One Hard Reality You Have to Accept to Be Happier and More Successful

ONE HARD REALITY YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT TO BE HAPPIER AND MORE SUCCESSFUL

Angel Chernoff

We all want things in life. We all have dreams and desires.

And we all have the potential to get more of what we want.

However, most of us want the reward without the risk. The shine without the grind. The free lunch.
But you can’t have a destination without a journey. And a journey always has costs – at the very least, you have to invest your time and energy into it every step of the way.
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One Lie We Learned When We Were Younger that Still Holds Us Back

ONE LIE WE LEARNED WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER THAT STILL HOLDS US BACK

Angel Chernoff

“Starting over is not an option!”

That’s a lie many of us hold on to until the bitter end.

The idea of starting over being a bad thing is baked right into the fabric of our society’s education system. We send our children to a university when they’re 17 or 18, and basically tell them to choose a career path they’ll be happy with for the next 40 years. “But, what if I choose wrong?” I remember thinking to myself. And that’s exactly what I did, in more ways than one.

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The Hardest Thing You Need to Do to Be Happy

THE HARDEST THING YOU NEED TO DO TO BE HAPPY

Àngel Chernoff

As human beings, the stories we subconsciously tell ourselves about our circumstances, about others, and about life in general drastically changes how we feel. If the stories are positive, we tend to feel good. If the stories are negative, we tend to lose hope.

Of course, there’s more to feeling good than just thinking positive. The details of your present reality matter and make a difference, but generally speaking, you’re not going to have a good day today if you’re hell-bent on telling yourself otherwise.

To a degree you know this already, right? But there’s more…

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An Open Letter to Those Who Are Trying to Make the Best of a Bad Situation

AN OPEN LETTER TO THOSE WHO ARE TRYING TO MAKE THE BEST OF A BAD SITUATION

An Open Letter to Those Who Are Trying to Make the Best of a Bad Situation

“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness.”
― Iain Thomas

This article was inspired by a short email we received this morning from a new course student:

Dear Marc and Angel,

There’s so much meaning and value I want to foster in my present life, and yet a tragic past continues to drag me down.  I feel like I have weights tied to my ankles.  It’s the heaviness of grief that still sneaks up on me.  Truly, I’ve been through a lot – the toughest and most heartbreaking of which was losing my husband in a car accident when he was only 35-years-old.  And right now, six years later, I’m at a point where I’m trying to make the best of a bad situation, but I wake up on some mornings and just can’t seem to let go of the way things were “supposed to be” in my life.

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7 Things Emotionally Strong People Don’t Do

7 THINGS EMOTIONALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T DO

Angel Chernoff

When you add up over a decade worth of online conversations with our community of readers, the live events we’ve hosted in support of our book, and hundreds of one-on-one coaching sessions with course students, Marc and I have a lot of experience when it comes to helping people find and resolve the pain points that have been holding them back.  But I am still frequently surprised by the interesting ways people frame questions about their challenges.

Last night a reader named Karla sent me an email that caught my attention, simply because the subject of her email read: “Things Emotionally Strong People Don’t Do” (An interesting title for an article, I thought.)

Part of Karla’s email read:  “I love your book.  It has helped me get through some seriously tough times.  But even though I’ve made progress, I often struggle with emotional weakness.  I persistently resist what I know I need to do for myself.  So I was wondering, what do emotionally strong people NOT do?  The reason I ask is that I’ve spent a lot of time implementing positive habits in my life, but I haven’t really focused on removing any (parallel) bad habits.

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20 things you need to stop doing by the time you’re 25

20 THINGS YOU NEED TO STOP DOING BY THE TIME YOU’RE 25

Heather Hale

High school and college were great, but now they’re long gone. Adulthood starts when you give up these 20 things.

I hate it when people say “something is the new something.” You know — gray is the new black (or something equally insipid). However, I can’t help but agree that 30 really seems to be the new 20. As a woman in my 20s, I’m a little discouraged by the stupid things some of my peers still think is OK. It’s time to step it up and start acting like adults. This is getting embarrassing.

In case you need a primer, here are 20 things you should outgrow by age 25.

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4 things standing between you and success

4 THINGS STANDING BETWEEN YOU AND SUCCESS

Karen Banes

Sometimes the things standing between you and success can be easily removed.

How many times have you set out to achieve something, with the best of intentions and a solid plan, only to see your deadline sailing past with your project still half-finished?

There are many things that stop us achieving our goals, and some of them are beyond our control. But here are a few obstacles that may be in your way that you can do something about.

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3 Hard Things You Need to Do to Be Happy

3 HARD THINGS YOU NEED TO DO TO BE HAPPY

Angel Chernoff

You have to do hard things to be happy in life. The things no one else is doing. The things that frighten you. The things others can’t do for you. The things that make you question how much longer you can hold on and push forward.

Why?

Because those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living – between knowing the path and walking the path – between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.

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Never Touch a Neighbour’s Child

neighbour's child

NEVER TOUCH A NEIGHBOUR’S CHILD

Parentinggist

I am a happy mother of four children.

There are happy moments and there are moments of decision too.

Of course if you have more than a child, then you are in for  “nasty” moments some of  the time.

This is not to discourage you after all as it will leave you with awesome memories and no regrets.

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5 Lies We Learned When We Were Younger (That We Still Live By Today)

5 Lies We Learned When We Were Younger

5 LIES WE LEARNED WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER (THAT WE STILL LIVE BY TODAY)

Marc Chernoff

In 1914, the great inventor Thomas Edison experienced a devastating hardship.  His entire laboratory burned down to the ground, and several years worth of his work was ruined.

Newspapers described the situation as “the worst thing to happen to Edison.”

But that was a lie!

Edison didn’t see it that way at all.  The inventor instead chose to see his circumstances as an invigorating opportunity to rebuild and re-examine much of his current work.  In fact, Edison reportedly said shortly after the fire, “Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up.  Now we can start again fresh.”  And that’s exactly what he and his team did.

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