9 Things You Need to Know about Apologies in Marriage

9 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT APOLOGIES IN MARRIAGE

Crystal Bradshaw

When you need to make an apology, there are several things to keep in mind.

According to clinical psychologist, Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., there are 9 essential ingredients to an apology.

1. A true apology doesn’t include the word “but.”  

When you say “I’m sorry,” and then follow your apology with the word “but,” anything that comes after is an excuse, justification, or a criticism of the hurt party. Even if what you have to say is true, your intention is to give an apology.

By using the word “but” you are giving a false apology. “But” nullifies your apology.

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3 Things You Must Give Up to Move Forward Today

3 THINGS YOU MUST GIVE UP TO MOVE FORWARD TODAY

Angel Chernoff

Let me share a new 90-second story and some important life lessons with you…

Recently, Marc and I received a thank you email from a Think Better, Live Better 2018 attendee named Kevin (we’re writing about him today with his consent). He said our conference helped him and his wife Laura maintain a positive, intentional mindset as they struggled and grew through one of the most difficult periods of their lives. Certain sections of his email nearly moved me to tears:

“As I mentioned to you at this year’s Think Better, Live Better conference, after injuring my back, losing my job because of it, being evicted from our apartment, moving in with Laura’s parents, nursing my five-year-old through a nearly fatal bout of strep throat, I was stuck in a tragic mental and emotional rut for far too long. And I was sitting on the front porch feeling sorry for myself, yet again, when my old college buddy called me crying and said, ‘Mel-Mel-Mellisa, my baby girl, just died in a car wreck.’ And suddenly I felt like the lucky one.”

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21 Big Signs of Emotional Abuse You May Be Overlooking

21 Big Signs Of Emotional Abuse You May Be Overlooking

21 BIG SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE YOU MAY BE OVERLOOKING

Natalia Avdeeva

Emotional abuse is extremely easy to overlook. Just take a look at these 21 signs of emotional abuse to see if you’re being abused instead of loved!

As humans, we’re not dumb. When someone opposes or oppresses us with emotional abuse, we’re always ready to strike back.

But what do you do when you’re manipulated just a little bit every day?

What do you do if you just don’t realize you’re being tricked and duped into abuse with sweet words of love?

What if your love for this person convinces you that you need to bend over backwards just to please them, even if that translates to emotional abuse?

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9 Relationship Stages That All Couples Go Through

9 Relationship Stages That All Couples Go Through

9 RELATIONSHIP STAGES THAT ALL COUPLES GO THROUGH

Elizabeth Arthur

Wondering what relationship stage you’re in right now? Here are the 9 relationship stages that all couples go through, no matter how the love starts.

Relationships are unique.

And one experience of love is never ever the same.

You may have been in several relationships in your life, and each of them may have been very different from the others.

But there are a few traits about every single relationship that bind all relationships along a similar path.

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How to Have a Healthy and Enjoyable Relationship

HOW TO HAVE A HEALTHY AND ENJOYABLE RELATIONSHIP

Team LovePanky

A healthy relationship isn’t hard to experience if you know what really matters. Find out here how to have a healthy relationship with your partner.

If you’ve read the first five points on how to have a healthy relationship (See What is a Good Relationship? – The Signs.), you’d see that most of the factors should come naturally.

You can’t force yourself into a relationship and expect good things to come out of it.

Successful relationships need compatibility and chemistry, and the ten factors mentioned here.

Time may fly and the first few months of infatuation may blossom into mature love, but that’s no excuse to let the excitement fade away.

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10 Early Warning Signs of Midlife Crisis in Women You Can’t Hide

signs of midlife crisis in women

10 EARLY WARNING SIGNS OF MIDLIFE CRISIS IN WOMEN YOU CAN’T HIDE

Samantha Ann

If the signs of a midlife crisis in men are driving a convertible and having an affair, these are the signs of midlife crisis in women.

If a man, starting to go grey, buys a red sports car or starts sleeping with his twenty-something secretary, it can be a major alert that he is having a midlife crisis. But the signs of midlife crisis in women are more subtle. 

What is so different between middle-aged men and women?

Often men are looking to make a change. And usually regarding their masculinity or financial success. Women usually get validation from their relationships. Whether as a wife, mother, or even a friend or employee, women see their worth in a different way then men.

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10 Things Too Many Unhappy People Want More Than Happiness

10 Things Too Many Unhappy People Want More than Happiness

10 THINGS TOO MANY UNHAPPY PEOPLE WANT MORE THAN HAPPINESS

Marc Chernoff

Once upon a time, a young girl awoke hungry and thirsty.  She hadn’t consumed anything to eat or drink for as long as she could remember… and she was lost in a vast desert without food, water, shelter, or any kind of parental care.  But she wasn’t scared.  She was ready!

For throughout her short life, the universe had been crystal clear with her: while other children were granted easier lives in happy homes with loving parents, Christmas trees and birthday parties, her destiny was very different: it was to know suffering… so she could find ways to alleviate suffering in others.

The young girl’s heart pounded hard as she watched the sun rise over the distant horizon.  And she wondered how much more her deprived little body and mind could take.  She was struggling in so many ways, yet she let the universe know, as she often did, that if today was the day… it was OK.  But she wouldn’t give up without a fight!

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11 No-Nonsense Promises Every Girl In Her 20’s Should Make To Herself

11 NO-NONSENSE PROMISES EVERY GIRL IN HER 20’S SHOULD MAKE TO HERSELF

Life never comes with a guide but we often impose so many dos and don’ts on ourselves that we totally kill the unpredictability in our lives. In our 20s, we pressurise ourselves to be prettier, to be richer, to be smarter. Why? Because everyone else is doing the same.

Cut yourself some slack, girls. You’re not the girl who got ‘rejected’ by a guy or the girl who still can’t apply proper nail paint. Your failures say nothing about you. If you’re a woman in 20’s who still sulks because of the guy who got away or the job you couldn’t get because you were not ‘skilled enough.’

Here are a few promises that you really need to make to yourself:

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How To Keep Your Attitude Up When Life Brings You Down

HOW TO KEEP YOUR ATTITUDE UP WHEN LIFE BRINGS YOU DOWN

Angel Chernoff

“I’m exhausted and so very tired of all the anxiety, negativity and stress. Too often my mind is consumed with draining thoughts, and every muscle in my body seems tense. It hurts. I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I don’t want to feel like I live in a whirlwind of constant pressure and exhaustion. I don’t want to just ‘get by’ day to day…”

Those are the opening lines of a story an attendee at our “Think Better, Live Better 2018” seminar shared with me (her commentary was recorded live and I’m sharing this with her full permission). She went on to tell me that expecting negative things to happen has been her way of approaching life. If you can relate in any way at all, it’s time to revamp your mindset.

Our minds are incredibly powerful. They can bring us down or lift us up at a moment’s notice. How we think about things literally changes everything!

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5 Ways to Tell if You’re in the Negative Perspective – And How to Get Out!

5 WAYS TO TELL IF YOU’RE IN THE NEGATIVE PERSPECTIVE – AND HOW TO GET OUT!

Darren Wilk

Over the last couple of weeks we’ve been talking about the negative perspective. This is something that I see a lot in my clients and in my office on a regular basis. It’s quite common and normal to be in the negative perspective but it doesn’t have to be that way.

Today I want to share ways to tell if you’re in the negative perspective and, more importantly, what you can do about it!

What is The Negative Perspective?

The Negative perspective as we learned earlier is a distortion of your view of your partner. It’s not just always seeing the worst in your significant other.

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