Defensiveness Doesn’t Protect a Relationship

DEFENSIVENESS DOESN’T PROTECT A RELATIONSHIP

Kyle Benson

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Being defensive blocks connection, compassion, and isolates you from your partner. Instead of focusing on we-ness, a defensive person focuses on me-ness. Defensiveness is one of the most dangerous signs of toxic fighting because it creates never-ending cycles of negativity.

Taylor: You never make love to me anymore. (Criticism)

Sophia: Well, you never take me out on dates. (Defensiveness)

When I see couples like Tyler and Sophia act defensive towards each other, it makes me smile. They have yet to realize they just want more out of each other.

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The Little Things That Will Make or Break Your Relationship

THE LITTLE THINGS THAT WILL MAKE OR BREAK YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Caroline Sweatt-Eldredge

He comes home from work exhausted again. After yet another frustrating meeting that could have been covered in an email, a tense conversation with a co-worker about the state of the break room refrigerator, and predictably awful traffic on the way home, he crashes onto the living room sofa, lets out a deep breath, and turns on his favorite show. All he wants to do is decompress in silence.

As if on cue, he hears the back door open. His wife is home — and somehow she’s more chipper than ever. As she enters the room and removes her coat, she takes a moment to pause at the front window, saying, “What beautiful weather — it’s just lovely today.”

What should he do next? The answer may matter more than you think.

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4 qualities of a keeper: how to recognize a good guy

4 QUALITIES OF A KEEPER: HOW TO RECOGNIZE A GOOD GUY

Megan Gladwell

When it comes to marriage, don’t settle. Read on for the non-negotiable traits in your future husband.

I have a dear friend who was once vivacious and cheerful. As a teenage girl, she had a promising future. She was beautiful, warm, smart and talented. She dated a lot and was widely admired. She had “the pick of the litter” as far as guys went. In college, she met a charismatic guy who made her laugh. He swept her off her feet and they married.

Soon enough, she found out that Prince Charming was really a sociopath. She stayed with him for the sake of her children and suffered in an unhappy, abusive marriage for many years before leaving.

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12 things that make your man LOSE interest in you (immediately)

12 THINGS THAT MAKE YOUR MAN LOSE INTEREST IN YOU (IMMEDIATELY)

Mariel Reimann

Avoid these at all cost (especially 8 and 9).

There are several things you unknowingly do that push your man away. Most of these behaviors are not major, but rather opposite. They may be the reason the man you love seems to lose interest in you without any explanation.

Avoid these 12 things and your love will change:

  1. Being desperate

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Failed Marriage and Recovery

FAILED MARRIAGE AND RECOVERY

Richard Innes

Jesus said, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32 NIV)

As I have said before, in working with divorced people over the years I have found that far too many divorcees are adept at primarily blaming their partner for the failure of their marriage. Most fail to see what they contributed to the breakup. I once did too.

Before marriage, many of us prayed that we would find the right partner when what we needed to pray was that we would be the right person. As much as many hate the following statement: we are as sick as the people we are attracted to—especially romantically. For those who want a more positive statement we could put it this way: we are as healthy as the people we are attracted to. In other words, if we want to have a healthy and mature marriage, we need to be a healthy and mature person.

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Looks May Be Misleading

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LOOKS MAY BE MISLEADING
Clara Wersterfer

Most teens can’t wait to learn to drive. Not so with me. Driving made me nervous. I didn’t get a license until I turned 24 years old. As a result, when I first married, we only had one car and car-pooled to work. My husband’s hours were different from mine by one hour. I worked earlier. So he dropped me off and went to the diner to drink coffee until work time.

Then, in the afternoons, I leisurely walked the three miles to his work place where I waited in his car, reading a book.

One day while waiting for him, I noticed the most beautiful Cadillac pull in the lot. It was powder blue and sleek looking – the kind of car you dream about. I was busily admiring the car when I noticed the driver. Honestly, she was probably the prettiest woman I had ever seen off the movie screen.

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3-year-old boy tragically dies from parent’s ‘ONE mistake’; Mother says his death was completely preventable

3-YEAR-OLD BOY TRAGICALLY DIES FROM PARENT’S ‘ONE MISTAKE’; MOTHER SAYS DEATH WAS COMPLETELY PREVENTABLE

Lindsey Miller
Don’t let this happen to your child.

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Don’t get married until you know the answers to these 14 questions

6 tips to ensuring your relationship stays safe from the temptations of technology

6 TIPS TO ENSURING YOUR RELATIONSHIP STAYS SAFE FROM THE TEMPTATIONS OF TECHNOLOGY

Francia Benson

Make sure you and your partner do not fall for the temptations technology presents and keep your relationship safe from a cyber love affair with these 6 tips.

There is a good side and a bad side to everything. Technology, in many ways, has affected our lives positively. It has made it faster and easier to communicate with others and find information. However, it has also ensnared many people and caused a lot of heartache.

Studies indicate that Internet and cell phones have become a great temptation for many people to deceive their partners. Yes, there’s nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but how appropriate is it to have your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend as a friend on social networks when you are married? Most of us are learning that many social networks are facilitating infidelity. It is common for people to find old romantic partners and desire to relive the past. These networks make it easy to come into contact with people of the opposite sex.

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Top 10 toxins in your home

TOP 10 WORST TOXINS IN YOUR HOME

Hidden toxins in your home can cause you and your family serious health problems. Here’s a list of the worst offenders and how to protect yourself from toxins in your home.

LAUNDRY ROOM: DRYER SHEETS
Dryer sheets were my entree into the land of toxin-free living when I learned that the substance used to soften clothes is often derived from animal fats. (YUCK!) But the fragrances used in dryer sheets can be even worse, containing chemicals like benzyl acetate, benzyl alcohol and terpines—all toxic, and some carcinogenic. Switch to DIY dryer balls instead and use essential oils for that fresh laundry smell.

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