The War of Independence In Relationships

THE WAR OF INDEPENDENCE IN RELATIONSHIPS

Kyle Benson

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The idea that partners shouldn’t be needy and should be independent creates a lack of security in the relationship.

Kim and Kevin were on the verge of breaking up. Neither of them wanted to end things, but they were exhausted from fighting and blaming each other.

Needy people do not have healthy relationships with avodiantsKevin values his quality time with Kim, and regularly organizes date nights for them. While Kim does find him sweet, she wants to spend more time with her friends. Kevin says this makes him feel lonely. This makes Kim feel suffocated and exhausted by his “neediness.”

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Why I never talked about my abusive arranged marriage

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WHY I NEVER TALKED ABOUT MY ABUSIVE ARRANGED MARRIAGE

Mira Soni

Why did she, and millions of other women remain in abusive marriages? How can she put it behind her?

Recently, I spent a whole night watching YouTube interviews of victims who have suffered/are suffering from domestic violence. At that time I didn’t know why I was doing what I was doing. But I wanted to hear those who’ve had similar lives to mine.

They’ve all suffered to different degrees and at different stages in their relationship. They all had different but equally painful stories to share. At the end of each conversation, the host of the show asks them, “Why would you allow all those wrong things to happen to you? Why didn’t you seek any help?” Most of them didn’t even share their sufferings with anybody. The host asks if they were too ashamed of what happened or of themselves, or was it because they feel no one would understand them? They all replied differently, but none of them knew precisely why.

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What You Ought to Know about Sexual Abuse, Effects on Children?

Sexual abuse effects on children

WHAT YOU OUGHT TO KNOW ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE, EFFECTS ON CHILDREN?

Sexual Abuse Effects on Children, Sexual Harassment, Sexual Violence

A recent discussion I was involved in got me to ask this question; “When is the right time and place to educate your kids about sexual molestation?”

This discussion came up in an online group and eventually got everyone on high alert. A girl child (about 11 years old) was told by an elderly stranger (man is certainly over 55 years old) that he liked her because she is beautiful, and would love to marry her. Luckily, the child seemed to have gone through the rudiments of sex education. She returned immediately to her mother to report to her mum that the man is a predator.

According to the Wikipedia,
A sexual predator is a person seen as obtaining or trying to obtain sexual contact with another person in a metaphorically “predatory” or abusive manner.”

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My wife, who hurt you in your past?

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MY WIFE, WHO HURT YOU IN YOUR PAST?

He had a deadline to beat. So he came home late when his family was already asleep. He went into the kitchen, warmed his dinner that his wife had cooked – matoke with beef stew. In a few minutes he was done and went to sleep, exhausted.

In the morning, he and his wife got up. After the shower, wearing robes, it was time to prepare for the day.

“You think I am your house help? What is this? How many times must I tell you to never leave utensils unwashed? I wake up to an unwashed plate in the kitchen sink! Can’t you even wash after yourself? Must I always clean up after you? Are you a baby? And you used my favourite plate that I keep for visitors! Can’t you even use the many other plates I bought? Agrrrr you’ve ruined my morning. I am so sick of being married to a man who can’t even follow simple instructions!” his wife shouted at him.

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Think deeply about this; yes, think!

THINK DEEPLY ABOUT THIS; YES, THINK!

An 8-year-old boy was seated at the corner of a place of worship with his younger sister. He was deeply engrossed in prayers asking for the assistance of the Sovereign GOD!

It caught my curiosity. He was wearing very old clothes with patches here and there, but they were very clean. His cheeks were wet with his tears, the passersby were looking at him, but nobody bothered to stop by him, even as the little boy was busy talking to his GOD!

A stranger went to him, took his hand and asked him, “What did you ask from GOD?!”

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A Message on Domestic Violence by a Former Victim Mary Gilliam

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A Message on Domestic Violence by a Former Victim Mary Gilliam

Daisy My Daughter

DAISY MY DAUGHTER

Please read and understand that domestic violence must be exposed and stopped!

Daisy was born beautiful. Her mother received her with misty eyes. She felt so proud. After three boys, Manny was beginning to doubt his ability to make a female baby. And now along came Daisy from his loins. He’s a complete man, after all. Right?

There was so much to eat and drink at the naming ceremony of Daisy. She got a name from every member of the family. Quite a list but the one other name that stuck was the one her paternal grandmother gave her, Gift.

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10 Ways You Can Mend Your Heart When You’ve Been Cheated On

10 WAYS YOU CAN MEND YOUR HEART WHEN YOU’VE BEEN CHEATED ON

Relationships are like roses. They can be nurtured to become beautiful, or they can wither into nothingness. While the longevity of relationships can withstand much more than a rose, one partner cheating on another is practically sabotaging everything they have together.

For those who know what it feels like and are still finding it hard to come to terms with reality, here are some stories from people who experienced it and powered through.

These are just some of the responses we found on Reddit and Quora.

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If your husband is sending these 7 texts, your marriage is in trouble

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IF YOUR HUSBAND IS SENDING THESE 7 TEXTS, YOUR MARRIAGE IS IN TROUBLE

Amberlee Lovell

 See the signs before it’s too late.

When tension creeps into your marriage, how do you know whether it’s temporary, or a deeper sign that something is terribly wrong? Pinpointing the cause is often easier said than done.

Pay attention to these subtle signs your husband may be sending through his texting habits. If these describe him, your marriage needs critical care.

Sexting

If your husband is sexting someone else, this is obviously a huge problem. But actually, sexting YOU isn’t a great sign either. Experts told the Huffington post that the happiest couples steer clear from sexting. They tend to send meaningful texts to their sweetheart instead. Unhappy couples are much more likely to focus on sexual texts.

Texting a female friend anything he wouldn’t tell you

Your husband is going to text other women. It’s unrealistic to expect him not to. But what is written in those texts is crucial.

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15 ways to ensure you don’t get taken advantage of

15 WAYS TO ENSURE YOU DON’T GET TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF
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People may be taking advantage of you without you realizing it. Be aware of the signs and what you can do to stand up for yourself.
Strength of character is a difficult thing to acquire. This might be why so many are prone to letting people walk all over them. “Pushovers” give up their will to someone else, and feel miserable in return. They are afraid to say no, or do things they feel to be wrong. They get taken advantage of and are often emotionally and physically wounded, and too often have difficulty bouncing back.
Here are 16 ways to build that inner strength so that you can stop letting people take advantage of you.
1. Look for signs.
If you are wondering about a person’s true motives and intentions, study them. How do they act? Do they sometimes seem like they’re hiding something? How do others see them?

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