A BEAUTIFUL LETTER FROM A FATHER TO HIS SON
(This is a letter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist to his son. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, child or parent, son or daughter. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.)
I am writing this to you for three reasons. The reasons are:
1. Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable. Nobody knows how long he will live. Some words are better said early.
2. I am your father, and if I don’t tell you these, no one else will.
3. What I am writing out of my own personal bitter experiences perhaps would save you a lot of heartaches and pain.
Remember the following as you go through life:
1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility to treat you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don’t hastily regard him as a friend indeed.
2. No one is indispensable. There is nothing in the world that you MUST possess. Once you understand that, it will be easier for you to go through life when people around you don’t want you anymore, or when you lose what/whom you love the most.
3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you will find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.
4. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling will fade with time and with one’s mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient; time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don’t over-exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don’t over-exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.
5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, but that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!
6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support you your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport vehicle or in your luxury car, whether rich or poor.
7. Honour your words, but don’t expect others to do the same. You can be good to people, but don’t expect people to be good to you. If you don’t understand this, you will end up with unnecessary troubles.
8. I have bought lotteries for many years, but I could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!
9. No matter how much time I have with you, let’s treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we will meet again in our next life.
* Read it twice…
Ask your son and your daughter to read it thrice.
It is worth the trouble!