When The Wife Was Asked A Question…

WHEN THE WIFE WAS ASKED A QUESTION…

Chris Kwakpovwe

Years ago at a marriage conference, a wife was asked if her husband made her happy! Of course her husband stood beside her, beaming with smiles. He was full of confidence, believing he knew what her answer would be!

He thought his wife would say ‘YES,” because they had a happy marriage. On the contrary, she responded with a shocking “NO.”

Hear her: “My husband has never made me happy and does not make me happy! I am happy! Whether I am happy or not is not dependent on him but on me. I am the only person on whom my happiness depends. I choose to be happy in every situation and every moment of my life for if my happiness depended on another person, thing or circumstance on the face of the earth, I would be in serious trouble. Everything that exists in this life constantly changes: the human being, the riches, my body, the climate, my boss, the pleasures, the friends, and my physical and mental health. I could quote an endless list.

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What are You Feeling? – Is It Love or Lust?

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WHAT ARE YOU FEELING? – IS IT LOVE OR LUST?

Team LovePanky

Is it love or lust that you’re experiencing with your partner? Sometimes, you may think you’re in love without really realizing that there’s no love in the relationship, but just lust. Find out whether you’re in love or lust right here.

Contrary to what most of us believe, we don’t really fall in love at first sight. Almost always, it’s lust at first sight.

The intense attraction that you feel for someone when you first lock eyes with each other, those butterflies in your stomach and that skip in your heart, in all probability, is lust and not love.

But lusting for someone isn’t a bad thing, because love generally starts with lust and desire and grows and blossoms into love over a few weeks or months.

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In Love with Two People? – How to Make Up Your Mind

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IN LOVE WITH TWO PEOPLE? – HOW TO MAKE UP YOUR MIND

Rachel Madison

Can you ever be in love with two people at the same time? Of course, you can. But can you carry it off without breaking hearts? Well, that’s tricky. 

Have you ever found yourself falling for someone when you’re already in a committed relationship?

Have you ever been in love with two people at the same time?

If you have, you aren’t alone.

While it may infuriate your partner or seem morally unethical, falling in love with two people is as simple as falling in love with one person.

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9 Things You Need to Know about Apologies in Marriage

9 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT APOLOGIES IN MARRIAGE

Crystal Bradshaw

When you need to make an apology, there are several things to keep in mind.

According to clinical psychologist, Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., there are 9 essential ingredients to an apology.

1. A true apology doesn’t include the word “but.”  

When you say “I’m sorry,” and then follow your apology with the word “but,” anything that comes after is an excuse, justification, or a criticism of the hurt party. Even if what you have to say is true, your intention is to give an apology.

By using the word “but” you are giving a false apology. “But” nullifies your apology.

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Have You Apologized to Your Spouse Yet?

Do you ever feel like this?

Or like this?

It happens to the best of us.

In the world of happily-ever-after-and-yet-ever-so-married life, feelings get hurt.

Things get said.
Hard times come.
Tasks get forgotten.
Stress happens.
Promises get broken.

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How Millennials Are Redefining Marriage

HOW MILLENNIALS ARE REDEFINING MARRIAGE

Marissa Hermanson

With a shift in personal goals, values, and roles that differ greatly from previous generations, more and more millennials — those born from 1981 to 1996 — are tapping the brakes on marriage. Led by their desire to focus on their careers, personal needs and goals, forming a substantial financial foundation upon which to create a family, and even questioning the meaning of marriage itself, this current generation of young couples is redefining marriage.

According to a study from the Pew Research Center that compares millennials to The Silent Generation (born roughly from 1925 to 1942), millennials are three times as likely to never have married as their grandparents were. Reasons why millennials have postponed marriage include:

    • 29% feel like they aren’t financially ready
    • 26% haven’t found someone with the right qualities
    • 26% feel they are too young to settle down

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10 “Notes to Self” that Will Stop You from Taking Things Personally

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10 “NOTES TO SELF” THAT WILL STOP YOU FROM TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY

Marc Chernoff

Let’s start off with a simple question:

Why do we always take things so personally?

There are admittedly quite a few viable and valid answers to consider.  But, the one Angel and I have found to be most common through a decade of one-on-one coaching with our course students and live event attendees is the tendency we all have of putting ourselves at the center, and seeing everything—every event, conversation, circumstance, etc.—from the viewpoint of how it relates to us on a personal level.  And this can have all kinds of adverse effects, from feeling hurt when other people are rude, to feeling sorry for ourselves when things don’t go exactly as planned, to doubting ourselves when we aren’t perfect.

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Why are you rushing to get married?

Have you given it enough thought before saying 'I do'?

WHY ARE YOU RUSHING TO GET MARRIED?

Better single and slaying than married and miserable.

Ayoola Adetayo

I’ll be the first to categorically state that weddings are beautiful and marriages can be sweet.

Having documented so many weddings and having seen the intensity of the joy on couples’ faces at ceremonies, this much can not be denied.

To beautify a wedding is easy. All you need do is pay a good event planner and that’s settled.

To have a beautiful marriage is however a different thing entirely, and you definitely can’t pay anyone to sweeten your marital union.

No matter how long you have been in a relationship with someone, once the seal of marriage is stamped on that relationship, something changes.

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How to deal with emotions when all your friends are getting married around you

How to deal with your emotions when everybody around you is getting married

Single Advice

HOW TO DEAL WITH EMOTIONS WHEN ALL YOUR FRIENDS ARE GETTING MARRIED AROUND YOU

The pressure to get married can be overwhelming and the emotions when you’re the last one standing even more so. Here’s how to cope!

Ntianu Obiora

We get to a certain age when many of our close friends are tying the knot and amidst all the excitement and preparations of your friend’s wedding, certain sore hearts are inevitable. This is a phase each one of us will go through where the feelings of being stuck and left out are prominent. Here’s how to deal with the emotions that inevitably arise when all your friends are getting married around you.

Your best friend might be getting married and that will mean the start of a new phase in life for you as well. You will undergo a strange mixture of emotions and lifestyle changes too.

It is pretty normal to feel that way, do not feel guilty about it!

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We are killing our children and calling it love!

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WE ARE KILLING OUR CHILDREN AND CALLING IT LOVE!

When I was growing up, one of the worst insults that could be hurled at a child (or his parents) was that he was a spoiled brat. It was a remark that wasn’t used very often, but when it was, it stung. No one wanted to hear the perception that a child was spoiled.

Now, we hardly hear the remark or observation, but maybe it’s because so many children are spoiled. Has the use of the stinging remark decreased as the problem increased?

Out of curiosity, I looked up the meaning of “spoil.” It means “to harm the character of a child by being too lenient or indulgent.”

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