THE QUESTION AT THE HEART OF EVERY PARENT-TEEN RELATIONSHIP
His silence is driving me crazy.
For two months, we’ve been dropping him off at the local community theater for rehearsals. He has performed in the theater before, and always the routine is the same. For months, we wonder what sort of role he is playing, and for months, he refuses to even read lines with us. He won’t reveal the show as it is being formed, because he wants us to first experience it when it is finally performed. Maybe that’s a teen thing, but probably it’s just a human thing: at some level, we all wish we could present ourselves to the world finely polished and finally finished.
Now, it’s opening night. The spotlights are on. The seats are full. His mother and I sit in the front row, looking slightly upward at the stage. The waiting, for us, is over. I will finally hear my son speak. The play begins.
HOW TO RESCUE YOUR MARRIAGE FROM EMPTY NEST SYNDROME
When their three children were young, Lisa and Roger dreamed about what it would be like when their kids left home. They’d do the things they enjoyed together before they became parents. But by the time the last child moved out, their relationship wasn’t what it used to be. Their marriage was suffering from empty nest syndrome.
Lisa and Roger worked hard to put their kids through college. As a labor and delivery nurse, Lisa took extra shifts. She also became an independent beauty consultant for Mary Kay. As a general contractor, Roger took every home remodeling job he could.
Outside of work, shuttling the kids to various activities sent Lisa and Roger in different directions. When they did have time together, they talked about the kids. Sex was infrequent and for Lisa it was unsatisfying.
HOW TO BE A PARENT YOUR CHILD WANTS TO TALK TO
As a child therapist, the most common complaint I hear from parents is, “He just won’t talk to me.” Feeling estranged from your own child is painful, and it has implications for the child. Research indicates the most important predictor of a child’s emotional and psychological stability is the closeness of the parent/child relationship. Obviously, if the child is not opening up when they are upset, the relationship is not as close as it needs to be.
There are two habits that parents routinely engage in that shut down communication and drive a child away: negating feelings and mistaking sympathy for empathy.
Sympathy vs. empathy
DISTRACTED WHILE PARENTING? HERE’S HOW TO BE MORE ATTENTIVE
Parenting is often described as one of the best and most stressful jobs that a person can take on. Becoming a parent is an incredible responsibility that comes with a new set of rules, and the need to constantly be “on.” So what happens when parents go from being “on” top of things to being distracted and “on” their phone maybe a little too often?
The term for this phenomenon is distracted parenting. You may not have heard this term before, but you’ve likely seen it in action. Here are some examples of distracted parenting:
- An entire family on their phones at a restaurant, not even making eye contact.
- At a playground, a child is misbehaving and would likely be corrected if their parent was not texting.
- At an event and one kid is running out of the door with no adult present and you think, “Where is the adult?”
Please find time to read this real-life story. It will be of immense benefit to our children. God bless and help us to be worthy parents.
MY WICKED MOTHER
Mrs. Ajala heard her friend’s phone ring. When she checked it, she was taken aback at the caller’s name on the screen – My Wicked Mother. The phone kept ringing till her friend came in to receive the call.
Mrs. Ajala gently asked, ‘Who was that?’
“My mother,” replied Folashade. Dumbfounded, Mrs. Ajala could not probe further.
5 UNIQUE WAYS TO BOND WITH YOUR CHILD
These will not only create a bond, but lasting memories and traditions.
Parents get lots of advice on how to bond with their children, but sometimes the bonding advice (like brushing your daughter’s hair) just falls into the category of daily life. Here are five ways you can easily make parent child bonding exciting, unique and memorable.
Living room camping
WHAT HAPPY MOMS DO THAT ANGRY MOMS DON’T
There are some very clear-cut differences between happy and angry mothers. Here are a few things I’ve discovered.
I love my job. I work a 24-hour shift every weekend at a Domestic Violence Shelter. I essentially just play with kids and talk with moms about how to be happy on their own. In the time that I have been there, I have seen some truly marvelous mothers come through the doors. Mothers who pour on the love and act as an anchor for their children to rest on. I have seen the other side of motherhood as well. I have seen mothers threaten, yell, degrade and ignore. I have seen the whole spectrum.
In my time with these mothers and with my personal friends and family, I have noticed some very clear-cut differences between “happy moms” and “angry moms.” Here’s what I’ve observed:
MARRIED WITH KIDS
Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera
Parenthood is a true test of a marriage.
Nothing disrupts a warm and loving relationship like kids. While some may argue that children add to a marriage, the reality is most will go through a decline after the first child is born. But regardless of whether the marriage gets worse, stays the same, or in rare cases actually improves, there’s no denying it will be different.
Parenthood is such a radical departure from how couples had lived together before that it’s almost impossible to be prepared for it. Daily life is likely to take a turn for the chaotic, and many will feel stressed out and out of control. Couples can become more reactionary and arguments can become more intense because they’re both overburdened.
How well couples adjust to children can depend on a lot of factors. One has to do with how they cope with a changing personal definition. When we become parents, we are forced to adopt a new role. In most situations, when faced with a new role, we don’t immediately take it on. We change how we define ourselves gradually as we gain experience and get used to this role. In parenthood, the new role is thrust upon a couple literally from one day to the next, and they have no choice but to adjust.
WHY A WOMAN NEEDS TO BE PRAYERFUL
In Luke 7, Jesus observed a huge funeral procession in Nain. The entire town was present. He observed the young men and women weeping. He observed the pastors and apostles weeping. He observed the elders weeping. He observed the fathers weeping. He observed the children weeping. He observed the sadness on people’s faces.
Nothing seemed to move Him, until HE SAW THE MOTHER. The Bible says He had compassion when He saw her and immediately raised her boy from the dead. (Luke 7:12-15). It was the cry of a mother that moved the Heart of God.
Still today, Mothers who cry before the Lord for their families, for their marriages, for their homes, move the Heart of God. When MOTHERS stop praying, their families (especially their children) perish. Satan gets a foothold and starts to destroy the home, yet when they return to their rightful place as the anchor of the home, demonic strongholds get demolished.
Please every parent and guardian should teach their children and wards, especially toddlers, very early about ‘PANTS’ rules. Times have changed and the world has become a very sick and pathetic place to live. There are many paedophiles and rapists out there. Be careful, and note that everyone is a suspect here.
We must prayerfully protect our children by arming them with the right information:
P – Private parts are private. Nobody is permitted to touch them.
A – Always remember that your body is yours and yours only.