It’s exciting and fun at the beginning of any relationship, but there are also a lot of signs that can indicate it’s not going to be a good thing in the long run. The thing is to recognize these signals and get out before someone, probably you, gets hurt.
It’s important to understand that you will most likely have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince. It’s only natural and a good thing to date a bit to help discover what’s out there and what you really want in a partner. The thing is not to drop your guard and miss red flags in the quest for the best guy for you.
- If he lives at home, it’s probably not a good thing for a number of reasons. One is that he’s not really ready to grow up. An exception could be that he’s taking care of his mama or pops, but otherwise it could be a signal they’re taking care of him!
- He doesn’tinviteyou to his place. Chances are he’s hiding something, even if it’s just a dirty place. He’s embarrassed about something or hiding something.
- He’s moving in too fast. What’s the hurry? He may be too needy or uncomfortable being alone. Some guys need a woman to take care of them. Take some time to get to know each other before you move in together or become exclusive.
- He talks a lot about his ex. A lot of problems here, including that it may mean he’s not over her. And if he’s talking trash, that means he’ll do the same if you split up. Also, it’s a sign that he hasn’t taken responsibility for any part in the breakup. Beware also of any unresolved anger that he could end up taking out on you.
- He’s tooattachedto his parents. It’s great he loves and respects them, but he also has to be able to stand on his own and be able to make his own decisions.
- He’s just gotten out of a relationship. Don’t let a man use you to fill a void. There should be time between relationships to reflect and heal. Basically, don’t be there bound.