7 THINGS YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE MUST AGREE ON BEFORE HAVING KIDS
Make sure you tackle these tough parenting decisions before the baby comes. You’ll be glad you did.
Approaching parenthood for the first time is both an exciting and scary time in life. You can’t wait to welcome your own junior miss or mister into the world and raise them, but you’re also scared you might make some bad parenting decisions along the way.
You can help calm some fears if you realize that parenthood starts long before labor. It’s best to make these seven important parenting decisions together well before your little bundle of joy is born.
THE COUPLES COMMUNICATION GUIDE
Relationships suck sometimes. And sometimes they are mind-blowing amazing. Paradoxically, most of us, including myself, must go throughthe suckage of rewiring how we love to create the amazing relationship we crave.
I propose that love lasts when couples are intentional, deepen their capacity to be intimate and are committed to each other.
Intentionality: We often fall in love with someone and then forget to stand in love; to willfully create it. Intentionally loving your partner means being willing to cultivate emotional connection and spontaneity. This means prioritizing time together: dates, sex, conflict, and friendship.
3 TOXIC BELIEFS MOST PEOPLE THINK ARE NORMAL
Let me tell you with a quick personal story and give you something important to think about…
When I was in my early twenties, I had tunnel vision and expected life to be a certain way. I studied my failures until I lost sight of my successes. I surrendered my dreams to feel a sense of comfort. I held tight to my fears and shielded myself from love and happiness by refusing to put myself out there. I sat home most nights and picked at my scars until I saw no beauty left in the mirror. And as I did all of this, I desperately wondered why life was so miserable.
Obviously, I was very lost. My own toxic beliefs and ensuing behaviors had gotten the best of me. But after some extensive soul searching, lots of reading, and diligent daily practice, I learned to do things differently, and I found myself again. I tell you this because I know you struggle with similar inner demons – we all do at times. Sometimes the ideas and habits we get comfortable with end up killing us inside.