DON’T TALK TO YOUR SONS ABOUT SEX – TALK ABOUT THIS INSTEAD
If you’re wondering about the right time to talk to your son about sex, then recent research has some recommendations for you: don’t. Don’t talk to your son about sex. Instead, talk to him about relationships. Talk to him about romance. Talk to him about those funny feelings in the pit of his stomach and how that certain person turns his brain to mush. Talk to him about what a healthy relationship looks like, talk to him about mutual respect, and, oh please, talk to him about consent. Talking to him about sex? It doesn’t appear to be working. So, y’know, don’t.
I said, “Hey, What’s going on?”
The majority of sexual education in schools is based around contraception, pregnancy, and avoiding sexually transmitted diseases. The problem is that these programs aren’t answering the kinds of questions school kids have about sex and relationships. The programs assume girls are the gatekeepers of sex and pitch lessons towards them. They underestimate the emotional capacity and interest of boys and, tellingly, these programs just aren’t working.
5 THINGS EVERY GUY WANTS TO HEAR DURING SEX
So ladies, what and what should you say to your partner during sex?
If there are things to not say during sex, then there have to be things to say during sex, right?
For women, to be able to rightly communicate your needs wants and words of validation for Le Boo during sex, you must have attained a level of confidence in your sexuality.
Without sexual confidence, not only will you leave your pleasure to chance, you’ll also be dulling your partner and shortchanging yourself. Communication during sex is a tool for experiencing better sex and of course, building better bonds.
So what and what should you say to your partner during sex?
7 THINGS EVERY WOMAN WANTS TO HEAR DURING SEX
All the magic words to use with your bae just before, during and after sex…
The right words can turn her on, boost her confidence, and keep her coming back for more.
Your woman wants to always communicate with you, and she expects the same from you.
During dates, on warm weekend afternoons when you’re both just chilling at home, and even during sex!
“Words can be a powerful aphrodisiac and often aren’t used enough,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., an American relationships expert.
5 SECRETS ABOUT SEX YOUR WIFE DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU
Men and women think differently about sex. Here are five sex secrets your wife may not tell you.
Sex secret #1 – Help without being asked
Husbands, you need to understand something: getting in the mood starts outside the bedroom. It can often begin at the kitchen sink when you say you’re going to do the dishes tonight. It can occur when you remember to take out the garbage before she has to nag you to do it. Nothing is more sexy to an exhausted new mother than watching her thoughtful husband change the diapers. It’s one of the least known mysteries about women.
5 SITUATIONS WHERE A DIVORCE IS JUSTIFIED BEFORE GOD
There are many reasons why someone can seek divorce without violating sacred vows made before God.
My greatest wish for couples who are facing problems in their relationship is that they are able to resolve their differences and be happy together. Unfortunately, not all marital problems are so easily conquered.
I often receive messages from readers who explain their serious and devastating problems in their marriage. I always strive to help them identify the problem, suggest ways to treat their wounds and help them rescue their love. Some situations, however, require immediate action. There are many people who need the courage to escape from their toxic relationships as soon as possible.
SEX PROBLEMS: THE PARTNER WITH LOW DESIRE CONTROLS SEX
Has your sex life gone from a luscious rainforest of passion, hot sex, and romance into a desert of deprived fulfillment?
Jake’s sex life has.
When he and Amy first started dating, the sex couldn’t have been better. Her erotic nature was wild and free. He lost himself in her touch. Exploring each others bodies between the sheets for hours.
As the years went by, Amy stopped wanting sex. She just didn’t “feel it” anymore. Eventually, months would go by and Jake’s sexual frustration would cause Amy to offer him a mercy fuck.
WHY IS SEX SUCH A MASSIVE ISSUE FOR UNHAPPY COUPLES?
Sex shows the most vulnerable surfaces of the body in the most openly exposing positions. This experience causes many to only have sex with the lights off; to close their eyes to avoid eye contact so their partner cannot see the real vulnerable self lurking in the windows to their souls.
Culture has taught us that sex is an end in itself, that the big O is the end goal. It’s teaching us that our physical bliss can be brought on by the mechanics of sex. The positions, techniques, and toys. Sex, for many of us, is about physical satisfaction.
But how important is good sex in a committed, romantic relationship?
EASILY INDICATE YOU WANT SEX USING THE AROUSAL SCALE FOR COUPLES
Being sexually rejected by your partner is harsh. For some of us, it can lead to a tornado of questions: Do they desire me? Have I gotten too old and fat? Are they cheating on me?
Partners fall into a tailspin when requests for sex are regularly rejected. This can cause a lot of anxiety and fear. The problem with relationships is that we never know what our partners are thinking.
Perhaps the more we get rejected, the more guarded we become. Or perhaps our past relationships have spread the virus of shame: asking our lover for sexy-time.
WHAT YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PARTNER
I was at a conference this weekend where it was once again reiterated to me how impactful our attachment in our early relationships is on our current relationships. When we talk about “attachment,” we usually mean how safe and connected we feel to our partner (or friend, or parent, etc.). What the research has shown over the years is that our attachment style is mostly dictated by the relationship we had with our parents when we were little, but it can change as we have new relationship experiences throughout our lives. There are a few main attachment styles that I want to unpack today, because I think they’re often misunderstood and this misunderstanding can cause major problems in relationships.
When you meet someone with a secure attachment style, they probably grew up with a steady flow of comfort, validation, empathy, and love from their parents and family. These are the people who aren’t too anxious, but aren’t scared of relationships either.