8 WAYS YOU MAY BE SETTING YOUR CHILD UP FOR FAILURE
In your quest to be a good parent, you might be shocked to realize a few things you’re doing could be the source of your child’s problems. Are you doing any of these?
Parents want what is best for their children. So it might shock you if your children are not turning out as you hoped. Many times the problems can be traced back to a few simple things. Here are some common parenting mistakes that may be setting your child up for future problems:
Let them miss school
HOW A PARENT’S AFFECTION SHAPES A CHILD’S HAPPINESS FOR LIFE
How often do you hug your children?
We all live busy, stressful lives and have endless concerns as parents, but it is clear that one of the most important things we need to do is to stop and give our kids a big loving squeeze. Research over the past decade highlights the link between affection in childhood and health and happiness in the future.
According to Child Trends – the leading nonprofit research organization in the United States focused on improving the lives and prospects of children, youth, and their families – science supports the idea that warmth and affection expressed by parents to their children results in life-long positive outcomes for those children.
Higher self-esteem, improved academic performance, better parent-child communication, and fewer psychological and behavior problems have been linked to this type of affection. On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self esteem and to feel more alienated, hostile, aggressive, and anti-social.
5 TIPS ON OFFERING ADVICE TO ADULT CHILDREN
As you and your children age, your role as a parent changes. Here are some tips and tricks on continuing to parent your grown children.
Parenting adult children can seem like an oxymoron, times two! “Adult children” occupy an amorphous space in your mind, and perhaps in the dictionary. How can you be both a child and an adult? Parenting an adult just sounds mutually exclusive. After all, adults don’t need parenting, right? Once you reach the age of 18, of course you know everything there is to know about life, love and happiness. Perhaps according to the law once the age of emancipation is reached, adults are responsible for their own lives, and counted and entrusted as individuals. But in families, this rarely happens through any passage of time.
As a parent or grandparent, you may feel compelled to share your knowledge, wisdom and life experiences with your adult children, but take care in sharing. The message may be enlightening, amazing or even inspiring. But frustrated recipients often shoot the messenger!
HOW TO BECOME A LESS WORRISOME PARENT
In the busy daily routine of being a parent, we can become overburdened by the planning and worry that comes along with our job. Practicing mindfulness is a wonderful way to learn to stay in the moment, and make the most of our time with our kids.
Parenting is a big job. As our children grow, we can get lost in the tumultuous tides of worry. Many parents are busy trying to balance careers, relationships and households on top of the daily trials that parenting can bring. With all of the many details that pile up, it is easy to lose sight of the priceless moments that pass as we strive to keep up with all that life demands.
And yet, ask any parent what their favorite part of having children is, and rarely will you hear things like “planning a weekly menu,” or “keeping the kitchen floor clean.” I have yet to meet a mom who proudly declares that “keeping tabs on my son’s screen time” is the highlight of her job as a parent. We feel most fulfilled as parents in those precious and fleeting times when our whole heart is filled with the thoughts of how much we love this little person.
4 WAYS YOU ARE HURTING YOUR CHILD’S FUTURE WITHOUT EVEN REALIZING IT
Parents want to do all they can to make their children’s lives the best they can be, but in their eagerness to help, sometimes they inadvertently do things that can sabotage that bright future they hope to build for their offspring.
Every parent knows from the moment their children burst onto the scene they have a long road ahead filled with sleepless nights, dirty diapers, parent-teacher conferences and band concerts or soccer games. In your eagerness to your children, you may inadvertently do things that can sabotage that bright future you hope to build for their offspring.
Here are a few ways you may be hurting your child’s future without even realizing it.
9 TIPS YOU’VE NEVER HEARD OF FOR GETTING BABY TO BED
Figuring out how to get baby to sleep is one of the toughest parts of parenthood. And there is no one right answer for every baby. You might have to try a few of these techniques before finding one that works for you.
When my son was born, I heard all kinds of theories about how I could get him to sleep better at night. By the time he was 3 months old, I was desperate for sleep and still hadn’t slept for longer than three hours straight at night. A friend of mine gave me the book, “Babywise” but I was terrible at keeping a consistent schedule. Another friend told me I should let him cry-it-out (CIO) but I hated hearing him cry. I also found I hadn’t the patience to rock him back to sleep every time he woke. Here are 5 reasons to get your child to bed on time.
Eventually, I realized that for some babies struggling with sleeping is just normal. But there are also some strategies that can help ease their sleep difficulties. I’m guessing most readers have heard of setting up bedtime routines and the importance of putting the baby down drowsy but awake. So the following are some less well-known tips to supplement whatever efforts you’ll already making to sleep train your baby.
4 WAYS TO GUARANTEE YOUR KIDS WILL HAVE A POWERFUL FUTURE
In all you do to guarantee a strong future for your kids, don’t forget to do these 4 things.
It may be a lack of effort on the part of your parents that motivates you to be the kind of parent they weren’t, or you may find yourself trying to emulate your parents because you realize the older you get that they really gave you their very best.
Either way, there is no such thing on this earth as a perfect parent, but there are a few things you can do to set your kids on a path to success.
13 WAYS TO BE THE MOST ANNOYING DAD ON THE PLANET
When it comes to keeping tabs and showing up, the NSA has nothing on a conscientious dad.
Between his goofy socks with sandals with sweats look, the 20 questions he asked when I left the house and the way he chatted up all the other people in my life, I used to think my Dad had to be the most annoying guy on the planet. Now, I realize he was just the most loving.
Research has shown that children with involved, loving fathers are significantly more likely to do well in school, have healthy self-esteem, exhibit empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid high-risk behaviors including drug use, truancy and criminal activity. Society could use a little more of that.
12 WAYS TO BE THE MEANEST MOM IN THE WORLD
When your kids tell you you’re mean, take it as a compliment. The rising generation has been called the laziest, rudest, most entitled kids in history. Don’t give up. They may think you’re mean now, but they’ll thank you later.
Once, I walked out of the store without giving into my child’s tantrum for a cookie. A woman stopped me in the parking lot and told me I was the best parent in the shopping center. My daughter wasn’t so sure. When your kids tell you you’re mean, take it as a compliment. The rising generation has been called the laziest, rudest, most entitled kids in history. The stories about spoiled rotten kids scare the best of moms. Newsflash: it’s not the kids’ fault, it’s the parents. It’s easy to want to throw in the towel with your own kids. After all, don’t we all want to be the cool mom? Don’t give up. They may think you’re mean now, but they’ll thank you later.
Here are 12 ways to be the meanest mom in the world:
7 WAYS YOU MAY BE RUINING YOUR CHILD
You’ve probably done more than one of these. If you don’t watch out, you could be setting your child up for failure. But there is still time to fix it. No child is a completely lost cause.
Your child is screaming their lungs out when they should be taking their morning nap. You’re up against a wall with a project deadline and any ounce of focus you may have had is decimated. We’ve all been there, right? In an act of desperation for peace and quiet, you resort to what you feel is your only option: quit fighting him and plop him down in front of the television.
As parents, these situations seem to creep in on a daily basis. Some are situations we’re aware of, but others are a bit sneakier and we are unknowingly hurting our children. To help expose you to the truth (sorry about that), here are seven ways you may be ruining your children.