Why infidelity and divorce are more among African couples

WHY INFIDELITY AND DIVORCE ARE MORE AMONG AFRICAN COUPLES

Whoever says most African couples are not romantic is absolutely telling the truth.

Many marriages are just about sleeping, waking, eating, cooking, raising the kids, working and ageing together till death comes.

Many couples only hug each other when they receive good news.

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To The Woman Who Made Me A Father – Thank You

To The Woman Who Made Me A Father-Thank You

TO THE WOMAN WHO MADE ME A FATHER—THANK YOU

Zach Brittle

To the mother of my children,

That day was such a blur. We hardly knew what was happening to us. It didn’t help that she was two weeks early. Or that she was born on New Year’s Day just hours after we’d gone “all in” on one final kidless party. I will be forever grateful for the triage nurse who finally admitted us so that I could get a nap.

You were incredible that day. That whole nine months. I remember we discovered we were pregnant the day before Mother’s Day. Four days later we were the proud owners of a timeshare in Cabo San Lucas thanks to our boundless optimism, as well as incredible stupidity, about what it would mean for us to become a family.

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7 reasons to stick with your marriage (even if you think your relationship is boring)

7 REASONS TO STICK WITH YOUR MARRIAGE (EVEN IF YOU THINK YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS BORING)

Why do you go home to the same person every day?

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12 habits of people who always have a clean house

12 HABITS OF PEOPLE WHO ALWAYS HAVE A CLEAN HOUSE

Maureen Campaiola

Is your house always a mess? Here are 12 habits that will help keep your home clean and organized.

I love a clean home. It makes me happy to be in an environment that is clean and well organized. If I lived alone I could probably get away with cleaning my house once a month; but that’s not my reality.

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What You Ought to Know about Having a Nanny in Nigeria

Having a nanny in Nigeria

WHAT YOU OUGHT TO KNOW ABOUT HAVING A NANNY IN NIGERIA

Experiences of a Nigerian Parent

My nanny and I, the ugly truth about  having a nanny in Nigeria.

A nanny can either be a blessing to you or a thorn in your flesh. Sometimes you will think you can change them but I tell you, it can be difficult, sometimes as impossible as making the nose of a dog white!

I got my nanny through a friend’s referral. She was a 45-year-old grandma. You might wonder how she became a grandma at that age. Well, that is gist for another day. As part of the routine, we decided to carry out a background check on her; and visit the home address she had earlier provided. Luckily for us, we met her family, and considered her worthy of being hired.

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Pretty Househelp Palava — Housemaids in Lagos

Housemaids in Lagos

PRETTY HOUSEHELP PALAVA — HOUSEMAIDS IN LAGOS

Henry ‘Taiye’ Nwosu

Okay, ….there’s something that happened in my home that I wasn’t sure what to think about it. I choose to call it “Fine House helps wahala.”

One of the many “agents” who refer nannies and/or domestic helps called to say he was bringing a propspective domestic assistant upon our previous request.

So they arrived on this beautiful but sunny Tuesday mid-afternoon. My very lovely wife alerted me at the arrival of the agent and the girl.

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4 Ways Parents Can Balance Couple Time and Family Time

4 Ways Parents Can Balance Couple Time and Family Time

4 WAYS PARENTS CAN BALANCE COUPLE TIME AND FAMILY TIME

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

I continue to see a growing trend in my private practice of partners struggling to find the balance between couple time and family time. Some parents become so focused on their children that they neglect their marriage in the process.

While children thrive when they receive lots of love from caregivers, parents need alone time to recharge and focus on their romantic relationship which brought them together in the first place.

According to psychologist Pat Love, “Each and every day, parents experience the joy of making a child’s life better, more productive, and far more meaningful – all while doing the same for themselves.”

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You killed a fowl

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YOU KILLED A FOWL

As a kid I liked playing with stones, till one day I threw one and it hit and killed my mother’s fowl instantly. I thought I was alone but, surprisingly, my sister was right behind me watching. Then she said, “Give me N100 and I won’t tell Mum.”

I said, “I don’t have the money but please don’t tell her, she will beat me.”

The following day Mum told my sister to wash the plates and sweep the compound. To my surprise she answered, “Mum, TOM said he will do it.” She then came to me and said, “TOM, you wash the plates and sweep the compound or else… Don’t forget you killed a fowl.”

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4 Styles of Parenting And How They’re Affecting Your Family

4 STYLES OF PARENTING AND HOW THEY’RE AFFECTING YOUR FAMILY

Lois Muir-McClain

Can defining your parenting style make you better at it?

Fifty years or more ago, “parenting styles” were hardly a topic of conversation, let alone all of the articles and books written on the subject. It was simply expected that you raise your children the same way your parents raised you, and the way their parents raised them.

Not a lot of thought was given to “What kind of parent do I want to be? What parenting style fits our lifestyle and family?” But as our society has become more psychologically and socially aware, we are more conscious of how particular methods may affect children. Additionally, our cultural conversation now frequently turns to parenting styles and how they affects the big picture.

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A Love Letter To The Imperfect Moms With Messy Lives And The Weight Of The World On Their Shoulders

An Open Letter To Struggling Moms

A LOVE LETTER TO THE IMPERFECT MOMS WITH MESSY LIVES AND THE WEIGHT OF THE WORLD ON THEIR SHOULDERS

Liza Walter

You’re not alone!

Hey, you.

The mom at the grocery store counter with a full cart and a screaming toddler and people eyeing you.

It’s going to be OK!

The mom who’s reading this right now with a baby at your breast and a toddler unraveling your last roll of toilet paper as you worry about the knowledge that you won’t get paid for another week.

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