WHY CAN’T YOU FORGIVE?
I always tell myself that when you live your life without anyone hurting, disappointing, disgracing or offending you, then it means you never did anything worthy.
I want to tell you that there are so many people who are buried daily, and their crime is that someone they offended couldn’t forgive them.
There are innocent orphans and street children out there whose crime is that someone didn’t forgive their parents.
The reality is that even as you read this piece, there may be someone you have blocked on WhatsApp or Facebook, or you have decided not to respond to his/her posts/messages and the person’s crime is that he/she is naughty, broke your heart, disappointed you or said something that really offended you. You haven’t been talking to your roommate, an old friend, a family member, your ex or that special friend, because they offended you and you can’t forgive them.
Yes, I really understand you, they hurt you. He/she is annoying, rude and not worthy to be part of your life. However, my questions are:
Do you expect someone to forgive you if you can’t forgive others?
Do you think you have never offended anyone before?
The beauty of life is that it comes with disappointments and offences from people you least expect.
Unfortunately some of us spend so much time on the disappointments and offences and end up becoming victims of all circumstances.
Remember this one thing always: Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, as Richard Innes rightly said.
The fact is that the world is full of annoying, naughty and ungrateful people; you will always come across them during the gentle stroll of your lifespan, but the best thing to do is to deal with them with love and maturity. You can’t get everyone to behave like you. Never!!!
Hatred and intolerance have caused many of the world’s problems and have solved none of them. We must learn to tolerate and forgive one another. We must bury the faults of others and move on with life.
As you read this piece, I beseech you to take the pain and forgive that special person you have grudges against and iron out your grievances. Muster the courage and apologize to that person you have offended. The clock is ticking, man is ageing, the grave is calling and we are not in charge. Life is short, you don’t know how much time you have left.
If I have at anytime hurt, offended, disappointed, disgraced, oppressed or cheated you knowingly or unknowingly, please find a place in your heart to forgive me. And may God Almighty forgive all of us!
Live life to please God.