DATING MYTHBUSTERS: YOU’LL FIND LOVE IF YOU STOP LOOKING
Is it true?
If you have been single for a while you are bound to get advice from family, friends, co-workers and acquaintances alike. There is nothing like a single person to bring out the relationship expert in us all. The trouble is, there is a lot of bad advice out there. This advice is often built around myths that have come to be culturally accepted and more widespread than personal data collected on a popular social media app.
One of the more common dating myths is that you will find someone when you stop looking for a relationship. This could not be farther from the truth. Here is why:
DATING MYTHBUSTERS: THERE IS A BETTER HALF OUT THERE FOR YOU
Does your “better half” exist?
We hear it all of the time. “I am ready to meet my better half?” “You are so lucky that you have found your better half!” “When are you going to settle down with your better half?” This turn of phrase has been used so many times that it has become the way we describe our partners or potential partners. So people everywhere are out there searching for this “better half”. You know, the one person whose presence in your life will not only make you feel complete but will also do so by being BETTER than you are. Wait…WHAT?!
The mere notion that there is a better half out there for you implies that you are not complete on your own. To be happy, you need another person to share your life with who will magically transform your lack luster existence into a life of bliss. The problem is, this will never work! Here’s why:
DON’T BE AFRAID TO DO THESE 10 HARD THINGS FOR YOURSELF
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
This morning a close neighborhood friend, Alison, passed away far too early. While Angel and I have spent most of the day grieving, I’ve also spent this past hour thinking about the fact that our lives are often much shorter than we expect, and that we need to do some pretty darn hard things to maximize our very limited time. Alison strongly believed in doing the hard yet necessary things in life—we talked about this topic on several occasions, and she never backed down from a challenge. So today, I want to reflect on this with you.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: you absolutely need to do hard things to be happy in the long run. Because the hard things ultimately build you up and change your life. They make the difference between existing and living, between knowing the path and walking it, between a lifetime of empty promises and one filled with more possibility and progress.
You know this is true, so…
THESE 4 BEHAVIORS RUIN MARRIAGES IN LESS THAN 6 YEARS (AND WHAT TO DO INSTEAD)
There are four toxic behaviors that harm all relationships. They are toxic because they take away the emotional safety required for emotional connection and conflict resolution.
Dr. Gottman calls these four behaviors the Four Horsemen. Like the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in the New Testament, they symbolize the end of time for a relationship.
When these four behaviors become a habitual way of communicating problems, they end a relationship within 6 years, according to Dr. Gottman’s research.
60 GET-TO-KNOW-YOU QUESTIONS FOR A NEW ROMANCE
Want to get to know your new lover a lot better? Use these 60 revealing get-to-know-you questions to get to know everything you need to know.
Relationships are all about compatibility.
Even if there’s a lot of infatuation and sexual tension to start with, all it takes is a few wrong likes and dislikes to fall apart.
For a relationship to be successful, both the partners can have different likes and dislikes, but their principles towards life and their approach towards the future have to be the same.
If one of you likes working hard while the other person lives for the moment, it is bound to leave one of you with a few moments of repressed anger.
THE HARDEST THING YOU NEED TO REMEMBER WHEN EVERYTHING GOES WRONG
In our office, there’s a framed entry from Marc’s grandmother’s journal, dated September 16, 1977. It reads:
“Today I’m sitting in my hospital bed waiting to have both my breasts removed. But in a strange way, I feel like the lucky one. Until now I have had no health problems. I’m a sixty-nine-year-old woman in the last room at the end of the hall before the pediatric division of the hospital begins. Over the past few hours I have watched dozens of cancer patients being wheeled by in wheelchairs and rolling beds. None of these patients could be a day older than seventeen.”
This journal entry is displayed in our office because it continues to remind us that there is always, always something to be thankful for. And that no matter how good or bad we have it, we must wake up each day thankful for our lives, because someone, somewhere is desperately fighting for theirs.
HOW TO BE ROMANTIC WITHOUT BEING CHEESY
Romance doesn’t always have to be cheesy or make you cringe. Find out how to be romantic and loving, without feeling awkward about your behavior.
Romance is a beautiful thing.
When you’re new in love, even the cheesiest of gestures can feel so romantic.
But as the relationship ages, awkwardness starts to set in and the cheesy ‘you-complete-me’ lines start to diminish.
Now that doesn’t mean you love your partner less.
It only means your infatuation has passed over and you’re now back in your senses.
NEW RELATIONSHIP ADVICE TO HAVE A PERFECT START
Have you just found yourself in a new relationship? Learn what matters in love right from the start using these new relationship advice and tips.
There’s nothing more exciting than a new relationship in love.
A new relationship brings with it a hope for good things and adds a bit of mystery that intrigues you to learn more.
As pee-inducing as a new relationship may be, you have to take it slow and play by the rules if you want to have a good relationship that can blossom over time into a perfect one.
23 FOOLPROOF RELATIONSHIP TIPS AND ADVICE FOR MEN
Having a hard time pleasing your woman? Use these tips and relationship advice for men to communicate better and make her fall more in love with you.
If there’s one thing I know about men, it’s how competitive they are.
I’m sure you’d agree.
You want to be the best in everything there is, be it your games, your work or your love life.
And that’s one of the things I love about men and their attitude towards life.
But then again, there’s one other really bad trait of men too, and this one, I absolutely hate!
It’s a man’s attitude to give up when he feels helpless.
23 MUST-KNOW RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FOR WOMEN
Love isn’t complicated or painful. In fact, it’s effortless. As long as you keep these 23 must-know tips and relationship advice for women in mind.
Are you having a hard time in love?
Do you find yourself getting frustrated by your man to no end?
Or do you worry your man isn’t into you the way he once was?
It’s funny, isn’t it?
Women want perfect romance.
Men want perfect romance.