16 TINY STORIES OF REGRET THAT WILL CHANGE THE WAY YOU LIVE
Ten years from now, it won’t really matter what shoes you wore today, how your hair looked, or what brand of clothes you wore. What will matter is how you lived, how you loved, and what you learned along the way.
Deep down you know this already, right?
Yet today, just like the majority of us, you are easily distracted and derailed by the insignificant.
You give too much of your time to meaningless time-wasters.
5 EASY WAYS TO UNCOMPLICATE YOUR LIFE
“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Leonardo Da Vinci once said that, and I don’t think anything could be closer to the truth.
But how can we bring more simplicity into our complex lives? How can we uncomplicate things for ourselves?
It’s time for a reality check…
Life is actually pretty simple, but we insist on making it complicated!
Here are a few easy ways to uncomplicate it:
CHRONIC STONEWALLING IMPRISONS A RELATIONSHIP
Have you ever watched a child try to get attention from their mom or dad?
“Pay attention to me.”
“Look at me.”
“Mommy, daddy, watch me.”
But what happens if the child’s attachment figure is unavailable and unresponsive? The child will experience distress.
It doesn’t matter if you are 5 months old or 45 years. There are still two basic responses to an unavailable attachment figure.
5 THINGS UNHAPPY PEOPLE REFUSE TO ADMIT TO THEMSELVES
Marc and I recently went roller skating for the first time in forever. Everyone else skating was pretty young, except one man in his late 50’s. He kept falling down, smiling and laughing. And all the kids skating kept smiling and laughing along with him. Finally, I asked him why he decided to skate today and he said, “I was at work earlier and realized I had never been roller skating. And although life hasn’t been easy lately, here I am cracking myself up. It’s totally been worth it!”
Talk about a great reminder, for all of us! Even when life is tough we can choose to smile.
But so many of us don’t…
WHOA, THAT’S DEEP!
Dr. Kelly Flanagan
When we moved from the suburbs back to my rural hometown, I thought we’d be trading the cacophony of Chicagoland for the quiet of the country. And, in a way, we did. The thing is, the countryside wasn’t as quiet as I thought it would be. In a really good way…
On a spring morning, the birds twitter and tweet and make a concert of their morning song. On a summer evening, the cicadas crescendo in the crowded trees, until, in the small hours of the night, they finally quiet, and the crickets take over, with their constant hum. On an autumn afternoon, dry leaves rustle in the treetops, and they skitter raspy along two-lane roads. In the winter, a snowfall can lay undisturbed for hours, and the muffled world fills your ears with the tinny ringing of your own blood rushing.
SEE WHAT CHILDREN FROM RICH HOMES AND IN PRIVATE SCHOOLS DO BEHIND THEIR PARENTS
… It was a pool party.
And they were there.
Men who have ‘arrived’.
Money, power and fame.
Men in their prime who tell time to hold still since they have refused to age and it grudgingly obeys in detente and in temporaneous.
They dress young, they dance young, they act young.
10 THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN EVERYTHING YOU WANT IS OUT OF REACH
Doubt your doubts before you doubt your faith.
That’s the super-short version of my advice for those moments when nothing seems to be going as planned—when everything you want seems out of reach.
Yes, just be right where you are, with an open mind.
Let go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and sincerely appreciate it for everything that it is.
Easier said than done of course, especially when tragedy strikes. And although Angel and I have coped and grown through our fair share of real tragedies, let’s be honest about something: 98% of the time we create tragedy in our lives out of fairly minor incidents. Something doesn’t go exactly as planned, but rather than learn from the experience, we freak out about it and let stress become us.
3 TOXIC BELIEFS MOST PEOPLE THINK ARE NORMAL
Let me tell you with a quick personal story and give you something important to think about…
When I was in my early twenties, I had tunnel vision and expected life to be a certain way. I studied my failures until I lost sight of my successes. I surrendered my dreams to feel a sense of comfort. I held tight to my fears and shielded myself from love and happiness by refusing to put myself out there. I sat home most nights and picked at my scars until I saw no beauty left in the mirror. And as I did all of this, I desperately wondered why life was so miserable.
Obviously, I was very lost. My own toxic beliefs and ensuing behaviors had gotten the best of me. But after some extensive soul searching, lots of reading, and diligent daily practice, I learned to do things differently, and I found myself again. I tell you this because I know you struggle with similar inner demons – we all do at times. Sometimes the ideas and habits we get comfortable with end up killing us inside.
A HUSBAND ASKS WIFE TO DRAW WHAT’S ON HER MIND
Stephen from the US recently posted a drawing of his wife’s mind and it went viral. He asked her to draw what she’s thinking and the elaborate map of her thoughts shows that it’s nowhere near ‘nothing’!
“I thought the drawing was hilarious,” Stephen told Bored Panda. “She’s always telling me that she has trouble falling asleep (to the point where she sometimes writes short novellas in her mind to distract her enough so she can drift off to sleep). She often mentions that I would not be able to survive a day in her brain and after seeing this drawing, I just may believe her.”
10 LITTLE THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN LIFE NO LONGER EXCITES YOU
Once upon a time, there was a girl who could do anything in the world she wanted. All she had to do was choose something and focus. So one day she sat down in front of a blank canvas and began to paint. Every stroke was more perfect than the next, slowly and gracefully converging to build a flawless masterpiece. And when she eventually finished painting, she stared proudly at her work and smiled.
It was obvious to the clouds and the stars, who were always watching over her, that she had a gift. She was an artist. And she knew it too. She felt it in every fiber of her being. But a few moments after she finished painting, she got anxious and quickly stood up. Because she realized that while she had the ability to do anything in the world she wanted to do, she was simply spending her time moving paint around on a piece of canvas.
She felt like there was so much more in the world to see and do – so many options. And if she ultimately decided to do something else with her life, then all the time she spent painting would be a waste. So she glanced at her masterpiece one last time, and walked out the door into the moonlight. And as she walked, she thought, and then she walked some more.