11 things no one tells you about newborns (that every parent needs to know)

11 THINGS NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT NEWBORNS (THAT EVERY PARENT NEEDS TO KNOW)

Kristen Price

You’ve read all the parenting books, you have the nursery prepped and your hospital bag is waiting by the door. But before you bring that little bundle of joy home with you, there are a few things you should know about newborns.

  1. They’re not as cold as you think they are

Imagine someone wrapping you in a hat, scarf and large fleece blanket when you’re already comfortably warm. Many people assume (for reasons unknown) their babies are freezing even in temperature-controlled homes. Sure, you want your baby to be comfortable, but don’t overthink it. If you’re not freezing, your newborn probably isn’t either.

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A father’s love: it’s complicated, and quite simple

A FATHER’S LOVE: IT’S COMPLICATED, AND QUITE SIMPLE

Kelly Flanagan

“Daddy, is there going to be music for us to dance to, or did you just trick me into coming to a party?”

It’s our first Daddy-Daughter Dance. In the corner of the gymnasium, one particularly stressed-out father is fidgeting desperately with an iPhone and the big speaker to which it’s attached. The speaker remains silent.

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Meanwhile, the rest of us dads stand in a ring around the gymnasium. We’d prepared ourselves for the awkwardness of dancing in front of other men, but it turns out talking to each other is just as awkward. While we pretend to be comfortable in our own skin, our daughters are turning the gym into a beehive of little girls and pink, popping balloons. Caitlin is right—it doesn’t look like a dance; it looks like a party. On meth.

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The 3 reasons you should not try to make anyone happy

THE 3 REASONS YOU SHOULD NOT TRY TO MAKE ANYONE HAPPY

Kelly Flanagan

We are shoveling mulch like our lives depend upon it.

My three kids are loading wheelbarrow after wheelbarrow, and I’m hauling and dumping and spreading and sweating. Eventually, my nine-year-old son Quinn asks a completely reasonable question. “Why are we going so fast?” I tell him I want the flower beds to look beautiful when his mom gets home. To which he responds with another totally reasonable question: “Because you are trying make her happy?”

The word “exactly” is on the tip of my tongue. But then I bite my tongue.

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The real reason back-to-school makes us so emotional

THE REAL REASON BACK-TO-SCHOOL MAKES US SO EMOTIONAL

Kelly Flanagan

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The summer is fading—and the sun is rising—as I drive my son to his summer job.

At thirteen-years-old, Aidan has spent his summer riding a bus into the cornfields, along with other teenagers, walking row after row of corn, and pulling the tassel from each stalk, so the rows can pollinate each other. As we cross a river, he looks to the west, where the night is slowly giving way to day. He says it’s beautiful how you can see the layers of night disappearing in the sky. We talk about how, even farther west, there are people still sleeping in the dark, unaware of the passage of time.

This image haunts me.

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A Daddy’s Letter to His Little Girl (About Her Future Husband)

A DADDY’S LETTER TO HIS LITTLE GIRL (ABOUT HER FUTURE HUSBAND)

Dr. Kelly Flanagan

Father Daughter Dance

Dear Cutie-Pie,

Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”

It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.

And I got angry.

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The reason every kid should talk back to their parents

THE REASON EVERY KID SHOULD TALK BACK TO THEIR PARENTS

Dr. Kelly Flanagan

The parent in me wants to squash every little insurrection as quickly as possible. But the psychologist in me is glad when my children say “No.” This is why…

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Sunlight is dawning across the living room floor, and the dollhouse is full of Lego Star Wars action figures. They’re sleeping in beds, sitting on toilets, cooking breakfast, and one rogue Jedi is standing on the roof. On an early autumn morning, my daughter and I play dollhouse as the rest of the household slumbers.

Her older brother wakes up, walks into the room rubbing his eyes clear, and sees his new birthday presents defiled by a dollhouse. A look of horror takes over his face—like his dog is lying dead in the road—and he pushes past us to snatch up his action figures.

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The Sex Fast

I think all parents should read this:

THE SEX FAST!

Daughter (Coughs out): Hmmm…

Mum (looks up at her daughter, then continues picking her beans): Any gist for Mummy?

Daughter (looks at her Mum): I think I am not normal anymore…like, I am sick.

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The Sex Fast

I think all parents should read this:

THE SEX FAST!

Daughter (Coughs out): Hmmm…

Mum (looks up at her daughter, then continues picking her beans): Any gist for Mummy?

Daughter (looks at her Mum): I think I am not normal anymore…like, I am sick.

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40 Compliments Every Child Should Hear

40 COMPLIMENTS EVERY CHILD SHOULD HEAR

A large part of our childhood memories are connected to small but important moments we remember for many years to come. Not because of what occurred but because of how we felt. Some made us angry or lonely, while others made us hopeful, made us laugh and feel optimistic.

Compliments and simple words of encouragement have a lasting effect on the way our children and grandchildren will see the world. Some of the simplest and shortest words can make them feel better about themselves and continue to encourage them through hard times as well.

Below are 40 compliments and encouragements every child or grandchild needs to hear. They are simple to say, but will stay with them for years, we promise!

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A dad’s letter to his son (about the only good reason to get married)

A DAD’S LETTER TO HIS SON (ABOUT THE ONLY GOOD REASON TO GET MARRIED)

Dr. Kelly Flanagan

Dear Son,

It seems like yesterday you were blowing poop out of your diaper onto your mother’s lap. Yet here we are, on the verge of the birds-and-the-bees conversation. The poop was way easier.

Before we talk about sex, though, I want to talk about marriage. Not because I’ll shun you or shame you if you don’t put them in that order—although I hope you will—but because I believe the only good reason to get married will bring clarity to every other aspect of your life, including sex.

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Buddy, you’re probably going to want to get married for all the wrong reasons. We all do. In fact, the most common reason to get married also happens to be the most dangerous: we get married because we think it will make us happy. Getting married in order to be happy is the surest way to get divorced.

There are beautiful marriages. But marriages don’t become beautiful by seeking happiness; they become beautiful by seeking something elseMarriages become beautiful when two people embrace the only good reason to get married: to practice the daily sacrifice of their egos. 

Ego. You may be hearing that word for the first time. It probably sounds foreign and confusing to you. This is what it means to me:

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