7 Powerful Yet Simple Metaphors that Will Change the Way You Think

7 POWERFUL YET SIMPLE METAPHORS THAT WILL CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK

Angel Chernoff

7 Powerful Yet Simple Metaphors that Will Change the Way You Think

A metaphor is not an ornament.  It’s a necessary lens of perception that allows us to experience and think about ourselves and the world more clearly.  Metaphors have a way of relating to us in the most profound way, by clarifying immense truths and intricate lessons in fairly minimal space.

Marc and I have shared the following metaphors and corresponding stories with our students, readers, and conference attendees dozens of times over the past decade, and we usually get thanked for doing so.  The specifics differ slightly every time we share them, but the core lessons carry forth.

My challenge for you today is to read the first metaphor below.  Then come back tomorrow and read the next one.  Give yourself a little extra perspective every day this week.  See how doing so gracefully changes your thinking from day to day.

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Emotional Immaturity: 7 Biggest Clues to Identify Immature People

Emotional Immaturity

EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY: 7 BIGGEST CLUES TO IDENTIFY IMMATURE PEOPLE

Julie Keating

Emotional immaturity has no timeline. If you live with someone emotionally immature, it is grow up time because you can’t keep doing it.

Most people think maturity is all about age. In reality, a true measure of how mature someone is lies in their emotional maturity. Emotional immaturity is when you have the emotions of a child, or the lack thereof. If you think you’ll change someone who’s emotionally immature, think again.

Seven signs of emotional immaturity in your mate

Emotional immaturity is not a habit you break someone of. It is the inability to grow up and see anyone else’s perspective. Although the result of many different things, like modeling, the individual’s personality, or sometimes trauma or negligence in their past, everyone grows at their own pace, and some people just never mature, period.

These seven signs of emotional immaturity let you know what their deal is.

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Abusive Wife: Is Your Wife Actually Abusive and Not Just Bitchy?

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ABUSIVE WIFE: IS YOUR WIFE ACTUALLY ABUSIVE AND NOT JUST BITCHY?

Julie Keating

Let’s be honest, all women can be abusive at times. If that is her standard, then you either have to say STOP or say goodbye to an abusive wife!

There’s an old saying that a wife’s job is to provide her husband peace, not pain. But, as any married woman knows, we don’t always do our job correctly. There are times when we can all be a little abusive in our words and our actions, especially when the stressors of life become too great. But, an abusive wife is a much different creature and something you don’t and shouldn’t put up with.

10 signs you have an abusive wife

Being abusive comes in many forms. Whether she withholds love from you, is an expert at silent treatment, verbal abuse, or physically abuses you, it is not okay. You are not to blame. If you are good with who and what you are, then you don’t have to stick around to take it. No matter what commitment you made.

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Love Is Patient Love Is Kind: 14 Rules to Experience True Love

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LOVE IS PATIENT LOVE IS KIND: 14 RULES TO EXPERIENCE TRUE LOVE

Julie Keating

Love is patient love is kind stems from the Bible. But anyone who has heard it has probably wondered how to truly love someone for better or worse.

Who hasn’t sat at a wedding and heard the reading that begins, “love is patient, love is kind” and thought to themselves that they could be a better person to their mate?

We would all like to be perfect human beings, but the problem is that we can’t always be. Except for Mother Teresa and a couple of other saints, we are all a product of human nature, which is not always patient, nor is it always kind.

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15 Cell Phone Rules Every Couple Has to Follow to Build Real Trust

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15 CELL PHONE RULES EVERY COUPLE HAS TO FOLLOW TO BUILD REAL TRUST

Samantha Ann

Cell phones are great but can also create turmoil for relationships. These are the cell phone rules every couple has to follow for a healthy relationship.

Since cell phones have become a basic human need, they have caused countless suspicions, fights, and even breakups for many couples. Although it would be wonderful to not need any cell phone rules every couple has to follow, they can be necessary and truly helpful.

Snooping, glancing over your boo’s shoulder, and knowing each other’s passcodes or not can be disastrous for a relationship. A healthy relationship means having boundaries but also trusting each other.

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How to Fix a Smothered Relationship: Pull Back & Reignite the Sparks

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HOW TO FIX A SMOTHERED RELATIONSHIP: PULL BACK & REIGNITE THE SPARKS

Natasha Ivanovic

Whether your partner smothers you or you smother your partner, you need to know how to fix a smothered relationship. If not, your relationship is doomed.

