3 TOXIC BELIEFS MOST PEOPLE THINK ARE NORMAL
Let me tell you with a quick personal story and give you something important to think about…
When I was in my early twenties, I had tunnel vision and expected life to be a certain way. I studied my failures until I lost sight of my successes. I surrendered my dreams to feel a sense of comfort. I held tight to my fears and shielded myself from love and happiness by refusing to put myself out there. I sat home most nights and picked at my scars until I saw no beauty left in the mirror. And as I did all of this, I desperately wondered why life was so miserable.
Obviously, I was very lost. My own toxic beliefs and ensuing behaviors had gotten the best of me. But after some extensive soul searching, lots of reading, and diligent daily practice, I learned to do things differently, and I found myself again. I tell you this because I know you struggle with similar inner demons – we all do at times. Sometimes the ideas and habits we get comfortable with end up killing us inside.
THE STRANGE WAY CHILDHOOD SHAPES YOUR ADULT RELATIONSHIPS
Throughout the 1950’s and 1960’s, Harlow unethically experimented with monkeys in order to understand the effects of deprivation on human infants.
He raised infant monkeys in isolation.
Despite being fed, some died. Others were frightened and behaved in an abnormal manner. When he placed these isolated monkeys in a social environment, the monkeys were socially inept.
This makes sense. If you’re 25 and have never interacted with a single human being, then you have no basis of language or social norms, and you will fear others trying to interact with you.
4 MARRIAGE MYTHS THAT RUIN MARRIAGES WITHOUT PARTNERS REALIZING IT
As soon as the engagement ring is slipped on, we are inundated with messages about how our relationship should be. Our friends and family tell us what we should tolerate and what we shouldn’t. It’s “common knowledge” that marriage kills sex, right?
What you believe about your relationship determines the relationship you end up with, and some of these common beliefs can be toxic. They lead couples down the wrong path, or worse, convince them that their marriage is hopelessly going to go up in flames.
These myths ruin countless healthy relationships just because a couple believes there is something fundamentally wrong about it.