Three Daily Rituals That Stop Spouses from Taking Each Other for Granted

THREE DAILY RITUALS THAT STOP SPOUSES FROM TAKING EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED

Peter McFadden

When my wife and I got married, more than twelve years ago now, we were convinced that we would have a happy life together. Our courtship was exciting, and our wedding day was a dream. Little did we know that a switch flipped in both of our heads on the day we said “I do.” Indeed, the very next day—the first full day of our married life—my wife and I would begin taking each other for granted.

It’s only in looking back that I can understand what happened early in our marriage. At the time, the change was so gradual that we didn’t even notice it.

Before our wedding day, our focus was each other, having fun, and building our love. After our wedding day, our focus began to shift. Without realizing it, I viewed our wedding day as the finish line in the courtship race, and I had won the prize: my wife’s love.

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8 Things Healthy Couples Don’t Do

8 THINGS HEALTHY COUPLES DON’T DO

Aaron & April Jacob

We all want to have the “model,” marriage (does that even exist?!), and so we find couples we admire to model our own marriages after.

As important as it is to notice the positive things those couples do, it’s equally important to recognize what they don’t do. Check out this list to see 8 specific things healthy couples don’t do.

1. Expect Perfection

Healthy couples with healthy relationships are real. They understand that everyone is a work in progress, and they don’t expect perfection from their spouse. Rather than worrying about all their spouse’s faults, they focus on improving themselves. Once you’ve reached perfection yourself, then you can begin to expect a little more and start coaching your spouse…but until then, healthy couples choose to look inward.

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Is Love Really a Choice?

IS LOVE REALLY A CHOICE?

Aaron & April Jacob

Once upon a time Dr. Stephen R. Covey told a story about a man he met at a seminar. It’s a fascinating story and suggests something bold and beautiful about marriage that we think you’re going to like.

Listen up:

“At one seminar, after I’d spoken on the importance of demonstrating character within the family, a man came up and said, ‘I like what you’re saying, but my wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other that we used to. I guess we don’t love each other anymore. What can I do?

“‘Love her,’ I replied.

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Taking Your Spouse’s Emotional Temperature

TAKING YOUR SPOUSE’S EMOTIONAL TEMPERATURE

Nurturing Marriage

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Call it sensitivity, call it being “in touch,” call it whatever you want – this small action will make a massive difference in the quality of your marriage.  It’s pretty self-explanatory. If you want to be close to your spouse, you should take your their emotional temperature, daily.

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Play (Emotional) Doctor 

Doctors greet patients (for well or sick visits) by asking questions, taking vital signs, (including a temperature), and making sure that their patients are okay.  As husband and wife, it would be wise to play the role of emotional doctor for your spouse from time to time.

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A father’s love: it’s complicated, and quite simple

A FATHER’S LOVE: IT’S COMPLICATED, AND QUITE SIMPLE

Kelly Flanagan

“Daddy, is there going to be music for us to dance to, or did you just trick me into coming to a party?”

It’s our first Daddy-Daughter Dance. In the corner of the gymnasium, one particularly stressed-out father is fidgeting desperately with an iPhone and the big speaker to which it’s attached. The speaker remains silent.

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Meanwhile, the rest of us dads stand in a ring around the gymnasium. We’d prepared ourselves for the awkwardness of dancing in front of other men, but it turns out talking to each other is just as awkward. While we pretend to be comfortable in our own skin, our daughters are turning the gym into a beehive of little girls and pink, popping balloons. Caitlin is right—it doesn’t look like a dance; it looks like a party. On meth.

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Do You Know What Love Looks Like?

DO YOU KNOW WHAT LOVE LOOKS LIKE?

Nurturing Marriage

Love.  It’s a beautiful thing.  It grows with time, effort, kindness, thoughtfulness, and occasionally some sticking-it-out-through-thick-and-thin.

So, what does love look like?   Well, a lot of things.  Check out this list and stand up and do a little celebratory dance (seriously, do it!) when you recognize something from your marriage. Or – start making your own list. And add to it as time goes on.

Keep nurturing love. Keep nurturing your marriage.

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10 Ways to Choose Joy in Marriage

10 WAYS TO CHOOSE JOY IN MARRIAGE

Nurturing Marriage

In my almost eight years of marriage, I have learned that there are certain things that invite joy into my life and marriage, and there are other things that drain me of joy.

I’ve also learned that joy isn’t circumstantial. It is a choice. Each of us is meant to have joy. Each of us is meant to truly live a full and meaningful life – now.

Definition of Joy

Joy, by my definition, comes from aligning my priorities and choices with my deeply held beliefs – with the truths I know in both my mind and my heart.

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How Strong is Your Relationship? Take the Quiz…

HOW STRONG IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP? TAKE THE QUIZ…

Kyle Benson

This quiz will determine if you and your partner truly meet each other’s needs.

Healthy and happy relationships despite setbacks or problems are built on a sturdy foundation of trust that keeps love strong. The secret to lasting love can be answered in one simple question: When shit happens, can you talk to each other and truly listen?

Does your partner stop and listen when you are hurting? Or do they say, “You’re acting needy. Stop being such a baby. Grow up.”

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10 Ways of Showing Complete Fidelity in Marriage

10 WAYS OF SHOWING COMPLETE FIDELITY IN MARRIAGE

Nurturing Marriage

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines fidelity as both “the quality or state of being faithful,” along with being “[accurate and exact] in details.” When it comes to fidelity in marriage, the details really do matter. Through small and simple things, you can show your spouse that you are completely committed to them, and to your marriage.

Fidelity in marriage demands 100% commitment and prioritizing your spouse above all else. Will that take effort? Work? Sacrifice? Yes, yes, and yes! But, the reward is far sweeter than any price you may feel you have to pay. Loyalty & fidelity are vital to a happy, healthy, safe, and lasting marriage. Loyalty is the foundation of true love. When you show your loyalty through these 10 ways, your spouse will feel safe and secure with you and with your marriage.

1. Loyal spouses are respectful of each other – in private and in person. 

7 Enhancing Lovemaking Conversations for Couples

7 ENHANCING LOVEMAKING CONVERSATIONS FOR COUPLES

Kyle Benson

Lovemaking in a monogamous relationship is said to be heart-pounding, breath-taking, and anxiety-freeing. If that’s true, then how come a committed relationship is when many of us settle for the same sexual positions?

Far too often, spouses become “too important” for experimenting in the bedroom. This takes the mysterious element of sex between two people and puts our wild erotic nature into a jar that will never be opened again.

Sometimes partners stop putting in the effort to seduce their partner. They assume the ring on the finger means they don’t have to try; that a wedding band means you’ll be turned on by me, no matter what I do or how I look. You’ll love me till death do us part.

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