AFFAIRS HAPPEN. NOW HOW DO I SURVIVE?
There is probably nothing more devastating to a relationship than an affair, no matter how big or small.
We understand your pain
The contract two people had between them that was supposed to be unbreakable and impermeable has been broken. The betrayed partner finds themselves wondering about who is this person I am with and have the past years all been a lie.You do not have to go through this alone or without tools to repair the unfathomable damage. We gently support and guide both parties through this and help them understand the context of the affair. We do not minimize the damage but we do believe there is a way to navigate through it and rebuild trust and faithfulness again.
THE GREATER GIFT CAME LATER
My husband was seriously injured at work in August 2002. He was unable to work for about six months. Much of his income is from overtime and his disability pay did not equal even 25 percent of the income we count on. We have five children and this was a massive loss of income for our family. It became necessary for me to work a second full-time job.
Most days I went to my teaching job at 7:00 a.m., went to my second job as a cashier at a local retail store at 4:00 p.m., and dragged myself home around midnight, knowing I had to do the same thing the next day. I still had to do lesson planning and somehow squeeze in family time. I worked seven days a week, and was rarely home. My youngest child, seven years old at the time, missed me so much that he started carrying a picture of me to school in his pocket.
Until then, I’d been very active in my church. But I became too busy for most of my church life and missed many meetings. Word spread about our situation, and I received many calls with words of encouragement and emotional support from fellow church members.
10 SIGNS YOUR SPOUSE IS CHEATING
Diana Brante Morales
Worried that your spouse is being unfaithful? Here are 10 red flags to look out for.
I have watched many marriages be torn apart because of infidelity. It is heart wrenching to witness beloved friends having to live their worst nightmare as they discover their spouse has been selfish and unfaithful. I would never wish it on anyone. Because of this, I have used these awful experiences to collect advice and tips on how to catch a cheater before it is too late in hopes that it may help someone in the future.
Here are 10 of the most common signs that your spouse is cheating:
AFTER CHEATING: RESTORING RELATIONSHIP TRUST
After so many lies and secrets, can trust ever be restored?
How do you define infidelity? Does looking at porn count as cheating? What about webcam sex? If you play around on hookup apps but never actually hook up in person, are you cheating? If you’re chatting with an old flame on social media, is that a form of infidelity? What about playing virtual-reality sex games?
Do you think that you and your partner might have different ideas about the behaviors that do and don’t qualify as infidelity? With all of the uncertainty about what does and does not qualify as cheating, it’s high time we had a universal, digital-era definition. And here it is, as it appears in my book, Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating:
SHOULD YOU TELL YOUR PARTNER YOU CHEATED?
Will telling the truth help or hurt your relationship?
I’m going to say this up front: I am not a fan of lying and keeping secrets in an intimate relationship. If you are looking for someone to tell you that after you cheat you should probably just keep things quiet for the sake of your relationship and your partner’s well-being, because learning that you cheated would be painful for her/him, look elsewhere. Before you do, though, you should know that the glue that holds healthy and enjoyable long-term relationships together is not sex, money, or even the kids. It’s trust. When you violate your partner’s trust, you violate your relationship — even if you’re just keeping secrets as opposed to actually lying (although in my opinion, keeping secrets is just another form of lying).
Consider the definition of infidelity that I use in my recently published book, Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating:
“Infidelity (cheating) is the breaking of trust that occurs when you deliberately keep intimate, meaningful secrets from your primary romantic partner.”
5 SITUATIONS WHERE A DIVORCE IS JUSTIFIED BEFORE GOD
There are many reasons why someone can seek divorce without violating sacred vows made before God.
My greatest wish for couples who are facing problems in their relationship is that they are able to resolve their differences and be happy together. Unfortunately, not all marital problems are so easily conquered.
I often receive messages from readers who explain their serious and devastating problems in their marriage. I always strive to help them identify the problem, suggest ways to treat their wounds and help them rescue their love. Some situations, however, require immediate action. There are many people who need the courage to escape from their toxic relationships as soon as possible.
EASILY INDICATE YOU WANT SEX USING THE AROUSAL SCALE FOR COUPLES
Being sexually rejected by your partner is harsh. For some of us, it can lead to a tornado of questions: Do they desire me? Have I gotten too old and fat? Are they cheating on me?
Partners fall into a tailspin when requests for sex are regularly rejected. This can cause a lot of anxiety and fear. The problem with relationships is that we never know what our partners are thinking.
Perhaps the more we get rejected, the more guarded we become. Or perhaps our past relationships have spread the virus of shame: asking our lover for sexy-time.
WHY PEOPLE CHEAT ON THEIR SPOUSE, ACCORDING TO A RELATIONSHIP EXPERT
Did you know that most cases of cheating have little to do with sexual lust?
Discovering your spouse has been cheating on you can be one of the most heartbreaking things in the world. And unfortunately, it happens too often.
Physical or emotional infidelity occurs in 41 percent of all marriages, according to the AP Journal of Marital and Family Therapy. And over half of both men and women admit to committing infidelity in at least one of any past relationships.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel has worked with many couples who contribute to these statistics. She spent 10 years traveling the world working extensively with hundreds of couples going through infidelity. Through her expansive experience, she’s found three main reasons why people decide to cheat on their loved one, and they aren’t what you’d initially expect.
15 THINGS MEN ONLY DO IF THEY ARE BEING 100 PERCENT FAITHFUL
Faithful men always do these things for the woman they love.
Many people look for loyalty in a potential partner. However, infidelity is becoming more common. Results from a study in 2016 showed 41 percent of married couples admitted to being unfaithful, and over half of men and women said they had been unfaithful before.
But not to worry, if your man has these 15 characteristics, he’ll always be faithful to you: