WHY INFIDELITY AND DIVORCE ARE MORE AMONG AFRICAN COUPLES
Whoever says most African couples are not romantic is absolutely telling the truth.
Many marriages are just about sleeping, waking, eating, cooking, raising the kids, working and ageing together till death comes.
Many couples only hug each other when they receive good news.
WHY I NEVER TALKED ABOUT MY ABUSIVE ARRANGED MARRIAGE
Why did she, and millions of other women remain in abusive marriages? How can she put it behind her?
Recently, I spent a whole night watching YouTube interviews of victims who have suffered/are suffering from domestic violence. At that time I didn’t know why I was doing what I was doing. But I wanted to hear those who’ve had similar lives to mine.
They’ve all suffered to different degrees and at different stages in their relationship. They all had different but equally painful stories to share. At the end of each conversation, the host of the show asks them, “Why would you allow all those wrong things to happen to you? Why didn’t you seek any help?” Most of them didn’t even share their sufferings with anybody. The host asks if they were too ashamed of what happened or of themselves, or was it because they feel no one would understand them? They all replied differently, but none of them knew precisely why.
THE 7 MOST COMMON MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE WHEN THEY GET DIVORCED
Learn from them.
I confess. I was completely overwhelmed by my divorce. Where once I had been on solid ground, now I was at sea without any sense of how I was going to stay afloat, never mind what direction I needed to take. I honestly didn’t know what to do. I was paralyzed, in limbo, while I tried to re-orient myself.
And when I did, I was overwhelmed by the confusing divorce processand my attorney’s sheer lack of empathy. I understand. It’s a business for him — but for me, it was my life.
And now, after my divorce, I can honestly say that, even as a divorce coach, I’m still overwhelmed by picking up the pieces of my life and rebuilding them in a way that serves and fulfills me. Ultimately, divorce is an overwhelming tidal wave of change that happens to you.
A Message on Domestic Violence by a Former Victim Mary Gilliam
10 THINGS TO TRY BEFORE GIVING UP ON YOUR MARRIAGE
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW
Seth and Kayla, both in their late forties and married for fifteen years, are considering divorce. “I’m done with this marriage,” complains Kayla. “I feel unloved and rejected by Seth, we don’t have an emotional connection and rarely have sex anymore.”
Seth puts it like this: “Kayla loves the kids more than me and she’s always on the attack. She keeps threatening to leave, and that might be the best option.”
Many couples like Seth and Kayla are ready to throw in the towel and want quick solutions to save their marriage. Truth be told, this is a common problem, but the solutions are never easy.
9 HABITS THAT LEAD TO DIVORCE
You promised “til death do us part,” but are you doing what you should to really make it last forever?
Every married couple has exchanged vows that promise “til death do us part,” but for far too many marriages, their dreams of “forever” are crushed by divorce. According to government stats from the CDC, America averages one divorce every 36 seconds. That’s roughly 2,400 divorces each day, 16,800 divorces every week and 876,000 divorces per year.
So, how do we stop this epidemic of broken marriages? To bring it even closer to home, how should YOU protect YOUR marriage? I’m convinced that if you’ll avoid these common bad “habits”, you’ll be well on your way to beating the divorce statistics and creating a healthy and happy marriage that will endure through every season of life.