How to Forgive Someone: 15 Positive Ways to Unburden Your Mind

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HOW TO FORGIVE SOMEONE: 15 POSITIVE WAYS TO UNBURDEN YOUR MIND

Dr. Carol Morgan

We’ve all been there… someone did something bad to us, and we’re mad. Steaming mad! But here’s how to forgive someone who has hurt you.

For some reason, forgiveness seems to be one of the most difficult things for a human being to do. It’s almost like people think that if they hold on to the resentment and dwell in the negativity, that somehow it will undo the past. Well, let me tell you what you already know… it won’t. If you really want to hold on to your sanity, you need to know how to forgive someone.

As Buddha once said, “Holding on to resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” While that might sound ridiculous, think about it for a second. It’s true! What good does it do to hold on to the anger? You might think it’s doing some good like punishing the other person, but trust me, it’s not.

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How to Forgive Others Who’ve Hurt You and Why You Should

HOW TO FORGIVE OTHERS WHO’VE HURT YOU AND WHY YOU SHOULD

Seouser

Over the last few weeks we’ve talked about staying positive as a way of not only improving your relationship, but your overall life as well. There are many benefits to remaining positive, even when times get unbearably tough. If you haven’t already, it’d be a good idea to read a few of our last posts.

But there are times when it doesn’t matter how positive you stay, you’re going to get down. A lot of the times this can happen because someone close to you has harmed or hurt you. We don’t mean physically harm you here, that’s another topic altogether. But if you feel like you’ve been wronged by someone, it can be difficult to get back to that positive state of mind.

That’s where the importance of forgiveness comes in.

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7 Guidelines to Help Couples Manage Conflict

7 GUIDELINES TO HELP COUPLES MANAGE CONFLICT

Bernard Golden

Terms for engagement when addressing discord

When you form a romantic relationship, you do so with unique personalities shaped by your past. Based on previous relationships, each of you have developed ideas about how a loved one should respond to your needs, desires, and expectations.

When developing a bond, you also have well-established habits. This includes the way you manage anger when a partner appears to threaten or ignore your needs, desires, and expectations. It’s then not surprising that even the most loving relationships at times involves conflict and anger. This is especially challenging when one or both of you are prone to anger.

Sharing a commitment to value and work on preserving the relationship is key for constructively managing conflict. This isn’t always easy to remember in the throes of discord. It can, at times, be extremely challenging to be respectful and attentive with both your needs and those of your partner. This is especially the case when they seem to conflict with each other. Such conflict most frequently occurs with regard to money, sex, work, parenting, and housework.

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7 Steps to Handling Conflict In Your Relationship

7 STEPS TO HANDLING CONFLICT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Darren Wilk

Conflict is normal in every type of relationship – from business to personal, and especially intimate relationships. Every couple goes through it. This is for a number of reasons including the fact that when you enter into a relationship, it isn’t just between two people. It’s between two unique personalities, shaped by unique circumstances.

Conflict can arise when we feel threatened. It’s not about physical danger but relates more to our needs, wants, desires and, most importantly, our expectations of the other person.

What Really Matters

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5 things men say to an angry woman that make her angrier

5 THINGS MEN SAY TO AN ANGRY WOMAN THAT MAKE HER ANGRIER

Velma Barasa

Don’t say you were never told.

It can take a lot to get a woman angry but when you do get her angry, it’s wise to carefully think about the next words that will be coming out of your mouth.

Since every woman will respond differently to what their man says when they are angry, maybe learning what not to say can help when in such a situation.

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5 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

5 RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS YOU SHOULD NEVER IGNORE

Peg Streep

Paying attention is half the battle but you both need to do it.

I knew that my marriage was floundering but I didn’t know how to fix it. Fifteen years in, enough of what we’d once had was so eroded that there wasn’t any real way of retrieving it. I think both of us were just sick and tired of the arguing, the relationship, and each other.

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Some years ago, a wise therapist named Susan whose practice was mainly devoted to couples’ counseling confided a sad truth as we talked about whether joint therapy with my then-husband would work. She shook her head and then continued: “The reality is that it’s relatively rare that the counseling works because people wait too long. Therapy is usually seen as a last-ditch effort to salvage the marriage, and it’s not always agreed to in good faith either. A husband or wife may simply accede because he or she wants to be seen as ‘having tried everything.’ By the time they book an appointment with me, the marriage has been failing for years. And it’s just too late. For those couples, my office is just a stop and a parking lot away from the divorce lawyer’s.”

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5 Easy Ways To Stop Hanger In Its Tracks

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5 EASY WAYS TO STOP HANGER IN ITS TRACKS

Kristin Limoges

No, none of them are drinking a glass of water.

If ‘hangry’ is a real emotion for you, we feel you. Hanger—that on-edge and easily irritated state you enter when you’re hungry—is real and happens to the best of us, and it’s also when we tend to make hasty food choices we didn’t quite mean to make.

If you’ve ever snacked on a cookie at work and then looked down and realized you accidently snacked on four cookies instead of one while zoning out, this article is for you, too. (Also, read this if sugar cravings are chronic issue for you and you want some healthier alternatives.)

We’ve already chatted about mindful eating with The Food Therapist herself, the lovely Shira Lenchewski, MS, RD, and she’s back for round two. This time we’re tackling how to snack smarter and curb those cravings. Hanger no more, friends.

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One Daily Reminder That Will Calm The Chaos In Your Life

ONE DAILY REMINDER THAT WILL CALM THE CHAOS IN YOUR LIFE

Angel Chernoff

Life can be hectic; sometimes chaos surrounds us in every imaginable direction.

But just because the world around us is in disarray, doesn’t mean the world within us has to be too.

That’s right, I’m saying there’s a way to stay sane in insane times. I’m saying you can get rid of all the insanity inside you created by others, the past, and uncontrollable events…

Just by being a simple witness of your thoughts.

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9 Mindful Ways to Remain Calm When Others Are Angry

9 Mindful Ways to Remain Calm When Others Are Angry

9 MINDFUL WAYS TO REMAIN CALM WHEN OTHERS ARE ANGRY

Angel Chernoff

When someone upsets us, this is often because they aren’t behaving according to our fantasy of how they “should” behave.  The frustration, then, stems not from their behavior but from how their behavior differs from our fantasy.  Let’s not get carried away.  Calmness is a superpower.

Over the past decade, there’s a way of being I’ve gradually been cultivating in myself—I’ve been taming my tendency to get angry and argue with people when their behavior doesn’t match my expectations.

As human beings, we all have an idea in our heads about how things are supposed to be, and sadly this is what often messes our relationships up the most.  We all get frustrated when things don’t play out the way we expect them to, and people don’t behave like they’re “supposed” to.  We expect our spouses and children to act a certain way, our friends to be kind and agreeable, strangers to be less difficult, and so on and so forth.

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A therapist explains why we’re all so ticked off in social media

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A THERAPIST EXPLAINS WHY WE’RE ALL SO TICKED OFF IN SOCIAL MEDIA

Kelly Flanagan

Parenting fail alert.

A couple of weeks ago, on a Sunday night, my thirteen-year-old son Aidan forgot to finish his chores. I’d relocated some plants in the yard, and I’d asked him to water them. He didn’t. I immediately decided his work ethic was lacking—probably because of YouTube—so I told him he was grounded from his phone.

He got angry.

I sent him to his room.

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