Two Words that Will Save Your Marriage

TWO WORDS THAT WILL SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

Nurturing Marriage

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There are two little words that will save your marriage. You know what they are.

“I’m sorry.”

The phrase, “I’m sorry,” invites a healing balm between husband and wife. This balm, if applied often, will heal any wound, and bring spouses together in the heart-to-heart kind of love, and sharing, that marriage was meant to be.

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9 Things You Need to Know about Apologies in Marriage

9 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT APOLOGIES IN MARRIAGE

Crystal Bradshaw

When you need to make an apology, there are several things to keep in mind.

According to clinical psychologist, Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., there are 9 essential ingredients to an apology.

1. A true apology doesn’t include the word “but.”  

When you say “I’m sorry,” and then follow your apology with the word “but,” anything that comes after is an excuse, justification, or a criticism of the hurt party. Even if what you have to say is true, your intention is to give an apology.

By using the word “but” you are giving a false apology. “But” nullifies your apology.

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Have You Apologized to Your Spouse Yet?

Do you ever feel like this?

Or like this?

It happens to the best of us.

In the world of happily-ever-after-and-yet-ever-so-married life, feelings get hurt.

Things get said.
Hard times come.
Tasks get forgotten.
Stress happens.
Promises get broken.

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Love Your Marriage

LOVE YOUR MARRIAGE

Once, a man returned from work and found his wife cooking. She gave him a sweet kiss.

They were so happy. While they were at the dinner table, the woman’s cell phone rang, a message from her friend who wished her good night.

The husband saw the message and got upset, and he did not talk about the matter with his wife and went to the bedroom without having dinner.

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7 Easy Steps to be Blissfully Happy in a Relationship

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7 EASY STEPS TO BE BLISSFULLY HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP

Team LovePanky

Learn the secret behind knowing how to be happy in a relationship. It takes just seven simple steps to bring love and happiness into a relationship.

Bringing happiness into a relationship is one of the simplest things couples can do.

But yet several couples have a hard time keeping love and happiness alive, even if they did experience a lot of it in the first few months or years of the relationship.

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How to Forgive Someone: 15 Positive Ways to Unburden Your Mind

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HOW TO FORGIVE SOMEONE: 15 POSITIVE WAYS TO UNBURDEN YOUR MIND

Dr. Carol Morgan

We’ve all been there… someone did something bad to us, and we’re mad. Steaming mad! But here’s how to forgive someone who has hurt you.

For some reason, forgiveness seems to be one of the most difficult things for a human being to do. It’s almost like people think that if they hold on to the resentment and dwell in the negativity, that somehow it will undo the past. Well, let me tell you what you already know… it won’t. If you really want to hold on to your sanity, you need to know how to forgive someone.

As Buddha once said, “Holding on to resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” While that might sound ridiculous, think about it for a second. It’s true! What good does it do to hold on to the anger? You might think it’s doing some good like punishing the other person, but trust me, it’s not.

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How to Forgive Others Who’ve Hurt You and Why You Should

HOW TO FORGIVE OTHERS WHO’VE HURT YOU AND WHY YOU SHOULD

Seouser

Over the last few weeks we’ve talked about staying positive as a way of not only improving your relationship, but your overall life as well. There are many benefits to remaining positive, even when times get unbearably tough. If you haven’t already, it’d be a good idea to read a few of our last posts.

But there are times when it doesn’t matter how positive you stay, you’re going to get down. A lot of the times this can happen because someone close to you has harmed or hurt you. We don’t mean physically harm you here, that’s another topic altogether. But if you feel like you’ve been wronged by someone, it can be difficult to get back to that positive state of mind.

That’s where the importance of forgiveness comes in.

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7 Guidelines to Help Couples Manage Conflict

7 GUIDELINES TO HELP COUPLES MANAGE CONFLICT

Bernard Golden

Terms for engagement when addressing discord

When you form a romantic relationship, you do so with unique personalities shaped by your past. Based on previous relationships, each of you have developed ideas about how a loved one should respond to your needs, desires, and expectations.

When developing a bond, you also have well-established habits. This includes the way you manage anger when a partner appears to threaten or ignore your needs, desires, and expectations. It’s then not surprising that even the most loving relationships at times involves conflict and anger. This is especially challenging when one or both of you are prone to anger.

Sharing a commitment to value and work on preserving the relationship is key for constructively managing conflict. This isn’t always easy to remember in the throes of discord. It can, at times, be extremely challenging to be respectful and attentive with both your needs and those of your partner. This is especially the case when they seem to conflict with each other. Such conflict most frequently occurs with regard to money, sex, work, parenting, and housework.

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How To Repair Unintentional Hurts In Relationships

HOW TO REPAIR UNINTENTIONAL HURTS IN RELATIONSHIPS

LaVerna Wilk

Hurt feelings don’t always mean your partner did something wrong.

Something that can derail us in conversations with our partner is feeling hurt by an incident in the relationship.  I was recently visiting with a friend and she shared a story about a blowout fight she had with her husband. Being a therapist, I’ve grown used to this over the years.

The wife was sharing a story about how she had hurt her neck and because her range of motion was very limited, for her to turn her head caused pain and spasms in her spine.  They had been driving on the freeway and as he was trying to make a last-minute lane change he asked her to check the lanes beside her because it was easier than for him to try to see for himself.

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10 “Notes to Self” that Will Stop You from Taking Things Personally

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10 “NOTES TO SELF” THAT WILL STOP YOU FROM TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY

Marc Chernoff

Let’s start off with a simple question:

Why do we always take things so personally?

There are admittedly quite a few viable and valid answers to consider.  But, the one Angel and I have found to be most common through a decade of one-on-one coaching with our course students and live event attendees is the tendency we all have of putting ourselves at the center, and seeing everything—every event, conversation, circumstance, etc.—from the viewpoint of how it relates to us on a personal level.  And this can have all kinds of adverse effects, from feeling hurt when other people are rude, to feeling sorry for ourselves when things don’t go exactly as planned, to doubting ourselves when we aren’t perfect.

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