A Return to Who You Were When You Were Dating

A RETURN TO WHO YOU WERE WHEN YOU WERE DATING

Tawny May

Are you the same girl your husband married?

When we were “just friends” and dating, my husband would frequently tell me that he appreciated how “down” I was–ready for an adventure, chill enough to do nothing (when applicable), easy-going, and the antithesis of demanding. I took pride in that attribute and really tried to embody it in our relationship. I remember hearing him describe me to his friends, and I’d blush when he told them how good I was for him.

​We dated, courted, got married, and basically just swam together in a sea of bliss every day.

But you know how it is–life happens…you can’t stay in your proverbial Kauai forever. Years passed. Work sucked. Free time was scarce. A baby was born. Responsibilities mounted high.

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Don’t get married until you know the answers to these 14 questions

One Lie We Learned When We Were Younger that Still Holds Us Back

ONE LIE WE LEARNED WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER THAT STILL HOLDS US BACK

Angel Chernoff

“Starting over is not an option!”

That’s a lie many of us hold on to until the bitter end.

The idea of starting over being a bad thing is baked right into the fabric of our society’s education system. We send our children to a university when they’re 17 or 18, and basically tell them to choose a career path they’ll be happy with for the next 40 years. “But, what if I choose wrong?” I remember thinking to myself. And that’s exactly what I did, in more ways than one.

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The War of Independence In Relationships

THE WAR OF INDEPENDENCE IN RELATIONSHIPS

Kyle Benson

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The idea that partners shouldn’t be needy and should be independent creates a lack of security in the relationship.

Kim and Kevin were on the verge of breaking up. Neither of them wanted to end things, but they were exhausted from fighting and blaming each other.

Needy people do not have healthy relationships with avodiantsKevin values his quality time with Kim, and regularly organizes date nights for them. While Kim does find him sweet, she wants to spend more time with her friends. Kevin says this makes him feel lonely. This makes Kim feel suffocated and exhausted by his “neediness.”

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7 Healthy Habits of Happiness

7 HEALTHY HABITS OF HAPPINESS

Angel Chernoff

How do we heighten our happiness? There are many ways and one size does not fit all. Below I discuss a few key things that has worked for me and those closest to me – how a small group of us went from downbeat and drained to a happy and hopeful in a few short years…

1. Savor the joy of simple pleasures. – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free. They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times. They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness. It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love. Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.

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5 things I want my wife to know about her body

5 THINGS I WANT MY WIFE TO KNOW ABOUT HER BODY

Aaron & April Jacob
In a world full of all kinds of messages regarding a woman’s body, here are five things I want my wife to know about hers.
As a husband, I know my wife faces a lot of pressure when it comes to appearance. Those pressures are real, and they come from just about everywhere. Regardless of all the voices out there spreading innumerable false messages, here are five things I want my wife to know about her body.
1. I think you’re absolutely gorgeous

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10 texts a married man should never send

10 TEXTS A MARRIED MAN SHOULD NEVER SEND

Amberlee Lovell

They don’t feel dangerous, but these texts can completely ruin your marriage and happiness.

Men, you love your wife, and you would never try to intentionally hurt her. But these 11 seemingly innocent texts can damage, or completely destroy, even the healthiest relationship if left unchecked.

1. Checking in on your ex-girlfriend

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You Are Only As Troubled As The Relationship You’re In

YOU ARE AS TROUBLED AS THE RELATIONSHIP YOU’RE IN

Kyle Benson

All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the [person] to which we are attached by love.” -Baruch Spinoza

Meet Steven. Steven has decided to become a psychoanalyst. Before starting class, the graduate school requires students to spend a year in therapy.

Six months in, Steven was doing well. He showed signs of a healthy and stable mind. So much so that his assigned therapist believed he wouldn’t need more than a few years, compared to other students who need an average of four.

Then he met Leah. He fell in love within a matter of weeks.

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52 Best Dates for New Parents

52 BEST DATES FOR NEW PARENTS

Nurturing Marriage

We've compiled a list of 52 best dates for new parents - for every season of the year. A lot of these are things you can do at home, or with your new baby in-tow, but some of them need to simply be one-on-one dates, while a babysitter watches your new one (the baby will survive, trust us). It doesn't really matter what you do for date night, as long as you are intentional about making it happen.

Once you welcome a sweet new baby into your home, naturally your focus immediately shifts to keeping your little person alive. Your thoughts seem to revolve around making sure the baby has enough food, a clean diaper, and a perfect nap schedule. Somehow your marriage slips by the wayside and that new baby takes over as the #1 priority in both of your lives. It doesn’t have to be this way, though.
Although having a new baby can consume your life, it is so important to choose to take time to nurture your marriage. We’ve compiled a list of 52 best dates for new parents – for every season of the year. A lot of these are things you can do at home, or with your new baby in-tow, but some of them need to simply be one-on-one dates, while a babysitter watches your new one (the baby will survive, trust us). It doesn’t really matter what you do for date night, as long as you are intentional about making it happen.

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