are hopefully well-rested and can devote more energy to sex.
Sex is relaxing and can help manage stress.
You start the day more in sync when you’ve pleasured one another both physically and emotionally.
You show your spouse that he/she is a priority, and so is your sex life.
Sex is exercise. It’s a great way to work up an early morning appetite as breakfast is the most important meal of the day.
Early morning sex can be a great incentive to wake-up and put you in a more positive mood. Wake-up sex will help you feel happier and healthier throughout the day.
PLEASE PASS ON ONLY TO MARRIED COUPLES.
WHAT YOU OUGHT TO KNOW ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE, EFFECTS ON CHILDREN?
Sexual Abuse Effects on Children, Sexual Harassment, Sexual Violence
A recent discussion I was involved in got me to ask this question; “When is the right time and place to educate your kids about sexual molestation?”
This discussion came up in an online group and eventually got everyone on high alert. A girl child (about 11 years old) was told by an elderly stranger (man is certainly over 55 years old) that he liked her because she is beautiful, and would love to marry her. Luckily, the child seemed to have gone through the rudiments of sex education. She returned immediately to her mother to report to her mum that the man is a predator.
According to the Wikipedia,
A sexual predator is a person seen as obtaining or trying to obtain sexual contact with another person in a metaphorically “predatory” or abusive manner.”
TOUCH – A SIMPLE KEY TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE
I recently stumbled upon a fascinating paragraph from the book “Love is a Decision,” by Gary Smalley & John Trent. It caught my eye because I agree with it whole-heartedly. As I’ve done a bit more research, I’ve realized how true this tip is for BOTH men and women.
So, what was the tip that caught my eye and that may immediately improve your physical and emotional relationship with your spouse?
It was this:
“…8 to 10 meaningful touches a day is really a minimum requirement for a woman [or man] to stay emotionally and physically healthy.” (Love is a Decision, page 147)
PORNOGRAPHY AND SEXUAL ADDICTION
“When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, He said unto him, Would you be made whole?”
(John 5:6, ASV, NIV)
Another Daily Encounter reader asks for help saying, “I have a problem with pornography and masturbation. I am 24 years old, and ever since I was in my early teens I have not been able to shake my addiction to these habits. I have resolved many times to put an end to these habits, but each time I find myself returning and am unable to control myself. I feel so guilty about praying because I will have to ask for forgiveness over something for which I have asked forgiveness before. But I can’t help myself when I start wanting these things. Pornography has taken over my life.”
Dear Henry (not his real name), regarding being addicted to pornography and masturbation. By admitting that you are addicted to these behaviors, you have taken the first step in your recovery.
7 SEX POSITIONS MEN ACTUALLY HATE
It might be hard to fathom that men could hate anything about sex, but, in fact, there are some positions that they do.
Of course, “hate” is a rather strong choice of word (let’s amend that, shall we?), but for many men, just as with many women, there are some sex positions out there that they can just completely do without. And, from what I’ve gathered, most of those dreaded positions are in the pages of your closest Cosmo magazine. Are you surprised? (No!)
But in all seriousness, there are very few perfect sex positions that everyone, all men and all women, truly love. Each body is different from the next in the way they’re made and how they respond to pleasure, and once you throw in kinky sex tendencies and overall preferences, it’s hard to say that one position, in particular, is the greatest, most exciting position of all, for everyone. Since that’s the case for the good positions, the same logic goes for least favorite ones. Simply: one man’s “most awful” is another man’s “most awesome.”