A MOTHER’S LETTER TO HER DAUGHTER
Girl Child Unaware of Challenges Ahead:
Dear daughter, now that you’ve come into the world, beautiful and delicate, I must protect you and teach you the hash truth concerning the things which await you. You must keep your head up and put on your armour. You must stand and fight, little angel.
Women have fought for equal rights for generations. The battles have been hard-fought, but we still have a long way to go. Our victories are surrounded by uncertainty. Women from different calibers can tell of their challenges because it’s still just a dream. A dream which perhaps your generation will make real.
Because you are a girl and one day will become a woman, you have forces to fight. Pressure to overcome. Inequalities to push through. Stigma and abuse to endure throughout your life. You must gear up with confidence and strength and stay vigilant. Above all, focus on yourself first and seek guidance from Almighty God.
They have it all wrong:
Women are thought to be very strong but they are more fragile than a bird’s egg. They smile and hide their sorrows from their children and the world. They give hugs even with a hundred knives sticking from their back. They drown silently in their own tears. Only a woman can look at her child from her dying bed, wipe away the tears on the child’s face and tell them she’s okay.
Because they are the backbone holding a family together, they sacrifice everything to see others happy. Although their efforts often go unnoticed, they are like a nonstop clock, only better because they never run out of energy. “When the time comes, don’t forget to take care of yourself too, my little angel.”
Invest in Yourself First:
A trusting woman can spend the last penny from her retirement benefit to build the man in her life only to watch him walk out on her and the children in search of the woman of his dream. Left with little hope and strength, she looks at her children, smiles and assures them that it’s going to be alright.
She gathers herself together, gets down on her knees and talks to God. At dawn she rolls her sleeves up and starts all over – because she has the strength of a woman. “Never get into this trap my little angel; build yourself, you will never get disappointed. An independent woman is a powerful soul.”
Too Many Hats will Ruin your Hairstyle:
A woman wears many hats – a wife, a mother, a cook, a cleaner, a nurse, an organizer, a prayer worrior, a provider, among others. Some call her superwoman, others focus on what was left undone. She does all the feminized work done more often by women than by men.
She thinks, worries, pays attention and delegates but her efforts are largely invisible. She gets almost no recognition or pay. Everything overwhelms her, but she only cries when nobody is watching. She understands she’s the backbone holding her family together. “You cannot do it all, my little angel. Do what you can and never be afraid to ask for help.”
Believe in Yourself:
A woman supports and validates a man’s dreams but she has to fight for her own. Do not give away your power to someone else. You can do anything if you lead. You do not have to follow lest you end up falling off the cliff.
A woman loves without ceasing because she’s made of pure love. The heart has misled many; sadly some are not here to tell their story. Don’t close your eyes when you kiss a man. They shut your mind down if you do. Open them wide and see beyond the kiss. “If you ever fall in love, use your brain to love and not your heart, my little angel.”
Don’t Get Stuck in a Rut:
A woman is often mistreated, abused and stepped on. Sadly she forgives and hopes for a brighter day – because she understands that she’s the torch-bearer of peace and she cannot afford to drop it down lest it burns out. Never misuse your strength, my little angle. It is OK to walk out and close the door behind you. “I understand it might be scary but, remember, you are stronger than you think.”
Women are beautifully and wonderfully made. They are a masterpiece and not an object. You do not have to buy somebody’s love by offering your body. Once you give in, the desire goes with their promises. If anyone is worthy, they will wait and love you until you’re ready and of sound mind to know exactly what you want.
Take baby steps with life, little angel. Do not rush through. Don’t exhaust yourself. Live for the moment, put God first, do the things that make you happy and do not expect from anyone but your Creator. Climb to the top of the mountain first, then drop a rope to help others get there. It is not selfish, it is the way of life.
“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.” Maya Angelou. Remain under His wings, my little angel. You will be safe there now and after this life. I will not always be here with you; one day the winds will carry me into the unknown.
However, God will forever hold you in His arms. He is the one true God who is the beginning and the end. He is our Heavenly Father who controls the unseen winds. In Him we are safe in this walk of life and the unknown.
Keep this letter close to your heart and remember to share your wisdom with your friends. Tell them it is a letter from mothers to their daughters.