5 REASONS NEEDY ROMANTIC PARTNERS REMAIN INSECURE
Have you ever met someone who was so desperate for love that they would do anything to try and keep a relationship working?
A few years ago, I was that guy. Needy, desperate, and insecure.
My past relationships have not worked out. Even when my college sweetheart took me to couples therapy, she was sleeping with someone behind my back. My next partner was an avoidant, and could only love me at an arm’s length. It was just enough to keep the carrot out in front, but not enough to feed me the love I was starving for.
I felt broken. Flawed. Unlovable.
THE HUMAN HEART WAS MADE TO BE KNOWN AND LOVED
What were you made for?
You were made for someone to study you. To read you. To reflect on you. You were made for someone to be attuned to you.
Attunement is the desire and willingness for someone to travel into your inner world to explore who you are and who you are becoming. In a securely attached relationship, this connection cultivates trust that allows your heart to rest.
To truly love another, we must read them well. I’m not talking about the kind of reading where you skim to the parts of a book you think might be interesting, but the kind of reading that engages you in such a way that you are captivated by the story.