A GOOD HUSBAND ACCEPTS HIS MISTAKES
What does it mean to be a good husband?
This was the question posed to a group of men at a recent men’s workshop. The focus of the workshop was men and intimacy. But a theme emerged about how men in committed relationships can be better husbands and partners.
“What does it even mean to be a good husband?” one man asked the group.
The answers to this and similar questions became the focus of the entire day. Clearly working on how to be abetter husband was central for these men.
SECURE RELATIONSHIP: THE ROLE OF EMOTIONAL SAFETY
When emotional security is lacking…
- “Over the last year we’ve had so many ugly fights that I just don’t trust him with my feelings any more.” ~Lucy, married six years
- “It feels to me like she sends me mixed signals…one moment everything is fine between us, then all of a sudden she’s angry about something and she doesn’t know why. I need something more stable.” ~ Vince, dating eight months
When emotional security is strong and resilient…
- “He’s my rock. I’ve learned over the years that I can trust him with anything!” ~ Barbara, celebrating her thirtieth wedding anniversary
- “We’ve been through some tough times together, and we’ve both said some things I wish could be taken back. But when push comes to shove, we’ve always had each other’s back.” ~ Trish, with her partner for fourteen years
EMOTIONAL SAFETY IS NECESSARY FOR EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
The latest research in neurobiology shows that emotional safety is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying connection in a loving relationship. We need to feel safe before we’re able to be vulnerable, and as Brené Brown reminds us, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.”
Some people get turned off by the idea of prioritizing safety in their relationship because they equate a “safe” relationship with a “boring” one, but it turns out that the secure relationship we all long for is cultivated best when we feel safe.
Stephen Porges, Ph.D., a pioneer in the field of neuroscience and one of the world’s leading experts on the autonomic nervous system, confirms that we have an imperative for safety deeply wired into our minds and bodies.
9 REASONS WHY YOU JUST SHOULD NOT BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX
Knowing a relationship is over is the hardest part especially if you’re just getting out of a long-term relationship. Breakups are really painful and, regardless of how they happen, you always feel like you don’t want to let that one person to completely disappear from your life.
So what do you do? You decide to remain friends? Let me tell you one thing, this is a very bad idea for several reasons and you can see why for yourself below.
9 QUESTIONS THAT WILL INVITE MORE PEACE INTO YOUR MARRIAGE
It’s a troubled world out there. But it doesn’t have to be troubled in your home. You and your spouse can create peace in your marriage with this one simple thing—humility.
But that word can be kind of vague, and it doesn’t always sound very fun. So what does it mean to be humble? C.S. Lewis is quoted as saying,
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”
And what’s a good way to put that into practice? Here’s one easy way to work on humility and bring peace into your home: ask questions.
LEARNING TO LOVE
“‘Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?’ Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:36-40, NIV)
Someone else said with tongue-in-cheek, “Heaven help your neighbor if you hate yourself!” They were right.
Every normal person wants and needs loving relationships, but if we hate ourselves we are not going to experience loving relationships. We will unconsciously project our self-hatred onto others and set them up to reject us, for what we project is what we get back!
25 WAYS TO GIVE YOUR SPOUSE THE TIME OF DAY
Aaron & April Jacobs
Your spouse deserves your attention.
You know, a little of your time, your listening ear, your caring concern, and some face-to-face time.
According to Google dictionary, attention can be defined as,
1. Notice taken of someone or something; the regarding of someone or something as interesting or important.
2. The action of dealing with or taking special care of someone or something.
THE HABIT OF CRITICISM IS POISONOUS TO ANY RELATIONSHIP
No one wants to stay in a relationship that makes them feel more judged than admired. Yet, it’s too common for couples to see the other person as the problem.
And since the other partner is the problem, the only solution is for them to change…right?
- If only she would stop criticizing you and start appreciating all of the things you do to help out with the family, things would get better.
- If only he would give more attention to the house and kids, you wouldn’t have to nag him with what needs to get done.
It’s hurtful to be on the receiving end of criticism, and it feels even worse to feel like you have to nag your partner because your requests are being ignored.
7 SIGNS YOUR FRIENDSHIP IS MEANT TO LAST FOREVER
A friend who will stay by your side no matter what is really hard to find. We all make friends and most of the time these friendships are shortlived or are just maintained at a certain level.
Out of a huge gang, you might connect to just one person on a completely different level, or if you’re a lucky one, you get an entire everlasting group of BFFs.