If you don’t do something, clinginess will destroy your relationship. Eventually, one partner becomes overwhelmed and unable to handle it. So, before it gets to that point, it’s time you learned how to fix a smothered relationship.

Because there’s always a healthy boundary to clinginess. You may be in a relationship where you’re feeling smothered by your partner or you’re realizing that you’re doing the smothering. These habits can be hard to break, so I’m here to help.

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Wife Material: What You Should Really be Looking For in a Woman

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WIFE MATERIAL: WHAT YOU SHOULD REALLY BE LOOKING FOR IN A WOMAN

Bella Pope

There’s tons of advice out there about choosing the right person for you, but this is what real wife material looks like. Find you a girl like this.

Finding that one special woman to be your wife isn’t an easy task. You’ve probably dated a lot of different girls and just couldn’t make it work with them. But maybe that’s because you weren’t looking for a woman who’s wife material but rather, you were just looking for a good time.

And there is a major difference between the two. While a woman who is wife material can certainly be super fun and a good time, the girl you look for JUST for a good time usually won’t make a great spouse.

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3 Regretful Lies (and Excuses) Your Mind Likes To Tell You

3 REGRETFUL LIES (AND EXCUSES) YOUR MIND LIKES TO TELL YOU

Angel Chernoff

The human mind is wonderful.  It’s also a good liar and an “excuse machine” that frequently tries to convince us NOT to take actions we know are good for us.  This ultimately prevents many positive changes from taking place in our lives.

But why?  Why does the mind lie to us and make irrational excuses?

Because the mind wants comfort, that’s why!  It’s afraid of discomfort, pressure and change.  The mind is used to its comfort zone, and anytime we try to stretch that zone too far, for too long, the mind tries desperately to get back to ground zero at any cost… including sacrificing our long-term health, happiness and success.

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Winter Dreams: Finding the Joy of Romance In Later Life

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WINTER DREAMS: FINDING THE JOY OF ROMANCE IN LATER LIFE

New love occurring in late age can awaken exhilarating feelings and experiences.

Shoba Sreenivasan and Linda E. Weinberger

Gerontologist Amanda Smith Barusch (2008) observed that romantic love in the later years (as opposed to early years) is “a force for change: romantic experiences define character in subtle ways; love opens doors to our potential, shapes who we become.” (p.4) Nevertheless, media depictions of love perpetuate “the myth that only the young and unwrinkled can enjoy romance” and, worse, that, “late-life romance is either comic or disgusting.” (Barusch, 2008, p.3) Baby-boomers, that statistically elephantine cohort born post-World War II, however, have re-defined each stage of life in ways that counter the status quo. This group is unlikely to adhere to social stereotypes of romance as a youth-only experience. In fact, older dating is a rising trend, likely related to the growing ranks of older singles in the U.S. For example, according to the data for 2012, one-third of baby-boomers were unmarried (Brown & Shinohara, 2013). Later-life love stories are not only possible but are common. In a national sample of older adults (ages 57 to 85), Brown & Shinohara reported the following statistics:

  • Approximately 14 percent of older unmarried adults were in dating relationships
  • More older men were in dating relationships (nearly 25 percent) than older women (10 percent)
  • Older daters had more economic resources, were in better health,
  • Men and women alike with greater social ties were more likely to date

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How New Parents Keep Their Love Alive and Well

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HOW NEW PARENTS KEEP THEIR LOVE ALIVE AND WELL

Amity Kramer

You know the times in life when things just don’t feel good? When you see one of those uplifting t-shirts that says, “Life is Good,” and you think, “Not mine, today is hard and I don’t like it.”

The Bringing Baby Home Workshop helps parents to prepare for those days. Like it or not, life as a parent is not always baby snuggles and Instagram moments. As a facilitator of this evidence-based workshop, I have the privilege of witnessing couples see each other in a new way, a way that is more clear and authentic than before. When that happens, couples intentionally take in more of that beautiful view, and they savor it.

I want to share some relationship enhancing strategies that parents learn in the Bringing Baby Home Workshop. These ideas are not unique to parents; all relationships thrive with a solid foundation and continued investment.

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