7 STEPS TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART
“Breaking Up Is Hard To Do” is not just a hit song from the 1960s, it is a fact. Anyone who has gone through a break up knows that a broken heart can be difficult to mend. This universal emotional response to the sudden, unexpected or unwanted loss of love is often characterized by an intense longing, hurt and/or desire for an ex or unrequited love. And it can hurt like hell. For some, it feels like their whole world is caving in on them. And in many cases, because the pain is so great and the path to mending it seems so daunting, people avoid healing their broken heart. This avoidance can lead to many unwanted side effects including but not limited to greater internal conflict, complicated emotional responses, withdrawal and difficulty in future relationships.
So, how do you heal a broken heart? Here are a few tips I have picked up in my training, clinical experiences and late night calls with girlfriends and family members.
Take Your Time
10 REASONS YOU MAY BE STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY RELATIONSHIP
Stephen J Betchen
A fear of change often prevents people from ending a destructive relationship.
Goethe wrote: “Everybody wants to be somebody; nobody wants to grow.” A client—who was in a miserable and unworkable relationship—decided to stay and suffer rather than make a change. His reasoning was, “I’d rather live with the devil I know than the devil I don’t know.” In response I asked him: “How do you know you will end up with another devil?” He said, “Why take a chance.” This individual’s stance is all too common. Most people seek psychotherapy to ease their pain but are reluctant to exert the effort required to do so. These individuals weigh the of price of change unfavorably against the gain it may bring. Because clinicians cannot offer any guarantee of success people are reluctant to risk their status no matter how dysfunctional. To shed some light on this issue, I offer 10 reasons people often remain stuck in an unhappy or destructive relationship:
1. To avoid anxiety. When we make a change, we usually experience at least a modicum of anxiety about our future. Self-doubt may flood us: Am I making a big mistake? Will I miss my old life? While there is rarely a guarantee that all will end well, our dynamic will most likely remain the same or worsen if we do nothing.
18 CRITICAL SIGNS OF AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
Even the healthiest of relationships could start to turn bad over time. Use these 18 unhealthy relationship signs to decipher your own love life.
A healthy relationship is every couple’s fairytale storyline.
After all, all of us want our love lives to be filled with bliss and happiness.
But other than a lucky few, most couples lose their way along marital or relationship bliss and end up taking the unhealthy path towards bad romance.
It’s quite sad really, because as lovers, your partner and you do try to make the relationship work.
You may try hard to understand each other and communicate with each other.
18 RELATIONSHIP TURN-OFFS THAT CAN RUIN YOUR ROMANCE
Do you ever wonder why some relationships fall apart? Here are 18 relationship turn offs that push couples away from each other unless it’s fixed soon!
You may think you’re in a truly happy relationship, but do you ever get disappointed by your partner’s behavior now and then?
Sometimes, even the most loving partner may subconsciously behave in a certain way or say a few things that can hurt their lover.
If it’s just a rare occurrence, you could overlook it.
But what if it’s something you notice all the time?
MAJOR CAUSES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN NIGERIA
Here are the leading causes of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE in Nigeria and most countries. The problem is quite widespread so it is better to know the main reasons, and maybe this will help to avoid such anathema at home.
The list of domestic violence causes
SUPER SELF-OBSESSED: 22 SECRET SIGNS YOU’RE DATING AN EGOMANIAC
Think you might have an egomaniac in your love life? Here are 22 ways to tell if they’re in love with you or just themselves.
Having a big ego can be very healthy and beneficial to your self-worth and confidence at times. It propels you forward in life, and helps you make decisions that change how you react to your accomplishments. But what happens when someone’s ego gets out of control, and makes them an egomaniac who believes they’re superior to others?
This amplified craving for flattery and adoration manifests into arrogance and vanity, and eventually corrodes relationships.
Being cocky is all good in moderation, but lack of humility is not an attractive quality to possess. Egomaniasm is born out of insecurity. It indicates a deep need to feel accepted through mass amounts of attention and praise. A lot of egomaniacs have an inferiority complex. They gain their sense of self-worth through other people. Some inflated egos are fueled by genuine success, but a lot are often on the back of no real major accomplishments.
3 PROVEN WAYS TO RECONNECT WHEN YOU’RE DISCONNECTED FROM YOUR PARTNER
What can you do right now to make your relationship more romantic?
You could get your wife a diamond necklace. Or maybe you could buy her the Mercedes dream car she’s always wanted.
Sounds like a good idea, right?
But let’s suppose that you haven’t asked your wife a question in five years, so you fail at Love Maps.
Or while you are out on a double date with friends and your wife starts telling a story, you say, “that’s a good story, but you always tell it wrong. Let me tell it.”
So you fail at showing her fondness and admiration.
Later that night she excitedly plops down next to you on the couch and shows you a picture of a romantic getaway in Italy.
ABUSIVE WIFE: IS YOUR WIFE ACTUALLY ABUSIVE AND NOT JUST BITCHY?
Let’s be honest, all women can be abusive at times. If that is her standard, then you either have to say STOP or say goodbye to an abusive wife!
There’s an old saying that a wife’s job is to provide her husband peace, not pain. But, as any married woman knows, we don’t always do our job correctly. There are times when we can all be a little abusive in our words and our actions, especially when the stressors of life become too great. But, an abusive wife is a much different creature and something you don’t and shouldn’t put up with.
10 signs you have an abusive wife
Being abusive comes in many forms. Whether she withholds love from you, is an expert at silent treatment, verbal abuse, or physically abuses you, it is not okay. You are not to blame. If you are good with who and what you are, then you don’t have to stick around to take it. No matter what commitment you made.
10 SIMPLE WAYS TO CALMLY DEAL WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Difficult people are everywhere. But that doesn’t mean you have to lose your cool when dealing with them. Here’s how you can handle them with ease.
We all have that one friend who gets on our nerves no matter the situation. Even with numerous cocktails to loosen you up, dealing with a difficult person can leave an icky aftertaste in your mouth.
If you’re one of the lucky few who don’t know anyone who fits into that category, then you must have at least had the displeasure of coming across unreasonable people in your life. Whether it’s the cranky car park attendant or the teller at the bank whom you somehow always get stuck with, dealing with unreasonable folks is no walk in the park, especially if you have a short temper.