5 SECRETS ABOUT SEX YOUR WIFE DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU
Men and women think differently about sex. Here are five sex secrets your wife may not tell you.
Sex secret #1 – Help without being asked
Husbands, you need to understand something: getting in the mood starts outside the bedroom. It can often begin at the kitchen sink when you say you’re going to do the dishes tonight. It can occur when you remember to take out the garbage before she has to nag you to do it. Nothing is more sexy to an exhausted new mother than watching her thoughtful husband change the diapers. It’s one of the least known mysteries about women.
5 SITUATIONS WHERE A DIVORCE IS JUSTIFIED BEFORE GOD
There are many reasons why someone can seek divorce without violating sacred vows made before God.
My greatest wish for couples who are facing problems in their relationship is that they are able to resolve their differences and be happy together. Unfortunately, not all marital problems are so easily conquered.
I often receive messages from readers who explain their serious and devastating problems in their marriage. I always strive to help them identify the problem, suggest ways to treat their wounds and help them rescue their love. Some situations, however, require immediate action. There are many people who need the courage to escape from their toxic relationships as soon as possible.
SEX PROBLEMS: THE PARTNER WITH LOW DESIRE CONTROLS SEX
Has your sex life gone from a luscious rainforest of passion, hot sex, and romance into a desert of deprived fulfillment?
Jake’s sex life has.
When he and Amy first started dating, the sex couldn’t have been better. Her erotic nature was wild and free. He lost himself in her touch. Exploring each others bodies between the sheets for hours.
As the years went by, Amy stopped wanting sex. She just didn’t “feel it” anymore. Eventually, months would go by and Jake’s sexual frustration would cause Amy to offer him a mercy fuck.
WHY IS SEX SUCH A MASSIVE ISSUE FOR UNHAPPY COUPLES?
Sex shows the most vulnerable surfaces of the body in the most openly exposing positions. This experience causes many to only have sex with the lights off; to close their eyes to avoid eye contact so their partner cannot see the real vulnerable self lurking in the windows to their souls.
Culture has taught us that sex is an end in itself, that the big O is the end goal. It’s teaching us that our physical bliss can be brought on by the mechanics of sex. The positions, techniques, and toys. Sex, for many of us, is about physical satisfaction.
But how important is good sex in a committed, romantic relationship?
EASILY INDICATE YOU WANT SEX USING THE AROUSAL SCALE FOR COUPLES
Being sexually rejected by your partner is harsh. For some of us, it can lead to a tornado of questions: Do they desire me? Have I gotten too old and fat? Are they cheating on me?
Partners fall into a tailspin when requests for sex are regularly rejected. This can cause a lot of anxiety and fear. The problem with relationships is that we never know what our partners are thinking.
Perhaps the more we get rejected, the more guarded we become. Or perhaps our past relationships have spread the virus of shame: asking our lover for sexy-time.
WHAT YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PARTNER
I was at a conference this weekend where it was once again reiterated to me how impactful our attachment in our early relationships is on our current relationships. When we talk about “attachment,” we usually mean how safe and connected we feel to our partner (or friend, or parent, etc.). What the research has shown over the years is that our attachment style is mostly dictated by the relationship we had with our parents when we were little, but it can change as we have new relationship experiences throughout our lives. There are a few main attachment styles that I want to unpack today, because I think they’re often misunderstood and this misunderstanding can cause major problems in relationships.
When you meet someone with a secure attachment style, they probably grew up with a steady flow of comfort, validation, empathy, and love from their parents and family. These are the people who aren’t too anxious, but aren’t scared of relationships either.
CHRONIC STONEWALLING IMPRISONS A RELATIONSHIP
Have you ever watched a child try to get attention from their mom or dad?
“Pay attention to me.”
“Look at me.”
“Mommy, daddy, watch me.”
But what happens if the child’s attachment figure is unavailable and unresponsive? The child will experience distress.
It doesn’t matter if you are 5 months old or 45 years. There are still two basic responses to an unavailable attachment figure.
7 ENHANCING LOVEMAKING CONVERSATIONS FOR COUPLES
Lovemaking in a monogamous relationship is said to be heart-pounding, breath-taking, and anxiety-freeing. If that’s true, then how come a committed relationship is when many of us settle for the same sexual positions?
Far too often, spouses become “too important” for experimenting in the bedroom. This takes the mysterious element of sex between two people and puts our wild erotic nature into a jar that will never be opened again.
Sometimes partners stop putting in the effort to seduce their partner. They assume the ring on the finger means they don’t have to try; that a wedding band means you’ll be turned on by me, no matter what I do or how I look. You’ll love me till death do us part.
WHY COUPLES STOP HAVING SEX: THE PARADOX OF YES IN SAYING NO
Sexual desire is leaving the American bedroom faster than a Kansas tornado will rip apart a house.
Long-term relationships, far too often, experience a dwindling sex life. “Experts” often blame the coals of passion on women; their vanishing libido post-marriage. Their keen focus on raising the little ones while ignoring the man next to them.
The lack of female desire is a profitable industry. Thousands of books, full of “theories” on why women lose desire, fill bookstores. Meanwhile drug companies with pills like Addyi are “closing the gap” with a Viagra like pill for women.
5 THINGS YOU CAN DO WHEN YOU HAVE LOST THE DESIRE FOR SEX
A common complaint couples present me with is desire discrepancy.
Typically, the complaint is that one partner wants sex more and the other could either take it or leave it.
In long term heterosexual relationships, women typically need to feel emotionally connected before they can have sex. Men typically feel emotionally connected AFTER they have sex.