5 pieces of garbage you should throw out of your life

5 PIECES OF GARBAGE YOU SHOULD THROW OUT OF YOUR LIFE

Courtnie Erickson

We all have something that is smearing our view of life. Here are 5 pieces of garbage you need to stop hoarding.

It seems like everyone is in a race to be the best — the best parent, the best spouse, the best neighbor, the best PTA president. To become the best, people often lose sight of the things that really matter. Unfortunately, I’ve even seen this in my own life. As my husband worked toward a law degree, I pushed forward, day after day, trying my best to be a supportive wife — the best homemaker, the best mom, the best neighbor, etc. But I often found myself burned out and discouraged. At times, I just couldn’t do it.

This shouldn’t have happened. I shouldn’t have allowed myself to become consumed by the need to be the best in every aspect of life, and neither should you. As I contemplated what I needed to change, I realized I was carrying garbage. I was holding on to habits and thoughts that were tearing me down. I needed to throw things out and never look back again.

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Is Love Really a Choice?

IS LOVE REALLY A CHOICE?

Aaron & April Jacob

Once upon a time Dr. Stephen R. Covey told a story about a man he met at a seminar. It’s a fascinating story and suggests something bold and beautiful about marriage that we think you’re going to like.

Listen up:

“At one seminar, after I’d spoken on the importance of demonstrating character within the family, a man came up and said, ‘I like what you’re saying, but my wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other that we used to. I guess we don’t love each other anymore. What can I do?

“‘Love her,’ I replied.

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10 Hard Things to Start Doing for Yourself

10 HARD THINGS TO START DOING FOR YOURSELF

Marc Chernoff

10 Hard Things to Start Doing for Yourself

In 1911, two explorers, Amundsen and Scott, embarked on a race against each other to become the first known human being to set foot upon the southernmost point of Earth.  It was the age of Antarctic exploration, as the South Pole represented one of the last uncharted areas in the world.  Amundsen wished to plant the Norwegian flag there on behalf of his country, while Scott hoped to stake his claim for England.

The journey there and back from their base camps was about 1,400 miles, which is roughly equivalent to a round-trip hike from New York City to Chicago.  Both men would be traveling the same exact distance on foot through extremely cold and harsh weather conditions.  And both men were equally equipped with experience, supplies, and a supporting team of fellow explorers.  But what wasn’t certain is how each of them would approach the inevitable challenges they faced on the road ahead.

As it turned out, Amundsen and Scott took entirely different approaches to the very same challenges.

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10 simple ways to make your wife happy

10 SIMPLE WAYS TO MAKE YOUR WIFE HAPPY

Crystalee Beck

Show love to your wife every day. Love doesn’t mean five-star restaurants or tropical island getaways. It’s the simple things that matter most.

While dream vacations and life milestones are important, it’s the simple things you do that make your wife happy. Show love and respect to your bride every day, and remind her why you were the best choice she’s ever made. Here are 10 basic tips for showing every day love. Remember: Happy wife, happy life.

Introduce her with a compliment

Saying something like “I’d like you to meet my beautiful wife,” or “Here’s my better half” goes farther than you may realize. Publicly recognizing her as your cherished partner validates that you love her.

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WHAT SUPPORTING YOUR SPOUSE LOOKS LIKE

WHAT SUPPORTING YOUR SPOUSE LOOKS LIKE

NurturingMarriage

One of our absolute favorite compliments that we’ve ever heard one spouse give to another comes from a story of a couple that had been married nearly 67 years. One evening when this couple was in their old age, they were sitting together and the wife leaned over to the husband and gently said, “You have always given me wings to fly, and I have loved you for it.”

What an incredible compliment! One that we’re all trying to live up to.

One of the most wonderful parts of being married is having a companion to share the experiences of life with. Having someone by your side to laugh with, cry with, and work with, who loves you for who you are… quirks and all! Having someone by your side who will cheer you on and push you to be your best self. Having someone by your side who you can share everything with without feeling judged. Having someone to hold you, love you, support you, and care for you. In short, one of the most wonderful parts of being married is having someone at your side who gives you wings to fly.

Sounds pretty awesome, doesn’t it!? Don’t we all want a spouse who gives us wings to fly?

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DEAR SON, WHAT I WISH YOU KNEW ABOUT PORN

Dear Son, what I wish you knew about porn

DEAR SON, WHAT I WISH YOU KNEW ABOUT PORN

Aaron Anderson

Many people believe pornography is harmless. But here are some important things one dad wishes his son knew.

Dear Son,

You have your own smart phone, and you have access to the family computer, too. I realize you know how to use these devices more than I do. I also realize that if you want to know anything, it’s not hard for you just to Google it and find thousands of websites that will tell you about anything you want. But there are just some things that Google can’t tell you; like whether Stephanie in your second period really likes you or not. It also can’t tell you whether you should try out for the soccer team or the swim team.

Another thing that Google can’t tell you about is pornography. I realize in this information age that you have probably already seen pornography (or at least have had friends show you). I also realize that, despite my best efforts, I can’t shelter you from the Internet. And no matter how hard you try not to, you’ll probably come across pornography, anyway.

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16 Ways to Stop Domestic Violence in Your Community

Be-Friends-with-Someone-Emotionally-Unable-to-Be-an-Equally-Supportive-Friend-Step-9-300x200 Stop Domestic Violence graphic by Sebastian Smith

16 WAYS TO STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN YOUR COMMUNITY

Jerica Nonell

The World Health Organisation (WHO)’s latest report on Violence Against Women that was released in June 2013 indicated that in some regions of the world, over 35% of women suffer from partner violence.  With these staggering numbers, it is a very real possibility that every one of us knows a woman is facing (or has faced) domestic violence.

The intervention of neighbours and the wider community is one of the keys to stopping the violence. This starter list provides 16 tips for preventing and intervening to stop Domestic Violence in your community and/or neighbourhood. We have divided the list into 2 sections – one for the wider community and one for individuals. If you have any other suggestions and tips, please do share them in the comments section.

For The Wider Community

Domestic Violence Intervention Tip #1: Know the signs. The first step to action is to familiarise individuals and the community with the possible signs and indicators of domestic violence. These signs can vary and do not always come with physical symptoms because domestic violence is not just limited to physical attacks such as beatings. It includes many forms of abusive behaviour enacted to control the victim in a myriad of ways including emotional abuse, verbal abuse and economic abuse. Domestic violence also affects every level and demograhic in society, so there is no typical victim despite the stereotypes. Someone who may not appear to be a victim of domestic violence may well be suffering in silence and it is important to recognise the signs if this is the case.

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