13 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR WIFE WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS
Most men do hurt their wives in the name of correcting them. They speak harshly. They are so rash in their approach and can be very brutal.
Lots of women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the careless ways their husbands have been talking to them over time.
Here you will be able to know the right ways to talk to your wife without hurting her:
1. LOWER YOUR VOICE
Don’t shout at her. She is neither your housemaid nor is she a child. You can correct her if necessary, yes, but why shout?
2. DO IT IN LOVE
Correction should be done in love if done in any other way it turns to criticism and condemnation.
3. DON’T CRITICIZE
Stop criticizing her, rather correct her in love. Most will say it’s constructive criticism. True? It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.
Correction is the act of offering better options to mistakes.
Correction and criticism are never the same.
Husband A says: What manner of food is this? Is this popcorn or fried rice? How I wish I married a more sensible wife, with better home training, who can cook better.
Husband B says: Sweetheart, this rice is too salty and dry unlike the one you did yesterday. I think salt should be reduced any other time because of our health.
Husband A criticized his wife while Husband B, corrected his wife in love. Stop criticizing your wife!
4. PRAISE HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT
It will be wrong to correct when it is not well done while you don’t praise when it is well done. Form the habit of praising and appreciating your wife for good deeds.
5. DON’T DO IT BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN!
Avoid correcting your wife in the presence of your children.
Incessant correction of your wife before your children will make them disrespect her.
6. DON’T CORRECT HER IN THE PUBLIC
Avoid correcting your wife in the public, it does not show you as a gentleman, and will affect her confidence and self-esteem.
8. AVOID CORRECTION IN ANGER
Stop correcting your wife in anger – shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Real men don’t do that. Be a real man!
8. DON’T COMPARE HER WITH ANY OTHER WOMAN
In your thought of correcting her, you might have been comparing her with other women:
“Don’t you see what your friend is doing?”
“Can’t you learn from our neighbor’s wife?” etc.
This is very wrong; no woman loves to be compared with others. Please stop it.
9. AVOID REFERRING TO OLD ISSUES
Avoid referring to issues discussed and settled. Stick to the present issue. Discuss like adults and move on.
10. DON’T ATTACK HER WOMANHOOD
“And you call yourself a woman?”
“Virtuous women don’t behave like this.”
“You’d better change before I change you.”
This is very wrong, don’t do it.
11. DON’T ATTACK HER DIGNITY
“You don’t behave like someone with sense.”
“Do you think at all?”
“And you said you went to school, I doubt it.”
This is very wrong. If you are guilty of this, you too are not talking like somebody who passed through college.
12. DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE
Most husbands do want to correct in the heat of anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct; it will yield little or no result.
13. GIVE A HELPING HAND
The best way to correct is to lead by example. Step into the kitchen to give a helping hand. Don’t just sit in front of the television correcting what goes on in the kitchen.
Wives are doing a great job. Appreciate yours and support her to be a better wife and mother.