We were engaged to be married but she cheated on me

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“WE WERE ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED BUT SHE CHEATED ON ME”

Mariya Salim

The story of a man who was cheated and broke off his engagement and is rebuilding his life

We never imagine that something terrible can happen to us until it actually does. Was I a fool to think everlasting love exists? Was honesty too much to ask for? Should she not have just told me and moved on with dignity?

Engaged to be married, I caught my fiancé cheating and decided to call the wedding off.

It’s not easy when you share the workplace with your ex and I feel like all eyes are on me and all minds trying to sort out the Gordian knot that my personal life has suddenly become. It’s been two months and I haven’t seen her in the office. It bothers me to think what story she may have spun to explain what happened between us, especially when I get cold stares from her friends.

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Psychology Finally Reveals the Answer to Finding Your Soulmate

PSYCHOLOGY FINALLY REVEALS THE ANSWER TO FINDING YOUR SOULMATE

Luis R. Valadez

We all as social creatures have a deep and underlying desire to find that one perfect person to spend the rest of our days with. That one person when you meet, you feel an uncontrollable attraction to and an illogical sense of familiarity with. As if you’ve known that person for a lifetime, or perhaps lifetimes. Whatever you want to call it, films and TV series alike have romanticized the phenomenon known as the soulmate. But what do we really know about the perfect mate or the ideal partner? Psychology is finally shedding light on the mystery that encapsulates so many hearts and minds around the world in an effort to understand what truly makes two people compatible for a relationship.

The Issue With Compatibility

Dating sites like OkCupid.com or chemistry.com boast about their in-depth personality tests, and claim that someone with similar answers to the questions on their tests can result in finding the perfect mate.

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A Return to Who You Were When You Were Dating

A RETURN TO WHO YOU WERE WHEN YOU WERE DATING

Tawny May

Are you the same girl your husband married?

When we were “just friends” and dating, my husband would frequently tell me that he appreciated how “down” I was–ready for an adventure, chill enough to do nothing (when applicable), easy-going, and the antithesis of demanding. I took pride in that attribute and really tried to embody it in our relationship. I remember hearing him describe me to his friends, and I’d blush when he told them how good I was for him.

​We dated, courted, got married, and basically just swam together in a sea of bliss every day.

But you know how it is–life happens…you can’t stay in your proverbial Kauai forever. Years passed. Work sucked. Free time was scarce. A baby was born. Responsibilities mounted high.

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Attachment Theory Explains Why Your Relationships Fail

ATTACHMENT THEORY EXPLAINS WHY YOUR RELATIONSHIPS FAIL

Kyle Benson

The beliefs you adopt in pursuing your relationships determine the type of relationships you end up with.

We are attracted to those who confirm the beliefs we hold about ourselves.

Meet Miguel. Miguel plays games, hides his true intentions, and manipulates women to stay in a relationship with him. His beliefs about relationships cause him to naturally attract women who also play games and manipulate people. His ex-girlfriend Jamie, who doesn’t play games, was attracted to Miguel initially, but by the third date she grew sick of his behavior.

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How to Date Your Spouse

HOW TO DATE YOUR SPOUSE
Gary and Barb Rosberg

If you’re like many married couples, you’ve gotten caught up in the routine of jobs, parenting, church, and other commitments. And many of those couples are so busy they don’t take time to nurture the foundation of their family – their marriage and their relationship with each other. But when that marriage foundation begins to crumble, everything else will come down with it. And that’s why we want to coach you on how to nurture that relationship – and one of the great ways to do that is by dating your mate.

When you were single, dating was a time to get away alone, to talk, laugh, and have fun together. You took time to learn more about each other, about your past and your dreams for the future. But here’s the deal: Now that you’re married, you need to do the same thing! You need to get away alone and continue to talk, laugh, and have fun together! You need to learn more about each other! And that’s why dating shouldn’t stop with marriage.

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8 things men ONLY do with the woman they love

8 THINGS MEN ONLY DO WITH THE WOMAN THEY LOVE

Mariel Reimann

Don’t second-guess if your man loves you. Read these signs and know for sure.

Men and women show that they care in very different ways. If a man is willing to publicly display his love for a woman, he is not messing around. It takes extreme vulnerability for a man to show and express exactly what he is feeling on such a large scale.

There are at least 8 things a man will only do for the woman he sincerely loves.

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Why a 50/50 relationship is a bad relationship

WHY A 50/50 RELATIONSHIP IS A BAD RELATIONSHIP

Aaron Anderson

Everybody wants a relationship where both partners contribute equally to it. But did you know a 50/50 relationship is actually bad? Read why.

Everybody wants a relationship where both partners are contributing equally to the marriage. And as long as your spouse contributes his or her share, you’ll contribute yours. But did you know this kind of a 50/50 relationship can actually be bad? Here’s an example of why:

Jenny and Jim had been coming to counseling because they argue — a lot. They had just begun seeing me and they spent a lot of time in the session trying to convince each other about why their marital problems were the other one’s fault. Jim said, “You’re always so busy with the kids and their school and cleaning that you never make time for me. If you’d just show a little affection once in a while we wouldn’t need counseling.” Jenny quickly chimed in, “Me?! How many times have I told you not to get so angry so much, and yet you still do it! You’re the reason our marriage is rocky. If you would just control your temper then we wouldn’t need counseling.”

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What to Do When You’re Ready for Marriage and Your Partner Isn’t

What to Do When You're Ready for Marriage and Your Partner Isn't

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU’RE READY FOR MARRIAGE AND YOUR PARTNER ISN’T

Liz Higgins, LMFTA

The word “marriage” has a negative connotation for many people. One contributing factor to this is the high divorce rate among baby boomers, impacting the way millennials view the institution of marriage as a whole. There’s also the movement away from the more traditional practice of marrying for religious reasons, financial concerns with the cost of getting married, and simply not wanting to give up an independent, single lifestyle.

The average age for first marriages is now 27 for women and 29 for men, compared to 20 for women and 23 for men in 1960. Interestingly, more couples than ever are moving in together before (or in lieu of) getting married.

As a result, many couples now find themselves in a sea of uncertainty when it comes to tying the knot. Should we wait? If so, for how long? Should we even get married?

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30 Bad Relationship Habits You Desperately Need To Lose By Age 30

30 Dating Habits

30 BAD RELATIONSHIP HABITS YOU DESPERATELY NEED TO LOSE BY AGE 30

Alex Alexander

Before you hit the big 3-0, here’s what to give the ole heave-ho.

Being an overgrown child is not sexy. Here are some dating habits to break by the time you turn 30, gathered from our wise staff:

30. Dating. Cue uncomfortable laughter.

  1. Sleeping on a futon.

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Women Who Do THESE 9 Things NEVER Get Played By Men

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WOMEN WHO DO THESE 9 THINGS NEVER GET PLAYED BY MEN

Michelle Jacoby

The only way to find love is to date with an open heart.

But I know what you’ve been through.

You’re tired of investing time and energy in the wrong men, only to end up frustrated, hurt, and empty-handed again and again. You’ve worked hard to finally find peace and a sense of happiness in your life. And there’s no way you’re going to let someone come into your life and mess it all up.

And yet … you don’t want to give up on LOVE.

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