2 WAYS TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT EVERYONE THINKS OF YOU
“What’s wrong with wanting others to like you?”
That’s what several of our course students asked me via email in response to one of our recent course discussions. And I’ve been asked similar questions over the years too. So today, I want to discuss why it’s not healthy to spend lots of time worrying about what everyone thinks of you, and how to stop yourself from doing so.
In a nutshell, tying your self-worth to everyone else’s opinions gives you a flawed sense of reality. But before we look at how to fix this, first we need to understand why we do it…
THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE AROUND
It’s true. We have gathered some of the best marriage advice around – from ordinary (and amazing) people just like you. People who are living proof that this kind of advice helps. People who are experiencing the ups and downs of married life, just like you. We wanted to know what married people, who are in the thick of things, would share with other couples, and we were blown away by the plethora of deep and wise advice that these folks shared. This is the kind of advice that helps nurture marriages, friends.
So, enjoy reading all of this awesomeness. And don’t be shy – leave your best marriage advice in the comments, please!
“Marriage is not a 50/50 give/take way of life it is a 100/100 give/take situation.” – Don
9 REASONS WHY YOU JUST SHOULD NOT BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX
Knowing a relationship is over is the hardest part especially if you’re just getting out of a long-term relationship. Breakups are really painful and, regardless of how they happen, you always feel like you don’t want to let that one person to completely disappear from your life.
So what do you do? You decide to remain friends? Let me tell you one thing, this is a very bad idea for several reasons and you can see why for yourself below.
THE HABIT OF CRITICISM IS POISONOUS TO ANY RELATIONSHIP
No one wants to stay in a relationship that makes them feel more judged than admired. Yet, it’s too common for couples to see the other person as the problem.
And since the other partner is the problem, the only solution is for them to change…right?
- If only she would stop criticizing you and start appreciating all of the things you do to help out with the family, things would get better.
- If only he would give more attention to the house and kids, you wouldn’t have to nag him with what needs to get done.
It’s hurtful to be on the receiving end of criticism, and it feels even worse to feel like you have to nag your partner because your requests are being ignored.
3-YEAR-OLD BOY TRAGICALLY DIES FROM PARENT’S ‘ONE MISTAKE’; MOTHER SAYS DEATH WAS COMPLETELY PREVENTABLE
Don’t let this happen to your child.
6 WAYS TO LET GO AND FEEL A LOT LESS STRESS
This morning, I received a long email from a reader named Evan who is struggling with letting go of a failed relationship. In his email he explains, in rather vivid detail, the signs and symptoms of a toxic relationship that has been heading south for many years. He admits that he needs to let go, but he struggles with it, because doing so means he must finally face reality, which requires him to let go of the idea in his head about how his life and relationship were supposed to be.
One particular line from his email really summed it up well: “I’m learning the hard way that the hardest thing in life is simply letting go of what you thought was real.”
Isn’t that the truth – for all of us, in all walks of life? We all have an idea in our heads about how things are, or how they’re supposed to be, and sadly this is what often messes us up and stresses us out the most. Realize this. Sometimes life doesn’t give you what you WANT because you NEED something else. And what you need often comes when you’re not looking for it. You won’t always understand it and that’s OK. Just when you think it can’t get any worse, it does. And then just when you think it can’t get any better, it does.
10 SIMPLE WAYS TO MAKE YOUR WIFE HAPPY
Show love to your wife every day. Love doesn’t mean five-star restaurants or tropical island getaways. It’s the simple things that matter most.
While dream vacations and life milestones are important, it’s the simple things you do that make your wife happy. Show love and respect to your bride every day, and remind her why you were the best choice she’s ever made. Here are 10 basic tips for showing every day love. Remember: Happy wife, happy life.
Introduce her with a compliment
Saying something like “I’d like you to meet my beautiful wife,” or “Here’s my better half” goes farther than you may realize. Publicly recognizing her as your cherished partner validates that you love her.
4 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR ATTITUDE UP WHEN LIFE BRINGS YOU DOWN
“I’m drained and so very tired of all the anxiety, negativity and stress. Too often my mind is consumed with unforgiving thoughts, and every muscle in my body is full of tension. It hurts. I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I don’t want to feel like I live in a whirlwind of constant exhaustion. I don’t want to just ‘get by’ day to day…”
Those are the opening lines right out of a Skype chat session I had last night with a long-time reader and new course student of ours. I’m sharing this with you today (with our student’s permission) because, in somewhat different words, I’ve literally heard this same message from hundreds of course students, coaching clients, conference attendees, and readers over the past decade.
Can you relate? To an extent, I bet you can. Sometimes life brings even the best of us down to our knees.