Be Angry—Sin Not

BE ANGRY—SIN NOT

Richard Innes

“In your anger do not sin.” (Ephesians 4:26, NIV)

I recall teaching a group where I said that it was okay to be angry. One lady was absolutely amazed. She told me that she had been taught all her life that Christians never get angry. So she had reasoned in her mind: “Christians never get angry. I’m always angry. Therefore I can never be a Christian!”

That night she was freed from 20 years of anguish and received assurance of her salvation. She was indeed a Christian because she had received Jesus as her Savior.

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10 things men wish women would stop doing (and embrace their natural beauty instead)

10 THINGS MEN WISH WOMEN WOULD STOP DOING (AND EMBRACE THEIR NATURAL BEAUTY INSTEAD)

Stael Ferreira Pedrosa
Avoid these 10 things that men find unattractive.

The answer is yes. Most men can tell when a woman is trying too hard. Here are 10 things they dislike the most:
1. Extreme hairstyles
A woman with hair full of volumizing product and variously placed bobby pins walks into the room. You think she will attract the attention of all the men at the party. Will it attract attention? Yes, but not for the reasons you want. Most men prefer long, loose, soft and silky hair, not sticky hairspray and hard gels.

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A Married Couple’s Guide to Complaining

A MARRIED COUPLES GUIDE TO COMPLAINING

Jon Beaty

My wife Tami felt angry. “All you do after you get home from work and eat dinner is sit on the couch. Why can’t we talk, or take a walk together, or do both?”

Couples will always have complaints about each other. Unfortunately, instead of expressing their complaints, they resort to criticizing each other. Unchecked criticism leads to contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Dr. John Gottman calls these the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and when couples fall prey to the Four Horsemen, it can lead to divorce.

Tami’s criticism provoked me to defend myself. We were almost three years into our marriage, and hadn’t yet learned how to effectively air our complaints about each other.

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How to Handle Anger in Your Relationship

HOW TO HANDLE ANGER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Sanaa Hyder

Anger can be processed by going on a run, practicing yoga, or mindfully engaging in deep breathing. While these are all great tactics, what happens when your anger is directed at your partner in the heat of the moment?

Anger can overwhelm even the most self-reflective and self-aware person. When you are flooded, your pulse races and your limbic system takes over, making rational thought almost impossible.

It’s important to understand that anger is often a red herring which covers up more vulnerable feelings such as embarrassment, sadness, and hopelessness.

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The Anger Iceberg

THE ANGER ICEBERG

Kyle Benson

Have you ever wondered why we get angry? According to psychologist Daniel Goleman, “emotions are, in essence, impulses to act, the instant plans for handling life that evolution has instilled in us.”

In his book Emotional Intelligence, Goleman tells us that anger causes blood to flow to our hands, making it easier for us to strike an enemy or hold a weapon. Our heart rate speeds up and a rush of hormones – including adrenaline – creates a surge of energy strong enough to take “vigorous action.” In this way, anger has been ingrained into our brain to protect us. Read more

A husband, a wife, a cold bed and WhatsApp

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A HUSBAND, A WIFE, A COLD BED AND WHATSAPP
Olanrewaju Tunmise

“You look beautiful,” he texted his wife on WhatsApp.

He was in the living room with the children. The wife was in the kitchen washing the dishes.

“I have no time for small talk,” she texted him in anger, then continued washing the dishes.

“I thought you like compliments my love?” He typed back, then continued looking at the children.

“If that was a genuine compliment, you would have told me in the morning, not when the day is ending,” she typed back, placing the washed plate in the rack. “Why do you only call me my love when you know you have done wrong?” she typed further.

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My wife, who hurt you in your past?

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MY WIFE, WHO HURT YOU IN YOUR PAST?

He had a deadline to beat. So he came home late when his family was already asleep. He went into the kitchen, warmed his dinner that his wife had cooked – matoke with beef stew. In a few minutes he was done and went to sleep, exhausted.

In the morning, he and his wife got up. After the shower, wearing robes, it was time to prepare for the day.

“You think I am your house help? What is this? How many times must I tell you to never leave utensils unwashed? I wake up to an unwashed plate in the kitchen sink! Can’t you even wash after yourself? Must I always clean up after you? Are you a baby? And you used my favourite plate that I keep for visitors! Can’t you even use the many other plates I bought? Agrrrr you’ve ruined my morning. I am so sick of being married to a man who can’t even follow simple instructions!” his wife shouted at him.

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The Power of ‘I Am Sorry’


THE POWER OF ‘I AM SORRY’

I am sorry, a short but mighty sentence!

If you wish to live long, don’t joke with this short sentence, I am sorry. Do you know how many people who have gone to early grave because they neglected the therapeutic power of I am sorry?

Most of the troubles in most homes are heightened because wives are too big to say I am sorry to their husbands and you can trust the ego of husbands in saying same to their wives.

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Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper

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ANGER MANAGEMENT: 10 TIPS TO TAME YOUR TEMPER

Keeping your temper in check can be challenging. Use simple anger management tips — from taking a timeout to using “I” statements — to stay in control.

By Mayo Clinic Staff

Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it’s important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

Ready to get your anger under control? Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.

  1. Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

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Have I lost my wife to another man?

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HAVE I LOST MY WIFE TO ANOTHER MAN?

Dave and Clara have been married for over nine years without children. They stayed with each other and hoped that they would have a child before their 10th anniversary because they were being persuaded by family and some friends to get a divorce but they couldn’t let go because of the love they shared.

Months passed by and, while Dave was returning from work one day, he saw his wife walking down the road with a man, and they looked quite happy.

Another evening, while Dave was coming back from work, he saw the same man drop her off at the house. Dave became sad and angry.

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