How to deal with difficult emotions

HOW TO DEAL WITH DIFFICULT EMOTIONS

The Gottman Institute

The key to dealing with difficult emotions like anger, confusion, fear, loneliness, and sadness is mindfulness.

Practicing mindfulness enables you to calm down and soothe yourself. When you’re calm, you have space to reflect and thoughtfully respond, rather than react.

Following these six steps will help you to understand and deal with your difficult emotions in a mindful way.

6 Steps to Mindfully Deal with Difficult Emotions

Mindfully dealing with emotions is hard and it takes time. Be kind, compassionate, and patient with yourself and your partner.

Love at First Sight – The Real Truth Behind It

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LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT – THE REAL TRUTH BEHIND IT

Matt Preston

Do you believe in love at first sight? Many people have varying degrees of acceptance when it comes to this kind of love because, quite frankly,  it’s rather shallow. But what does one feel when they experience this? Here is the truth.

As cliché as love at first sight may sound, it’s truly an experience of a lifetime.

Falling in love in an instant

I remember the first time I experienced love at first sight.

I was in my eighth grade, just a little boy sitting in an audience, watching a theatrical play at an interschool competition.

I was mildly fascinated, look at all the new faces in the crowd, from different schools. As I scanned the full hall, my eyes saw a girl I had never seen before.

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10 Hard Things to Remember When You Feel Like Giving Up

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10 HARD THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE GIVING UP

Marc Chernoff

Once upon a time, a young man and woman met, gazed into each other’s eyes, kissed, and knew for certain that they were supposed to be together forever.  In the subsequent days, weeks and months everything fell into place just as they had anticipated.  He was perfect in her eyes, and she was perfect in his.

Oh, it’s the majestic harmony of young love!  When two souls who barely know each other believe they know everything that they must know to live happily ever after in their own blissful bubble.  They think this way because it’s what their emotional hearts and minds tell them is true at the moment.

But you know what happens next.  It’s what always happens next in contrived fairy tales like this.  For one reason or another, logic trumps emotion, their bubble bursts, and the two lovers tumble back down to Earth, bruising themselves along the way and realizing that their perfect, easygoing partner isn’t so perfect or easygoing after all.

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Are Love Laws Throwing You In Relationship Jail?

ARE LOVE LAWS THROWING YOU IN RELATIONSHIP JAIL?

Kyle Benson

What determines whether you feel loved or rejected?

If your partner comes up to you and says “you’re needy,” do you laugh or cry?

Even though we speak the same language with our partner, each of us swims in a sea of private meanings. Growing up in different families with unique life experiences has given each of us separate dictionaries on love.

Our dictionary sets the standard that governs not only how we feel, but how we behave, what we do, and how we act in our lives.

The meaning we give the experiences in our relationship is the judge and jury of our love life. These are what I call Love Laws.

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14 Things You Say or Do That Emasculate Your Man!

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14 THINGS YOU SAY OR DO THAT EMASCULATE YOUR MAN!

Keith Brown

Are you unintentionally saying a few things that may make your man feel emasculated? Here are 14 things you definitely need to avoid saying or doing!

As a woman and a lover, one of the things you take upon yourself is to change your man for the better.

You see his flaws and his imperfections.

And you want to change them for the better.

But really, that’s never a bad thing.

After all, many men are diamonds in the rough that need a bit of polishing to become better versions of themselves.

And especially when you’re in a relationship, isn’t it each partner’s selfless love that helps their partner become the best they can be?

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Is Your Negative Thinking Ruining Your Life?

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IS YOUR NEGATIVE THINKING RUINING YOUR LIFE?

Elizabeth Arthur

Are you secretly ruining your relationships with negative thinking? You may never realize it, but at times, you may just be a negative thinker.

It’s never easy to know if you’re a negative thinker.

At times, even the most logical of people could secretly be dwelling on negative thoughts.

Negative thinking starts off as an explanation to unexplainable circumstances in your life.

And as time passes by, it turns into a way of life.

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Types of Toxic Relationships to Watch Out For

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TYPES OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS TO WATCH OUT FOR

Natalia Avdeeva

Do you feel like you’re losing your identity or your peace of mind in a relationship? You may not realize this but you may be in a toxic relationship.

Toxic relationships are all around us.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you feel more stressed and tired rather than happy and glowing?

You may unknowingly be trapped in a relationship that’s leaving you drained and angry.

Toxic relationships come in many hues.

Sometimes, we date toxic people.

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How to Handle Controlling Behavior in a Relationship

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HOW TO HANDLE CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR IN A RELATIONSHIP

Francesca Marie

Do you feel like you’re being controlled or are too controlling? Find out how to handle controlling behavior in a relationship using these 16 ways.

One of the most common reasons for the downfall of a relationship is one partner’s need to control the other.

To many, controlling behavior isn’t something they try to indulge in, it’s just who they are.

We like to have some control of our lives, and at times, this obsession to control the circumstances in our lives end up turning us into control freaks.

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It’s Time to Stop the Stigma Around Couples Therapy

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IT’S TIME TO STOP THE STIGMA AROUND COUPLES THERAPY

Margaret Rutherford

As a couples therapist, “We came in before there was a real problem” is music to my ears.

This very wise couple doesn’t wait until a crisis hits. No one is flirting with a coworker. Vicious, repetitive arguments aren’t heard late at night. Or worse, silence hasn’t crept into their marriage.

If only this couple were the norm.

Many couples don’t do maintenance on their relationship. Instead, they’re inundated with normal distractions – work stress, piles of laundry, figuring out how to make the car run for one more year, helping the kids with math homework. The list goes on and on. The erosion of their relationship occurs slowly and steadily over time.

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11 Thoughts People Who Are Anxious All The Time Go Through

11 THOUGHTS PEOPLE WHO ARE ANXIOUS ALL THE TIME GO THROUGH

“Did I leave the gas on?” “Did I make an error in my previous email?” “Should I not have said that?”

These are some of the countless thoughts that go on inside an anxious person’s mind. And these worries are alway playing on loop, driving them towards the point of becoming completely petrified of their actions and words. And even if some of these thoughts are what people without anxiety think, anxious people fail to recognise the difference because they are worrying all through the day.

1. “Did I offend them with my words?”

11 Thoughts People Who Are Anxious All The Time Go Through

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