RESEARCH REVEALS THE SECRET TO “HAPPILY EVER AFTER”
If you think the way to eternal love is through grand gestures of romance and passion, think again. Sure, love poems, romantic getaways, and surprise flowers are all wonderful for keeping your relationship happy, but the true secret lies in the small, everyday moments.
Remember those first few months of dating? You would spend endless amounts of energy storing up all of those little quirks, likes, and dislikes of your new love. You would dissect everything he or she said, hungry for more. What is her favorite restaurant? What is his favorite cologne? Does she like it when I tickle her here? How does he feel about me putting my hand on his leg here? It was young, fun, and exciting. It seemed effortless, and in a way, it was. Unfortunately, this type of intoxicating persistence seems to dissipate drastically once complacency kicks in. But why should it?
LEARNING TO LOVE
“‘Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?’ Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:36-40, NIV)
Someone else said with tongue-in-cheek, “Heaven help your neighbor if you hate yourself!” They were right.
Every normal person wants and needs loving relationships, but if we hate ourselves we are not going to experience loving relationships. We will unconsciously project our self-hatred onto others and set them up to reject us, for what we project is what we get back!
25 WAYS TO GIVE YOUR SPOUSE THE TIME OF DAY
Aaron & April Jacobs
Your spouse deserves your attention.
You know, a little of your time, your listening ear, your caring concern, and some face-to-face time.
According to Google dictionary, attention can be defined as,
1. Notice taken of someone or something; the regarding of someone or something as interesting or important.
2. The action of dealing with or taking special care of someone or something.
MARRIED LOVE IS WAY BETTER THAN NEW LOVE
New love is flaunted on sit-com’s, in popular books and movies, and among the celebrities we read about in magazines. Be careful to not get caught up longing for “new love,” when deep and lasting love is sitting right next to you on the couch.
For those who feel like “new love” is flirting with them, we have some news for you: married love is WAY better than new love! Yes, married love is what “happily ever afters,” are made of.
New love. We all know what it feels like. Butterflies. Day dreams. A slight obsession with some new person. Feelings that take us back to our high school days.
9 SHORT POEMS ON LOVE AND HEARTBREAK THAT WILL SOOTHE YOUR SOUL
More than saying it out loud, sometimes it is better to put our feelings into words for it beautifully encapsulates it, be it the feeling of falling in love, being in love or dealing with a heart break. Don’t agree with me?
Here are a few short poems on love and heart break which will prove you wrong and soothe your soul:
1. This poem illustrates the void felt after a separation.
THE 6 COMMANDMENTS OF VULNERABLE COMMUNICATION
Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear.
Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society. We were raised to be quiet; to not be too loud or crazy. We are expected to not draw attention to ourselves, to act like everyone else.
For men like me, that required stuffing our feelings deep down inside and plastering a mask on our face that says to the world, “I’m really happy.” Underneath that stuffing, the plaster is hardened to protect the world from seeing the frustration, confusion and feelings of neglect.
The other day I was asked, “should I bring up every issue from my past relationships right away?” For some of us, this is only a trashcan full of baggage. For others, it’s a landfill of anxiety the size of Texas.