THE MAGIC RATIO OF HAPPY AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Whether it’s about not having enough sex, the dirty laundry, or spending too much money, conflict is inevitable in every marriage.
To understand the difference between happy and unhappy couples, Dr. Gottman and Robert Levenson began doing longitudinal studies of couples in the 1970s. They asked couples to solve a conflict in their relationship in 15 minutes, then sat back and watched. After carefully reviewing the tapes and following up with them nine years later, they were able to predict which couples would stay together and which would divorce with over 90% accuracy.
Their discovery was simple. The difference between happy and unhappy couples is the balance between positive and negative interactions during conflict. There is a very specific ratio that makes love last.
11 THINGS NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT NEWBORNS (THAT EVERY PARENT NEEDS TO KNOW)
You’ve read all the parenting books, you have the nursery prepped and your hospital bag is waiting by the door. But before you bring that little bundle of joy home with you, there are a few things you should know about newborns.
- They’re not as cold as you think they are
Imagine someone wrapping you in a hat, scarf and large fleece blanket when you’re already comfortably warm. Many people assume (for reasons unknown) their babies are freezing even in temperature-controlled homes. Sure, you want your baby to be comfortable, but don’t overthink it. If you’re not freezing, your newborn probably isn’t either.
TAKING YOUR SPOUSE’S EMOTIONAL TEMPERATURE
Call it sensitivity, call it being “in touch,” call it whatever you want – this small action will make a massive difference in the quality of your marriage. It’s pretty self-explanatory. If you want to be close to your spouse, you should take your their emotional temperature, daily.
Play (Emotional) Doctor
Doctors greet patients (for well or sick visits) by asking questions, taking vital signs, (including a temperature), and making sure that their patients are okay. As husband and wife, it would be wise to play the role of emotional doctor for your spouse from time to time.
DID YOU KNOW THAT HALF OF ALL MARRIAGES LAST FOREVER?
This short clip offers insight into some important statistics about marriage and divorce, and the importance of cluing in to the emotional bids of your spouse. We want to know what YOU think. Did you like the clip? Why or why not? Let us know in the comments below.